there have been a lot of interesting points brought up....I think it would be hard to come to hard fast conclusions, ya?
Like the language/culture issue.
I'm eruo-american (i.e., white mutt
) and a few years ago I got really into Japanese-korean dramas, culture, language, etc. At first, my parents (who are rather conservitive by american standards) were pretty confusued. they wern't quite sure what to make of it
. But after a few months of hearing my talk about my new fascination, I was in the mall with my mom, and she was like - "Hey, look at that cute guy - I wonder if he's japanese or chinese?"
lol, now my mom is ALWAY scouting for cute asian guys- in the mall, at church, through friends, etc - even though I tell her that just because the culture intrests me, that doesn't mean I will only date asian guys. Truth is, my mom just wants to see me MARRIED. As long as I don't have premarital sex, she doesn't care what the race of the boyfriend is
On the other hand, my little 6 year old sister recently asked me if I was going to marry a Japanese guy (I was watching a drama at the time, which sparked the conversation>) When I said it was a possibility, she quiet seriously said she didn't want me too!
I was like, "Six is a little young to be racist!
" But when I asked her further, it turned out that - because her experiance was with my watching dramas, and the dramas are in japanese - she was afraid the guy would only speak japanese! LOL. When I assured her I would teach any future husband english, if neccesarry, she was quite fine with they idea
.....a few days later, she annouced that she "liked lee jun ki"
I guess, my pooint is - like others have been saying, it's going to be different based on who the individuals are. With my family, language and religion are important - race and nationality really aren't.
One more thing - some people said that if the guy REALLY liked the girl, he would stick up for the relationship. I agree. My younger brother, who was 20 at the time, started dating a 27 year old divorced women with 3 kids ( the oldest was 10!). He lived in another state, so we hadn't met her, but - My parents hated the idea at first. They thought he was too young, and taking on 3 kids, and a divorced wife, etc - they just didn't like it. Then my brother proposed. Within a month, my dad went to california to meet her and her kids, bringing stuffed bears for the three girls. Why? Well, I remember him telling my mom "If Billy goes through with it and marries her, these will be our grandkids....do we really want to be alienated from them? We raised him, maybe we should give his choice a chance."
My brother has now been married for over a year, and added a fourth little girl to the family. My mother adores his wife Suzy and her children - in fact, she will verbally blast ANYONE - including Suzy - who refers to the girls as anything but her grandkids. LOL. They may be an unorthadox couple, but are very happy, and now my family has all but forgotten they didn't like the idea at first. .....sometimes, you'd think THEY came up with the idea! maybe not all family will adapt and accept a foreign/older/whatever spouse, but they smart ones will realiaze that family is more important than social prejudices.