Posted: Dec 11th, '07, 00:39
lmao!!! hahah!! I guess my spelling is awkward. no need to make fun.bluespring wrote:^is that how they spell it now? cocasian instead of caucasian?
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lmao!!! hahah!! I guess my spelling is awkward. no need to make fun.bluespring wrote:^is that how they spell it now? cocasian instead of caucasian?
DMPA wrote:I think they do date Asian men, except we don't see it much cuz we're not at the right place at the right time? maybe? I dunno. I personally hate it how Asian women get cocasian men, while us, the cocasia women can't get ANY asian men. It makes me sad, depressed, and low on self esteem. (Well...Actually my self esteem container is always overflowing, but that's ok.) I just wish that the Asian men population took a look around them and saw us; the non Asian women who - I admit- sometimes wish hey WERE asian. T-T Notice me goddamnit! Notice meee!!!! lol! jk, jk. Look away, nothing to see here. lol. But seriously, I think Asian women don't date Asian men just because they don't want to. Ah! But wait!! Although Asian women don't DATE Asian men, they get MARRID to Asian men!! =0 Ta Dah Daaahhmm. Anyways, I really hope I did not offend anyone, and this comment is only my own, selfish thinking. SO if I did offend anyone, I am terribly sorry. So please, Don't tazer me! I DO speak English! (lol...wow...not funny.)
DMPA
I don't live in those cities...bluespring wrote:^do you live in the mountains or something theres tons of asian in ontario, montreal, toronto
OMG! Really? Jin???? I never thought any Asian male stars would actually have a preference for Caucasian girls, much less admit to it in public because the vast majority of their fans are Asian and would probably not like to hear that (and a lot of pop stars just say in interviews whatever the fans want to hear).melonyhappy wrote:hm.. lots of asian guys like Caucasians. (Jin from KAT-TUN, Brian from Fly to the Sky both have stated that Caucasians are their preference)
Bababooey wrote:Nothing. I'm sure an asian guy would be willing to date an average looking white girl but somewhere in the back of his head he's probably thinking he could just date an asian if that is the case and still remain in his comfort zone. It's not like they're in short supply here. If the white girl is good looking then he becomes intimidated. Hence that is basically why you never see asian guys with white women, in New York anyway. I'm sure if asians lived in areas where the asian population were low then they'd be forced to date outside of their race.nikochanr3 wrote:i've always wondered (in ny) why more asian men don't date non asian women. unless you are looking to stay exclusive race wise, there are a lot more NON asian men, than asiian men. so once you decide to not be exlucisve to asian guys, it makes sense a lot of asian women have non asian partners. the men don't as much though, which makes it look so strange. i guess the quesion to the asian guys (at least in my area is) what's wrong with non asian girls?
true.. well... i have to say that KAT-TUN's a bit of a weird group. they even admit that they fight amongst each other. They are manufactored, but their personalities... seem less "fake" than most? (like they don't hold back regardless if whatever they say makes the group look bad)Néa Vanille wrote:OMG! Really? Jin???? I never thought any Asian male stars would actually have a preference for Caucasian girls, much less admit to it in public because the vast majority of their fans are Asian and would probably not like to hear that (and a lot of pop stars just say in interviews whatever the fans want to hear).melonyhappy wrote:hm.. lots of asian guys like Caucasians. (Jin from KAT-TUN, Brian from Fly to the Sky both have stated that Caucasians are their preference)
LOL not everyone knows french in canada.. i only know a little (the basics)^that blows at least you know french, right?
i like how you feel lazy and just type vlokelaninyc wrote:Bababooey wrote:Nothing. I'm sure an asian guy would be willing to date an average looking white girl but somewhere in the back of his head he's probably thinking he could just date an asian if that is the case and still remain in his comfort zone. It's not like they're in short supply here. If the white girl is good looking then he becomes intimidated. Hence that is basically why you never see asian guys with white women, in New York anyway. I'm sure if asians lived in areas where the asian population were low then they'd be forced to date outside of their race.nikochanr3 wrote:i've always wondered (in ny) why more asian men don't date non asian women. unless you are looking to stay exclusive race wise, there are a lot more NON asian men, than asiian men. so once you decide to not be exlucisve to asian guys, it makes sense a lot of asian women have non asian partners. the men don't as much though, which makes it look so strange. i guess the quesion to the asian guys (at least in my area is) what's wrong with non asian girls?
agree! i am from nyc and a lot of asian guys are **** around other asians and shy around other races, unless they grew up in a v diverse area. the asians dudes that do date white grls are usually v confident and secure about themselves, but not in an obscene way..
most comfy asian dudes are ones that grew up in say... CT or some other suburb... they didn't have big asian grps they could "stick together" with
Jin from KAT-TUN??? i'm happy well, i'm white; other than that my ancestors by my mother's side came from Caucasia they were Caucasian Turks (not Russian) , which is known as Cherkes (Circassian)melonyhappy wrote:DMPA wrote:I think they do date Asian men, except we don't see it much cuz we're not at the right place at the right time? maybe? I dunno. I personally hate it how Asian women get cocasian men, while us, the cocasia women can't get ANY asian men. It makes me sad, depressed, and low on self esteem. (Well...Actually my self esteem container is always overflowing, but that's ok.) I just wish that the Asian men population took a look around them and saw us; the non Asian women who - I admit- sometimes wish hey WERE asian. T-T Notice me goddamnit! Notice meee!!!! lol! jk, jk. Look away, nothing to see here. lol. But seriously, I think Asian women don't date Asian men just because they don't want to. Ah! But wait!! Although Asian women don't DATE Asian men, they get MARRID to Asian men!! =0 Ta Dah Daaahhmm. Anyways, I really hope I did not offend anyone, and this comment is only my own, selfish thinking. SO if I did offend anyone, I am terribly sorry. So please, Don't tazer me! I DO speak English! (lol...wow...not funny.)
DMPA
hm.. lots of asian guys like Caucasians. (Jin from KAT-TUN, Brian from Fly to the Sky both have stated that Caucasians are their preference)
edit:
actually before i got into asian dramas, my perception are that.. (no offense) asian guys are too feminine/scrawny.... well after being obsessed with asian entertainment... i see Asian guys differently. Whereas i used to laugh at "fob hair" (long hair) now i'm gagahh..
It's just culture... I used to watch american tv shows.. and hollywood's idea of "hot' was embedded to me...and there aren't that many asian guys on tv. Then i started watching kdramas... many actors have a nice build...
now i'm into these guys w/ over tweezed eyebrows (KAT-TUN)
It's just personal preference
and there aren't that many asian guys in my city.... it's probably easier to hookup with a nonasian
I was bored today cause I ran out of drama's to watch so I read through this whole thread and this was the only post that made sense to me.Asian girls do date Asian guys
its just that somtime asian guy dont like some asian girls
BukHooKee wrote:Count the entire population of asians around the world, China alone has 1 billion. We asians are going to rule the world. North America is becoming asian one way or another and all this propaganda about asian guy stereotype is because these people are scared that I'm going to take over the world. Fear me! Oh wait, my moms calling me.Asian girls do date Asian guys
its just that somtime asian guy dont like some asian girls
haha... you are right. some asian girls do think too highly of themselves, i'd like to think i am not one of them.BukHooKee wrote: You "girls" think too highly of yourselves.
The same could go with any ethnicity honestly.HongKongChick wrote:haha... you are right. some asian girls do think too highly of themselves, i'd like to think i am not one of them.BukHooKee wrote: You "girls" think too highly of yourselves.
i just never met or gone out with any asian guy who took my breath. of all those asian guys that liked me or i gone out on a date with. none showed me anything i cant find elsewhere.
1. money. hell sometimes asian guys like to show off their wealth to impress a girl. i am not a gold digger, i dont require name brand stuff, so it's a turn off for me
2. looks. to be honest, there are a ton of hot asian guys around, just that when they think they are just too damn hot, and that i would fall head over heels for them, turn off
3. cars. yea, that goes hand in hand with the money issue. you all know asian guys like to either drive expensive european cars, or souped up hondas, well news flash, i dont think having ur daddy and mommy buy u a BMW impress me. and driving a souped up Honda with a big ass sticker on the widow that says "honda" or having kick ass rims, or big ass fart can dont impress me. if u got skills, do it right.
that's just a few things i dont like. but then again, there are good asian guys out there, i am just not lucky enough to meet one.
but same goes for asian girls too.
1. looks. she thinks she is so damn beautiful that all guys must love her.
2. money. she requires LV, Gucci bags to be happy
3. cars. she is like a raccoon, she likes shiny things
I think the whole idea of "face" in Asian culture is a big problem (I was raised here in Aust so that means nothing to me), since by that standard you should be buying the flashiest, most expensive things you can get, and show them off to everyone so that they know you are wealthy and therefore "successful". "Success" seems to be highly correlated with wealth, or at least visible, obvious wealth. Hence brand names and flashy cars.HongKongChick wrote:haha... you are right. some asian girls do think too highly of themselves, i'd like to think i am not one of them.BukHooKee wrote: You "girls" think too highly of yourselves.
i just never met or gone out with any asian guy who took my breath. of all those asian guys that liked me or i gone out on a date with. none showed me anything i cant find elsewhere.
1. money. hell sometimes asian guys like to show off their wealth to impress a girl. i am not a gold digger, i dont require name brand stuff, so it's a turn off for me
2. looks. to be honest, there are a ton of hot asian guys around, just that when they think they are just too damn hot, and that i would fall head over heels for them, turn off
3. cars. yea, that goes hand in hand with the money issue. you all know asian guys like to either drive expensive european cars, or souped up hondas, well news flash, i dont think having ur daddy and mommy buy u a BMW impress me. and driving a souped up Honda with a big ass sticker on the widow that says "honda" or having kick ass rims, or big ass fart can dont impress me. if u got skills, do it right.
that's just a few things i dont like. but then again, there are good asian guys out there, i am just not lucky enough to meet one.
but same goes for asian girls too.
1. looks. she thinks she is so damn beautiful that all guys must love her.
2. money. she requires LV, Gucci bags to be happy
3. cars. she is like a raccoon, she likes shiny things
oohh...bush beating...double entendre ahoy!Ethlenn wrote:And suddenly we are struck by a lightning in the middle of a sunny day, and all our rational, biased, childish, hidden, bound, twisted habits just disappear in the blink of an eye.
It doesn't matter what kind of partner we are looking for. And so what I don't find supposedly "hot" Latino lovers hot at all? Does that mean I don't date the Caucassian type? We're just beating around the bushes here.
By the by, Fantastical, your post looks like a poem. I told you once, start to write something, and maybe a Nobel Prize in Literature is waiting for ya^^
yup, you got that right. face. oh my oh my... hate it with a passion. i was born and raised in Hong Kong, so i am a native cantonese. but like u said, i was one of those who went overseas for college. my english is even better than my chinese, if u ask me to write an essay in chinese, i will say F*** you. hahahaaimlesswanderer wrote: I think the whole idea of "face" in Asian culture is a big problem (I was raised here in Aust so that means nothing to me), since by that standard you should be buying the flashiest, most expensive things you can get, and show them off to everyone so that they know you are wealthy and therefore "successful". "Success" seems to be highly correlated with wealth, or at least visible, obvious wealth. Hence brand names and flashy cars.
By that standard also, girls should be looking for someone who has lots of nice, flashy expensive things, because he is desirable and "successful". Or at least he seems/looks successful, which is the most important thing...
From what little I know about Hongkers, the people who speak better English are the native speaking expats or the locals who went to school/uni/lived overseas. Or you could always come to Australia (or Canada or the US or the UK). Never mind the dodgy accents.
So you only speak English? If you speak canto or mando then it shouldn't be much of a problem. Though I guess we all have our own quirks and things we can't stand, no matter how illogical!
i hope u are not saying i am one of those people who watched too much drama! given the fact that i was born and raised in an asian city, surrounded by only asians, and only spoke chinese most of my pre-adult life. HEHEFantastical wrote:
The same could go with any ethnicity honestly.
both male and female on any wavelength of the Kinsey Scale.
I think the thing people need to seperate the drama on tv from the drama of real life.
yes some sterotypes will come out. In a person but that isn't for everybody.
and we owe each individual to be just that.
an individual.
ANy person that watches a handful of dramas and listen to some music shouldn't consider themselves some sort of anthropologist.
it's rude and it's wrong.
God knows how many women I dated are shocked that I do not like certain hip-hop artist as if I failed their master plan in actual case I actually did.
I like metal, punk, and rock. I also like listening to classical music and some Mingus and Coltraine. SO when someone brings up R Kelly as if they know I like him when I actually hate his oversexualized, devoid of romance music I get furious.
yes .
furious.
We all do that from time to time.
Rie Rocket got name somehow
SO did B.M.W= Black Man's Wagon.
I'm a mini cooper man myself
The original Italian job with Michael Cane.
HongKongChick wrote:i even drift.
haha... hearing aid... hahaha...Fantastical wrote:HongKongChick wrote:i even drift.
Really?
No but we all do to some extent try to guesstimate the other person. like playing Marco Polo but given the direction to the wrong pool whilst forgetting your hearing aid.
Hopefully somewhere out there..perhaps in a town or ity nowhere near you some asian guy is thinking the same thing wondering where the hell you are at.
Internet porn is until you realize you are a voyeur with no danger in being caught.HongKongChick wrote:haha... hearing aid... hahaha...Fantastical wrote:HongKongChick wrote:i even drift.
Really?
No but we all do to some extent try to guesstimate the other person. like playing Marco Polo but given the direction to the wrong pool whilst forgetting your hearing aid.
Hopefully somewhere out there..perhaps in a town or ity nowhere near you some asian guy is thinking the same thing wondering where the hell you are at.
i guess i have high standards for asian guys. normally, the guys i dated all have an interest in asian cultures, and we can share discussions about cultures, politics, religions...etc, not just the weather. hahaa just that the asian guys that i have met (even my friends) are of the shallow type and dull, and with no real hobby (other than video games and internet porn).
i like to see a guy who is passionate about something, something real. maybe that's why i have always gone out with guys who are into cars, or music, sports...etc
then again, u are not most guys, u are different. and sadly there are not that many of you around.Fantastical wrote:
Internet porn is until you realize you are a voyeur with no danger in being caught.
Unless you watch it at Starbucks.
I stopped playing video games because I have been playing it since the Atari 2600 (just shouting out my age I know) and after awhile you get tired of the same characters in different skins.
Maybe it's just me but hey..I would ratehr just ath the cinema or read a book about the game. and if I am gonna get carpel tunnel I am gonna have more fun getting it the old fashion way before the internet
Yeah, the whole concept of "face" I find to be very shallow and fake and, to be honest, just plain silly. Doesn't matter if you're a terrible person as long as you have lots of bling.HongKongChick wrote: yup, you got that right. face. oh my oh my... hate it with a passion. i was born and raised in Hong Kong, so i am a native cantonese. but like u said, i was one of those who went overseas for college. my english is even better than my chinese, if u ask me to write an essay in chinese, i will say F*** you. hahaha
i just dont like that whole show off deal, so i got the hell out of there. i love hong kong, dont get me wrong, but i cant stand the people. even the ones at my college, most of them act just the same. i never liked to join their little groups.
i have never really dated a chinese/asian guy ever. always been non asian. not intentional hahahaahahahaha
every now and then, when i go home, i meet with these friends, all they talk about is what u do, how much u make, blah blah... what does ur boyfriend do....blah blah.. well i am sick of that. i vividly remember one time, i went back, and the same day i got off the plane, i went to visit my friends at church. i walked in, all of them turned to look at me. and said "oh..... you are back...... oooohhhh u have gained two sizes" well trust me, i didnt gain two sizes, i barely even gained a pound since they last saw me, but i wore loose clothing, but the point is that i just cant stand it.aimlesswanderer wrote:
Yeah, the whole concept of "face" I find to be very shallow and fake and, to be honest, just plain silly. Doesn't matter if you're a terrible person as long as you have lots of bling.
I am really glad that grandpa moved out here, I suspect that if I grew up there I'd turn out even stranger. For all HK's good points, Hongkies seem to be a bit, well, odd - though you seem to be a notable exception. I often wonder how my little brother ended marrying a Hongky girl.
Seriously, it seems like you have a real love/hate relationship with HK. Love the place, hate the people. Pity that you can't really have one without the other.
oh sweetie, i totally understand where u are coming from. though i am not a guy, but i have friends that are just like u. nice, honest, decent guys who finish last. but i always said that the nice guys do end up with nice girls because after all those fake beauties are taken by those bling bling asian guys, u are left with the good ones. u dont want to date those loser, poser asian girls anyways.wsim wrote:Randomly browsed the forums.... stumbled across this thread and found it fairly interesting. I am an Asian guy living in Canada but born here. Even still, I have a mix of whitewashed tendencies but more into Asian culture/entertainment (Dramas, movies, music, etc.) as well as hanging out mostly with other asians.
I agree that it seems like money, looks, status and materialism rank fairly high with many Asians when it comes to looking for a potential partner. Which I don't have much of anyways. I find myself attracted only to Asian girls.... I can't really explain why but that is the case.
Still, I never really dated any girl before, so I can't add much to this discussion. This may sound confusing or strange but I've always found myself the "odd one out" as many girls are not interested in me or screen me out since I can't speak or understand any chinese. I have liked plenty of asian girls but most of the ones that I'm attracted to are usually only into typical HK or other Asian guys that fit in many of the stereotypes listed above.
My problem is that I'm stuck in the middle. I get along much better as friends with more non-westernized Asians. There are some girls that consider me attractive but I have a hard time believing or justifying that, due to my non-existent track record of dating and any success with women at all. I'm just a modest, normal Asian guy that has never been given a chance by any girl (Hey... I could be a typecast character in many stereotypical drama storylines/plots, haha)
There are times where I hate how our society works, especially when I work hard, live an honest life, have good qualities/morals, decent range of interests (not video games, anime or "otaku culture") with nothing to show for it. Sorry for this long rant, I'm bored at the moment, lol.
yup yup yup. just like in alot of korean dramas, if a woman was divorced with kids, she is gonna have a very hard time finding someone who will accept her, or find a family that will accept a "second hand" woman. it's sad, but trueCherek wrote:Hearing and knowing the culture differences between east/west I count myself fortunate being born in europe. ppl here look less @ what you have achieved but more wether you can have a good laugh with eachother. Guess that plays a roll in relationships @ the east, where you a looked down on not only you but also you family background
Thanks for the kind words.HongKongChick wrote:
oh sweetie, i totally understand where u are coming from. though i am not a guy, but i have friends that are just like u. nice, honest, decent guys who finish last. but i always said that the nice guys do end up with nice girls because after all those fake beauties are taken by those bling bling asian guys, u are left with the good ones. u dont want to date those loser, poser asian girls anyways.
Yeah you aren't the only one.wsim wrote:Thanks for the kind words.HongKongChick wrote:
oh sweetie, i totally understand where u are coming from. though i am not a guy, but i have friends that are just like u. nice, honest, decent guys who finish last. but i always said that the nice guys do end up with nice girls because after all those fake beauties are taken by those bling bling asian guys, u are left with the good ones. u dont want to date those loser, poser asian girls anyways.
Good to know that I'm not the only one out there. Often, it really seems that way as almost everyone that I know have had relationships before or currently.
I just have to keep my head up and moving forward.
hell, it;s like thisFantastical wrote: It goes like this.
In a movie especially an action movie the default character white guy usually kisses the girl.
Black guy oh yeah...he doesn't even have to be the lead character but he is oversexualized.
But the asian guy...MAYBE a handshake then he disappears into the wind.
pretty much every american jackie chan flick, In the movie The One with Jet Li he didn't even kiss his own wife. Ninja Assassin......disappeared into the wind...
Yeah the media pretty much makes asian men into neutered. Except for Harold and Kumar movies.
Awesome.
unless the mexican guy is a teacher or commander of a starship escaping cylonsHongKongChick wrote:hell, it;s like thisFantastical wrote: It goes like this.
In a movie especially an action movie the default character white guy usually kisses the girl.
Black guy oh yeah...he doesn't even have to be the lead character but he is oversexualized.
But the asian guy...MAYBE a handshake then he disappears into the wind.
pretty much every american jackie chan flick, In the movie The One with Jet Li he didn't even kiss his own wife. Ninja Assassin......disappeared into the wind...
Yeah the media pretty much makes asian men into neutered. Except for Harold and Kumar movies.
Awesome.
white guy, always the lead character, gets the girl, beats up bad guys
Black guy, yea, total red shirt
Mexican guy, always the gangster, or in prison, gets killed
Asian guy, background.
but here are SOOOOO many awesome (i meant HOT) asian actors out there that can also kiss the girl... ah....
mexican as a teacher...um... rareFantastical wrote:
unless the mexican guy is a teacher or commander of a starship escaping cylons
asian guy is either the martial arts guy
the doctor
tech guy
or terrorist
But would just like to know what jackhole though that being asian would be a good idea of a costume to sell at halloween?
the first steo..it is gonna sound crude but...hetero asian male porn star.HongKongChick wrote:mexican as a teacher...um... rareFantastical wrote:
unless the mexican guy is a teacher or commander of a starship escaping cylons
asian guy is either the martial arts guy
the doctor
tech guy
or terrorist
But would just like to know what jackhole though that being asian would be a good idea of a costume to sell at halloween?
commander of a starship escaping cylons.... WHAHAHHAHA
heck, affirmative action doesnt just include black people anymore. maybe one day we will have an Oscar winning asian actor/actress.
if i dont have a costume for halloween, i can just wear my normal clothes and go as an asian girl! yay!!
OK.... um.... i prefer not seeing them in porn! AHAHAHAHAHAHFantastical wrote:the first steo..it is gonna sound crude but...hetero asian male porn star.HongKongChick wrote:mexican as a teacher...um... rareFantastical wrote:
unless the mexican guy is a teacher or commander of a starship escaping cylons
asian guy is either the martial arts guy
the doctor
tech guy
or terrorist
But would just like to know what jackhole though that being asian would be a good idea of a costume to sell at halloween?
commander of a starship escaping cylons.... WHAHAHHAHA
heck, affirmative action doesnt just include black people anymore. maybe one day we will have an Oscar winning asian actor/actress.
if i dont have a costume for halloween, i can just wear my normal clothes and go as an asian girl! yay!!
seriously.
the asian male has to be seen in a more predatory light in romantic situations
it tarts with porn...seriously
Bu tthe thing is this. Leadng men have ot be sexy right? rightHongKongChick wrote:OK.... um.... i prefer not seeing them in porn! AHAHAHAHAHAHFantastical wrote:the first steo..it is gonna sound crude but...hetero asian male porn star.HongKongChick wrote:
mexican as a teacher...um... rare
commander of a starship escaping cylons.... WHAHAHHAHA
heck, affirmative action doesnt just include black people anymore. maybe one day we will have an Oscar winning asian actor/actress.
if i dont have a costume for halloween, i can just wear my normal clothes and go as an asian girl! yay!!
seriously.
the asian male has to be seen in a more predatory light in romantic situations
it tarts with porn...seriously
Yeah, Hongkies are generally a bit strange. A nice place to visit though. No wonder you escaped!HongKongChick wrote: every now and then, when i go home, i meet with these friends, all they talk about is what u do, how much u make, blah blah... what does ur boyfriend do....blah blah.. well i am sick of that. i vividly remember one time, i went back, and the same day i got off the plane, i went to visit my friends at church. i walked in, all of them turned to look at me. and said "oh..... you are back...... oooohhhh u have gained two sizes" well trust me, i didnt gain two sizes, i barely even gained a pound since they last saw me, but i wore loose clothing, but the point is that i just cant stand it.
if it's not my weight, it's my job, or it's who i am with, or where i go to college... oh and one more time, i was about 20, went with some friends to a party, which was a highschool graduation party.
three guys came over to us, three girls, and wanted to dance. they chattered some and decided this one guy would dance with me, alright, not that i didnt know he really wanted to dance with my friend, but to be "nice" someone has to dance with me. ok so we were on the dance floor, arms outstretched. awkward movements. then some lady with flowers came by and asked my "date" to buy me flowers, he froze, didnt know what to say, so i jumped in "oh my sweetie already bought me some, they are with my coat now" well he was saved, thanked me. and i was in a "i want to kick u in ur balls" mood. worst part was? he asked me where i go to school, i said, i graduated. he asked what i was doing, i said, i was going to college in the US. he asked if i were going to Harvard, Princeton...
i mean wtf? i honestly wanted to tell him to f*** off, i really should have. i am sorry, when u have experiences like mine, and the ones i mentioned were only the tip of the iceberg, then u will understand why i dont date typical asian men.
they are odd. yes. a college professor once asked the whole class what they love about America. most american students said "freedom" even the international students said "freedom" well when it was my turn? i said "individuality"
damn straight i did. i do have good friends there, but really, generally, i dont get along with hongkies.aimlesswanderer wrote:
Yeah, Hongkies are generally a bit strange. A nice place to visit though. No wonder you escaped!
Hongkies?HongKongChick wrote:damn straight i did. i do have good friends there, but really, generally, i dont get along with hongkies.aimlesswanderer wrote:
Yeah, Hongkies are generally a bit strange. A nice place to visit though. No wonder you escaped!
they are a bunch of copycats stuck between chinese and japanese. no individual style, just copy...
....because she can not have a personal preference? I think that if some1 doesn't want to date a specific race it should be respected.whowhatme wrote:I get really turned off when an asian girl ONLY hangs out with white ppl and ignores you just on the basis of being asian. i think if you don't even give asian dudes a chance that isn't very fair
Dating is one thing. I can get that. But not wanting to hang around with others of your race...inda weird.. ONLY white people...that does get to me. I can understand if the neighborhood has like 3 people of color. One is your brother an dthe other is a douche bag. I get that. But like if there are other races. Hispanic, black, and other and you only ONLY want to be around white people? Like whoa? Do you believe what you see in movies? Are all black people rapper and gangsters? are all Hispanics dish washers and cocaine dealers?Cherek wrote:....because she can not have a personal preference? I think that if some1 doesn't want to date a specific race it should be respected.whowhatme wrote:I get really turned off when an asian girl ONLY hangs out with white ppl and ignores you just on the basis of being asian. i think if you don't even give asian dudes a chance that isn't very fair
LOL "Ask A Black Guy" like in the chappelle show!Fantastical wrote:Dating is one thing. I can get that. But not wanting to hang around with others of your race...inda weird.. ONLY white people...that does get to me. I can understand if the neighborhood has like 3 people of color. One is your brother an the other is a douche bag. I get that. But like if there are other races. Hispanic, black, and other and you only ONLY want to be around white people? Like whoa? Do you believe what you see in movies? Are all black people rapper and gangsters? are all Hispanics dish washers and cocaine dealers?Cherek wrote:....because she can not have a personal preference? I think that if some1 doesn't want to date a specific race it should be respected.whowhatme wrote:I get really turned off when an asian girl ONLY hangs out with white ppl and ignores you just on the basis of being asian. i think if you don't even give asian dudes a chance that isn't very fair
Diversify that cultural portfolio. The social default ain't best Just default.
YOu know what...I am setting up an Ask A Black Guy up in this.
Yes...on an Asian Drama forum of all places.
i agree! honestly i get annoyed too when asian girls ONLY hang out with white guys, and i really meant just white guys, coz really, how often do you see asian girls hanging out with bunch of black or hispanic guys? no much.whowhatme wrote: I get really turned off when an asian girl ONLY hangs out with white ppl and ignores you just on the basis of being asian. i think if you don't even give asian dudes a chance that isn't very fair
see? u said "if i date her, i'll slim her down to my size" shouldn't u like someone for who they are, instead of changing their looks? now, what is ur size? i am 5 foot 3, 120 pounds. well within my BMI standard, but of course with Asian guys being skinny (most of them), i am considered fat. i used to be a swimmer, the compete kind, for that matter, so i have broader shoulders than most asian girls. asian guys seem to think i am "butch" because i work out...PocketKiriyama wrote:
HongKongChick I seriously don't get it. You said those asian guys don't date you just because they think you're kinda of chunky? WTF?! Who care's if you got a little meat on you. If that is you on your avatar, you're kind of cute. This coming from an Asian guy. If it was me I'd say "If I date her, I'll slim her down to my size". Not that a little meat is bad but health is the best wealth.
that's BS. i hate those girls. if i reject, i reject nicely. and i will for sure take some good looking asian dudes!!!!!!!!! heck at least we will both like asian food, and i dont have to force them to eat what i cook. hahhaPocketKiriyama wrote:I've seen plenty times where instance of racial stereotypes were played out right before my eyes or even times when some Asian girls would reject and ignored my Asian friends in disgust...yes they didn't reject them in a normal sense which is fine because rejection is a normal process in dating but giving that look of like you've seen a pile a manure is pretty bad. Now they proceeded to hit on a few white guys who oddly enough was not as good looking as my friends. That hit me there. Nope they weren't acquaintance either because I can here their conversation. It was their first time seeing each other.
first of all, dont get all offended when i said "souped up". this term for me is when a car was only modified with a fart can, which makes ur car sound like ass, plus, it's all noise and no speed. a turn off for me. if u want the sound effect, get the whole thing done, sounds way better. or the car has those lights under the car, or big loud speakers, subs, or big shiny rims, all cosmetic, not real powerPocketKiriyama wrote:Maybe it is stereotypical but I love to drive fast and because of that I got into modifying cars. I don't like the word "souped up" as its a very ignorant phrase.
HongKongChick here it goes! I do own a Honda Civic. In fact I just bought one after selling my Toyota MR2 recently. Other than the obnoxiously loud exhaust I do love that car. I also own a Supra. Both cars are modified beyond belief. And I'm not a crappy driver either. I've had no moving violation or accident in over 8 years. Other than that I do practice kickboxing, boxing and kendo. I learned kickboxing from my dad because he used to be one professionally but I learn kendo on my own from videos. Thank you youtube! I just got on playing on the guitar recently but stopped as the strings went crap on me. I just got some new strings recently but never had the time to put it. Other than that I do the usual thing watching Asian dramas, animes, read mangas/manhwa/manhua, and listens to a lot of music on my spare time.
But I still wonder how I'm able to do all these hobbies even though I work 50-60 hours a week? Am I a workaholic? Nope I never liked doing overtimes. But there are a lot of things that I want and I've always gets things with my own efforts. When a guy pulls next to me with his new Lan-Evo or STI trying to race me. It pisses me off because I know there's no way this kid can afford it.
I listed all this just so I can ask HongKongChick.
So far do I fit in the normal Asian guys that you've seen? Or am I out of the norm?
PocketKiriyama wrote:I have to agree that Asian families usually do look at a person's background when considering marriage or just even dating.
My father was rich, but got poor because of war. Married my mom then came to the US after having me and my two other siblings. We were dirt poor affording only to live in basements, then moved to a trailer, and now we own our own house and very well off. Even in today's manure economy.
So just because a guy's poor now doesn't mean he will remain that way in the future and likewise a rich or well off family can turn poor as I have already experienced both through my father's eyes.
That was a long rant..........
LOL it was more of a joking comment mind me but really I mean I love to sweat it out so If I dated someone who was a little chunky I'd get her to work out too since having a partner to work out with is a lot more fun. I'm actually 5'3 also and about 105lbs. Almost all of my nickname starts with little. The only two things that makes me feel alive is driving fast and doing something that will make me sweat buckets. My younger brother was 220lbs. a few years ago I got him on a routine and now he's on his own work out menu and dropped to about 170lbs. He's about 5'8 I believe. My best exercise machine is the Dance Dance Revolution machine. Love that game.HongKongChick wrote: see? u said "if i date her, i'll slim her down to my size" shouldn't u like someone for who they are, instead of changing their looks? now, what is ur size? i am 5 foot 3, 120 pounds. well within my BMI standard, but of course with Asian guys being skinny (most of them), i am considered fat. i used to be a swimmer, the compete kind, for that matter, so i have broader shoulders than most asian girls. asian guys seem to think i am "butch" because i work out...
No actually I wasn't offended because you said it in a sarcastic manner. I was just pointing out why I don't like it when all these kids talk about it using that phrase. I stress the honda civic part because we get stereotyped when "modded honda civic" comes to mind. Actually my second car I bought was a civic which got stolen too! So mad! I put so much blood and sweat into it. Had a ls/vtec motor, wheels, suspensions, paint etc. only to get it stolen because my idiot brother couldn't take care of it. So mad at him too! I got back to the civic recently only because I can't daily drive the mr2 no more. I love that car but I really loved to take my two cute nephews out driving and shopping and I can't driving anything that doesn't give me the thrill. Yes I love kids but...I don't think I'm ready to have my own yet. I only got into kendo and jujutsu because I was a really emo back in 7th grade. The type that hates the world and being pretty good at boxing makes me a menace. But after getting into buddhism it points toward kendo. I've only started on jujutsu so I can't say i know it yet...maybe a few moves.HongKongChick wrote: first of all, dont get all offended when i said "souped up". this term for me is when a car was only modified with a fart can, which makes ur car sound like ass, plus, it's all noise and no speed. a turn off for me. if u want the sound effect, get the whole thing done, sounds way better. or the car has those lights under the car, or big loud speakers, subs, or big shiny rims, all cosmetic, not real power
second, it's not stereotypical to like to drive fast. i like to drive fast myself
third, there is nothing wrong with having a honda civic, i used to have a 2000 honda civic si, got freaking stolen.... but it was alll stock!
forth. learning kickboxing, boxing, kendo... not typical. most asian guys dont even work out. hahaha
to me, u are not the stereotypical asian guy. now i dont know you know you, so i cant say if ur personality is stereotypical or not. but as far as i see, you have hobbies, that's way better alot of other guys out there.
and like i said before, i hate when those guys try to impress me with their expensive, mommy and daddy bought for me, cars... hate it. even in my car circle, we dont like them. there was a good looking, rich white boy who was in my class, who had a STi, all modded. and he liked me alot. but ya.... no thank you. yea, he is cute and rich, which if i were a typical asian girl, i would have jumped him. but it was a turn off for me.
Yeah my parents are like that too. They are very understanding. They didn't even try to influence us into being Buddhist either. As they believe every body should walk their own path so I was a christian just until 8th grade where I converted to Buddhism after reading the book on Siddhartha. But my sister isn't having it good when it comes to marriage. She wasn't racist or anything but she generalized that Koreans or snobby people and she dislike them for that matter. Not to mention that stupid Korean kid that always pick on her and fight with her back in grade school. Somehow she met him again after so many years and now they've been dating for years and engaged. I actually don't like him either at first but he grew on me. I was just giving a hard time because he's dating my sister and as a brother I should at least do that much. The problem is that his parents want him to only marry Koreans. So they won't agree to the marriage or they will disown him. Of course he's going with marrying my sister. Where are you going to find a cute girl with a good career. Heck she makes more money than him and he lives in her apartment too. But Asians got some serious problems when it comes to dating and marriage.HongKongChick wrote: for me, i couldnt care less what his family thinks. and my family is not that typical kind, they dont care if i date a poor lad or not. all they care about is that he is a good guy, loves me, and has drive. nothing is worst than a guy who doesn't know what he is doing, and does nothing to achieve his goal.
i dont like sweating that much, maybe that's why i like swimming! hahahaha but i do the machines just not running, it's bad for ur joints anyways! AHAHAHPocketKiriyama wrote:
LOL it was more of a joking comment mind me but really I mean I love to sweat it out so If I dated someone who was a little chunky I'd get her to work out too since having a partner to work out with is a lot more fun. I'm actually 5'3 also and about 105lbs. Almost all of my nickname starts with little. The only two things that makes me feel alive is driving fast and doing something that will make me sweat buckets. My younger brother was 220lbs. a few years ago I got him on a routine and now he's on his own work out menu and dropped to about 170lbs. He's about 5'8 I believe. My best exercise machine is the Dance Dance Revolution machine. Love that game.
haha.. u know what we call those kids that are so proud of their "souped up" hondas that look like xmas trees? POSERS. to me, cosmetics of the car dont matter, if u got no skills or no power, u are pretty sad. kinda like how i like my men. i mean yea u can be so pretty on the outside, if u are just empty, it's a total turn off.PocketKiriyama wrote: No actually I wasn't offended because you said it in a sarcastic manner. I was just pointing out why I don't like it when all these kids talk about it using that phrase. I stress the honda civic part because we get stereotyped when "modded honda civic" comes to mind. Actually my second car I bought was a civic which got stolen too! So mad! I put so much blood and sweat into it. Had a ls/vtec motor, wheels, suspensions, paint etc. only to get it stolen because my idiot brother couldn't take care of it. So mad at him too! I got back to the civic recently only because I can't daily drive the mr2 no more. I love that car but I really loved to take my two cute nephews out driving and shopping and I can't driving anything that doesn't give me the thrill. Yes I love kids but...I don't think I'm ready to have my own yet. I only got into kendo and jujutsu because I was a really emo back in 7th grade. The type that hates the world and being pretty good at boxing makes me a menace. But after getting into buddhism it points toward kendo. I've only started on jujutsu so I can't say i know it yet...maybe a few moves.
wow, ur sis's boyfriend's parents are both korean? if so, so, they are pretty traditional. you can tell even by their dramas, if a woman is divorced with a kid, she is trash.... man, talk about close mindedness.PocketKiriyama wrote: Yeah my parents are like that too. They are very understanding. They didn't even try to influence us into being Buddhist either. As they believe every body should walk their own path so I was a christian just until 8th grade where I converted to Buddhism after reading the book on Siddhartha. But my sister isn't having it good when it comes to marriage. She wasn't racist or anything but she generalized that Koreans or snobby people and she dislike them for that matter. Not to mention that stupid Korean kid that always pick on her and fight with her back in grade school. Somehow she met him again after so many years and now they've been dating for years and engaged. I actually don't like him either at first but he grew on me. I was just giving a hard time because he's dating my sister and as a brother I should at least do that much. The problem is that his parents want him to only marry Koreans. So they won't agree to the marriage or they will disown him. Of course he's going with marrying my sister. Where are you going to find a cute girl with a good career. Heck she makes more money than him and he lives in her apartment too. But Asians got some serious problems when it comes to dating and marriage.