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joewong
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international student- are they worth dating or is it waste

Post by joewong » Dec 7th, '08, 17:12

would u date a international student u knew who was going just stay here for a yr or less. do ou think its worth the time , effort, and money. they be from korea, japan, taiwan,.....etc. i mean they would be leaving in 6 months, 1 yr or 2 yr and after that you won;t see em anymore and that ur just wasting ur effort, time and money.

i'm a cbc candian guy and i just find that if they just here temporary and not here long term what the point . i mean they will leave and if u do fall in love its so hard to get citizenship in korea and japan . its a big process and ur degree might not even be of use in japan or korea and u mioght have to do a crap job when u get there.

i mean you have to spend money on her if u ask her out and it adds up-movie, dining out....etc and then after a while shes leaves to her country- you don;t think thats a waste of hard earned money. its like all ur effort and time, money is loss


what do you guys think. would u date or would u not date a international student. reasons to as to why or why not.

i mean if ur just loooking for sex after 3rd date its ok, but are they that easy lol . the ones i met seemed pretty consverative haha

Sesam
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Post by Sesam » Dec 7th, '08, 17:45

Well I don't know how old you are, but I think it is generally a bad idea to date anyone who is still studying. After school things get more complicated, jobs and different interestests can make any relationship fall apart. Even then if you really want to get serious, many asians are traditional and don't easily go with someone western.

What I'm saying is that if you want something serious, the odds are likely against you.. But you know if you don't gamble, you can never win, so do what you feel like :)

Modvind
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Post by Modvind » Dec 7th, '08, 22:04

I would.

Actually, I wouldn't even consider the question you put forward. If I like a girl, I'll ask her out (eventually anyway, kinda a shy bloke at times...) If we end up having dated for a while, I wouldn't worry about her having to leave eventually before starting a steady relationship, you can't lose what you haven't won! But then again, I don't fall for every pretty face I see, and if I didn't love the girl, there's no point in continuing the relationship after she leaves. And if I did, well, guess I'm the romantic type: Love conquers all!

Actually, one of my best friends has a Japanese girlfriend that he met while she was studying abroad. They fell in love, and chose to continue the relationship, despite being on opposite sides of the planet. It can work, if you're willing to put in the effort.

If anybody are looking for advice, perhaps that's the real question they should be asking themselves. :-)

vancoland
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Post by vancoland » Dec 8th, '08, 23:12

I have a friend that was always hanging out with this Japanese girl in highschool. Admittedly, she was really hot and so was her sister. He talked to me on and off for about 5 years about his status with her (this being 5 years after she finished school in the states and went back to Japan). I just talked to him this past summer and he said she is now married to him. I really admire and applaud his effort in building this relationship. I know I could never pull such a thing off.

Retro
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Post by Retro » Dec 8th, '08, 23:25

I don't see why you would see it as a waste of money, effort etc.
Surely you date a person because you get enjoyment from being with them etc.
How can you convert that into monetary terms?

Is there a point you reach where you think "Hmm...I've spent so much on this girl and we're not married yet. Is this a waste of my money?"
If thats the way you think I would say you're quite shallow..

Do it...enjoy it...and if it doesn't last, so be it

sasukepanda
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Post by sasukepanda » Dec 23rd, '08, 16:34

if you're thinking about "wasting your money" then go get an escort instead.

It's true that you have to "bet", but it's not an "investment".

sharangeo
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Post by sharangeo » Dec 23rd, '08, 17:26

why not if it's hanging out? no difference among the girls...just relax pal.......don't feel like u are only the citizan and see another new comer conservative...it'll make u can't manage ur anger.......

serious or not serious, the secret of girl is in her heart................touch it pal.................lol

sasukepanda
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Post by sasukepanda » Dec 23rd, '08, 17:45

lol'ed at
the secret of girl is in her heart................touch it pal
for a moment I thought "touch her chest to feel her heart"

groink
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Post by groink » Dec 23rd, '08, 18:01

I'd date an international student purely for the sex. Seriously, life should be this simple. I'm not looking for a relationship, and believe it or not neither is she.

--- groink

sharangeo
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Post by sharangeo » Dec 23rd, '08, 18:45

sasukepanda wrote:lol'ed at
the secret of girl is in her heart................touch it pal
for a moment I thought "touch her chest to feel her heart"
yah u re right bro..that's what i mean.......... :mrgreen:

huycha04
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Post by huycha04 » Nov 29th, '09, 07:05

YES YES YES they are totally worth dating
im love dating them

woscarin
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Re: international student- are they worth dating or is it wa

Post by woscarin » Dec 5th, '09, 14:54

joewong wrote:would u date a international student u knew who was going just stay here for a yr or less.
I had this decision to make. We told each other at the start of the year that we weren't interested in being together for one year then breaking it off at bye bye time. It was either stop before anything starts or start something and have to do long distance for an unknown length of time after the year. I made the right choice in my case. We both chose the later and are still 'together'.

It depends on the two people. It isn't for everyone. It was for us. These days, with people traveling, studying and living abroad for short stints, this is inevitably gonna happen more often. Don't have to find love within your village anymore.

peshti
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Post by peshti » Dec 6th, '09, 22:45

yea why not =D

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