agreed, this is especially true in America, but racial difference does not necessarily imply a culture gap.Rakkie wrote:Just read the whole thread. As expected in a english-speaking forum dedicated to asian dramas the vast majority of people seem to be for interracial dating. I don't think that d-addicts is representative of the general population at large unfortunately.
A lot of people seem to be confusing cultural gaps with racial differences. Sure, there is usually a fair amount of overlap and it is interesting too, but maybe a separate thread should be dedicated to it.
see, that's where I disagree, I do think it's that clear cut. To me, there are no logical reasons to be AGAINST interracial dating, all the examples you gave were extenuating circumstances, and examples of why that individual personally would not date inter racially.Rakkie wrote:Here are some reasons why it might be okay to be against (at least some forms of) interracial dating:
1* interracial couples who use their relationship to make them feel morally superior to others. like people who will go out of their way to let you know how much better it is dating someone of a different race.
2* purely practical reasons against interracial dating. say you are a dark-skinned nomad living in the sahara desert. it may not be practical for you to marry a white girl if she was going to get sunburnt each day due to the extreme heat there. yeah, lame example, but i'm sure someone can come up with a better one where racial differences have a practical purpose.
3* people who date interracially to improve their own social standing. some girls i met in China would go out with white guys simply because it impressed their friends.
4* you might not be physically attracted to other races. since you don't really have conscious control over what you are physically attracted to or not, this is not the same as racism (although some people might consider you shallow). as long as you don't force others to adopt these values, i think this is a valid reason not to date interracially.
For the record, I do date interracially, i just don't think it is as clear cut as most people here seem too.
1. The same could be said for mono racial couples who go out of their way to show that they are Superior, this is a question of arrogance, not race.
2. in this particular example, assuming it's impossible to relocate to a more suitable climate for both of them, it's the climate, not he skin color that decides this. Dark skin GENERALLY means adaptability to hot environments, generally. but these days there are dark people who were raised in cold environments and pale people who were raised in warmer ones. human adaptability to climate does not change your skin color as fast as evolution would and the light skinned person may be just as use to the heat as the dark nomad. But back to my original point, even if they both decided against that relationship, Neither of them need to be AGAINST multiracial dating.
3. while you may be against to people dating purely to impress your friends, or against that particular couple, that is no reason to be AGAINST to interracial dating. besides, while I don't particularly agree with doing that either, what gives you the right to decide what's the right or wrong reason to date/marry someone? What about people who marry for citizenship? or money? are they wrong too?
4. perfectly logical. this may make you shallow, or it may stop you from interracial dating, but it does not mean you're AGAINST interracial dating. and in this case, people are often surprised at who they end up being attracted to despite the so called "standards" that they once had. Ex... If I was only attracted to girls with long hair, I may still fall for a girl with short hair, because you can't choose whom you fall in love with.
well, at least that's my opinion, I'm sure I've expressed it Ad nauseam.