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gmak
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Asking a Girl to the Prom...

Post by gmak » Jan 20th, '08, 09:17

hey all,
i have a dilemma. how would you go about asking someone to the prom?
btw, this is for real. no joke.

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Post by Noale » Jan 21st, '08, 16:46

"Do you want to go to the prom with me?"
I'm being serious.
Follow your feet and you will not get lost :thumright:

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Post by Puppet Princess » Jan 21st, '08, 18:19

Noale wrote:"Do you want to go to the prom with me?"
I'm being serious.
Yup.... that really does work. Simple huh?

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Post by sahansah » Jan 21st, '08, 18:31

Ask! Why you gotta ask for? You TELL her "You. Me. Prom" and she will oblige like a good little girl
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I'm being serious
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Asking a Girl to the Prom...

Post by gmak » Jan 21st, '08, 22:41

geez...don't you think you guys are being a bit too aggressive?
i need a different approach.

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Post by Daijoubu » Jan 21st, '08, 22:52

well, is this a general prom question where you're gonna ask whoever you think might want to go with you? or...

you really want to ask one particular person?

in general, i'd say

incorporate spontaneity, be genuine, and if you can be creative (some kind of a small surprise), it wouldn't hurt

but it all depends on how you relate with this person right?
-Qwin-

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do you know her?

Post by jiraiyasama » Jan 21st, '08, 22:59

Chat to her get to know her interests and then be yourself in general conversation, girls like humour and be confident let slip in conversation do you want to go to prom, if she likes you she likes you.

If not she will say no anyway! So at least you tried!! :thumleft:

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Post by kozumifan » Jan 21st, '08, 23:00

yeah.. "would you like to go to prom with me?" "wanna go to prom with me? "

simple is best :)
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Post by sahansah » Jan 21st, '08, 23:18

Aggressive? ~ Geez how would you wanna go about it? Beat around the bush? Talk about the weather? Dude its all about confidence. You've gotta bite the bullet and ask. No point saying oh there has to be another way...another way? By the time you figure that out she would be married with Kids. Just ask her before someone else does. If she rejects you its no big deal. Theres like plenty of others. Just move on. The thing is you don't have to beat yourself up about it. Don't create a mountain out of a molehill. The sooner you ask the better before all the other good gals are taken! Because if you wait and try to befriend the girl the chances of her seeing you as a boyfriend will diminish so its best just to ask then trying other ways to "win" her heart as a friend.
Good luck! Courage, confidence maybe humour but just ask! The sooner the better before someone else asks her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I believe you have someone specific in mind? Well just remember her poop smells just as bad as yours...hell it might be worser!
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Post by groink » Jan 21st, '08, 23:19

This seems to be the time to deliver a piece of advice I received years ago from my high school speech teacher.

There are three big events in a woman's life: her wedding, her senior prom, and her junior prom. It is highly probable that she'll never get married. Therefore, her proms will be the major highlight(s) of her life. Therefore, you as a boy should make it a point not to make the prom a miserable experience for her.

You should NEVER take someone to the prom who you don't already have a relationship. This is because most boys will attempt to use an event like a prom to start up a relationship. Bad, bad bad idea! Proms are meant to be enjoyed, and not as a romantic experience.

People you SHOULD ask out:

- Girlfriend (not potential girlfriend, but a girlfriend you're already dating)

- Best friend. The reason is clear: you're already comfortable with her. Her wearing a gown and you a tuxedo does not change things a bit. If, however, you have a crush on your friend, DO NOT ask her to the prom.

- Another classmate. Even though you're not great friends with her, at least you've given her a chance to go to the prom. Upon arrival, the two of you can separate and mingle with the other guests.

- STAG! Why not? Although a bid is really meant for two people, there is no law stopping you from attending alone. Remember, the prom is just another school event!

DO NOT invite:
- Crushes. Period.
- Relatives
- Hired help, such as hookers and escorts
- Immediate family member, such as your sister or mom. You can get away with this on TV. Doesn't work out in real life.

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Re: Asking a Girl to the Prom...

Post by epi » Jan 21st, '08, 23:44

gmak wrote:geez...don't you think you guys are being a bit too aggressive?
i need a different approach.
well ... i don't think that asking "do you want to go to the prom with me?" is too aggresive
do you mean that it's too straightforward??

now groink has a good advice there on who should ask to the prom
and if you follow groink's pointers then the most likely person you should take to the prom are the ones whom u're already familiar with ...
if this is the case then asking "do you want to go to the prom with me?" will probably work
whether she'll accept or not that's another problem
but if u don't want to start with that question u can talk about something else first
then ask her do u already have a prom date?
if she said no then just ask her ...
i can say from a girl's point of view that straightforward and sincere question works best ... don't act as if it's a joke too
and saying "since i don't have a date do u want to go with me?" probably is not really appropriate unless the girl is someone whom you know well cause she might be offended thinking like what am i? a spare? 8)

last word ... GOOD LUCK and groink is right prom is most likely the highlight of a girl's life

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Re: Asking a Girl to the Prom...

Post by KO gaLent » Jan 21st, '08, 23:58

epi wrote:
gmak wrote:geez...don't you think you guys are being a bit too aggressive?
i need a different approach.
whether she'll accept or not that's another problem
but if u don't want to start with that question u can talk about something else first
then ask her do u already have a prom date?
if she said no then just ask her ...
i can say from a girl's point of view that straightforward and sincere question works best ... don't act as if it's a joke too
and saying "since i don't have a date do u want to go with me?" probably is not really appropriate unless the girl is someone whom you know well cause she might be offended thinking like what am i? a spare? 8)

life
take a chance, most gals can NOT ask a guy.
if you allow yourself the same heavy pressure she is most likely feeling.
if she has a date,guy, u can scout it out with her friends.
if she has few friends that you know, then you have shot she may be
open to your asking...
if all fails... you have gained pratice,
some1 will win, you get courage n can always go stag.

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Asking a Girl to the Prom...

Post by gmak » Jan 22nd, '08, 03:27

hey everyone,
thank you so much for your advice. perhaps filling you in on the situation will help.

she's a year younger than me, and we've known each other for a couple years. i don't really know her extremely well, but i wouldn't mind taking her to my junior prom. the problem is this...
to my knowledge, she doesn't have a boyfriend, but she does have boys who are friends, whom of which are very very close to her. to make things worse, i'm friends with her friends which might make things a bit awkward.
but i understand what you're all saying. go as friends and have a good time.
btw, i'm not exactly what you'd call adept in the category of dancing...so does anybody have any tips on dancing?

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Post by melica37 » Jan 22nd, '08, 04:26

groink wrote: There are three big events in a woman's life: her wedding, her senior prom, and her junior prom.
:scratch: I'd probably rank the birth of a child or earning a PhD resoundingly above the junior prom but asking someone you know that you are comfortable with seems like good advice.

And I'm all for a sweet direct approach when asking. :)

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Post by i4ybrid » Jan 29th, '08, 00:45

I didn't go to prom with a date. I just danced with the girls whose dates wouldn't dance with them >=D. If you don't mind going up to a girl and dancing with her..especially since in high school you know lots of the people around you, don't be distressed even if no1 says yes.

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Post by nankasento » May 5th, '08, 02:05

If prom is the highlight of your life I think you live a very sad life, unless countries that doesn't have proms don't have highlights in their life but I very much doubt that.

Go to the prom because you want to go, not because everyone expects you to. It's a meat market with supervision or that's the impression I get from what I've seen, in the media, and stories I heard from friends who actually been to one.

The sooner you ask the better, doesn't really matter in which fasion you ask it, if she agrees, then all is good, if she disagrees you still have time to ask others.

Like other said, you can always go alone, or, go somewhere else and party, it's not that big of a deal.

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Post by zippyflu » May 7th, '08, 15:04

i had a ton of fun at prom, and i went wit friends... sorrie to burst ur bubble, but if ur gonna ask some1 u like and the both of u arent dating, that feeling of one sided love(yes the really painful yet happy one) its gonna get worst...go ask a friend, even if its an ugly friend, go wit them.. or go wit some1 u kno that likes u.. at least they will make u feel special... think of it as revenge if u go wit some1 else other than the person u like.. (i did that to the person i was in love wit in hs, had the biggest crush on her for 3 years and she screwed wit me, so i screwed wit her back, but i think i eventually lost, dont matter i didnt just sit there and get screwed over) so just go have fun.. cuz at the end, when u go wit friends, u guys can talk about prom night for the rest of ur lives

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Post by buttercupsf » May 7th, '08, 17:38

To the sweet guy who started this post, how did it go? I really hope it went well. We don't have a prom here so I'm not sure when it is. Just remember, make her feel like a princess and it'll be a night she'll never forget! good luck!!

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