How do girls want to be treated by guys?
I don't know
and I'm a girl too. I always llike someone with a sense of humor.... But I guess every girl is different. I mean I could never fall for one of those "cold" guys in the dramas. I just don't understand how "cold" translates to "cool"
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Re: I don't know
\Erliana2 wrote:and I'm a girl too. I always llike someone with a sense of humor.... But I guess every girl is different. I mean I could never fall for one of those "cold" guys in the dramas. I just don't understand how "cold" translates to "cool"
true. but I guess it depends on what situation like that "cool" guy in Hana Yori Dango, Rui. Although he was "cold" he was more polite then Tsukasa who kept reminding her that she was inferior status.
um, lets see I guess a guy who has a sense of humour and who isn't narrow minded.
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girls like to be treated with respect ... don't like being lied to or used...
if you don't like the girl tell them don't hold it in long until it will actually hurt more if you said it earlier
don't use girls because their girls ... want them for them not their looks or their butt or chest
don't talk to ur friends about intimate moments you had with your girl and show off ...
do sweet things that you think about yourself ...not something you get from a website ...
if you love the girl say you love them ...
hugging a girl from behind is their weakest point ...^^ [[well it's mine ]]
talk to a girl ...if you feel that there's a problem don't just leave it the way it is ... because if there isn't communication or trust in the relationship then it's not a relationship...
don't ignore a girl in front of ur friends ...they hate that it's like you don't have pride or they're a shame or you're just trying to act as if your a playa playa =______=
and NO girls aren't like those booty girls in the videos ...they like to be treated with respect and don't yell stupid comments like "i'd tap that" or "oooo mammi"
o and don't talk about ur ex-es and stuff...same goes for girls
if you don't like the girl tell them don't hold it in long until it will actually hurt more if you said it earlier
don't use girls because their girls ... want them for them not their looks or their butt or chest
don't talk to ur friends about intimate moments you had with your girl and show off ...
do sweet things that you think about yourself ...not something you get from a website ...
if you love the girl say you love them ...
hugging a girl from behind is their weakest point ...^^ [[well it's mine ]]
talk to a girl ...if you feel that there's a problem don't just leave it the way it is ... because if there isn't communication or trust in the relationship then it's not a relationship...
don't ignore a girl in front of ur friends ...they hate that it's like you don't have pride or they're a shame or you're just trying to act as if your a playa playa =______=
and NO girls aren't like those booty girls in the videos ...they like to be treated with respect and don't yell stupid comments like "i'd tap that" or "oooo mammi"
o and don't talk about ur ex-es and stuff...same goes for girls
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hmm..great posts there is here.
i ono i just have trouble treating my ex like frd. i hate her i think. but i still love her which is wierd. and now im trying to treat her as a frd. that's really hard. i told her that. and shes like then dont be. and im like but it makes you happy so i will. she just went quiet. i assume she replaced me already but i have no way of finding out. i ono. maybe im thinking to much...being a frd but also having feelings at the same time to be with the person is very...hard.
i ono i just have trouble treating my ex like frd. i hate her i think. but i still love her which is wierd. and now im trying to treat her as a frd. that's really hard. i told her that. and shes like then dont be. and im like but it makes you happy so i will. she just went quiet. i assume she replaced me already but i have no way of finding out. i ono. maybe im thinking to much...being a frd but also having feelings at the same time to be with the person is very...hard.
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obanwan wrote:
Oh, the sexy "bad-boys". They are tempting, but for many girls, the appeal is that they they make us feel needed, as though we can be a rehabilitating forces on the road to good-boy status (has anyone watched or read MARS? Perfect example). However, I prefer nice guys--nice guys who still make me feel important, as though I am valued, but without smothering me. And what's more, nice guys tend to be more respectful, honest, and communicative. And less high-maintainance, too. Bad boys are exhausting...I'll probably have more to add later.Pft, I don't believe the girls here, everytime you're too nice to a girl she cheats on you with some **** that treats her like ****, so now I'm getting sure to be not too nice but be an **** often enough, I'm sure they love that way more than anything else.
Girls want to be treated with respect. That includes no lying, cheating, abuse, etc, etc. We want to be treated as if we are the most precious thing in the world, because we can treat our guy that way too. This means that although we are independent and have lives of our own, we have to know that if we ever needed you for comfort through the hard times, you will be there for us. The same goes for us; we will be there when you need us. We want to be treated as a friend, someone who you can tell your innermost thoughts to, someone who you can hang around with and just be urself, someone who you like having around through all ur life events. In general, we just want it all. No, seriously, though. Girls just want to be treated equally... well, at least this particular girl.
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just treat the ladies with respect but dont let them walk over you. the guys always have to take charge in the relationship...and i don't mean controlling the ladies...but make sure nothing goes wrong. cheating/lying aren't acceptable but a little mind game here and there is good...just to keep everything interesting and fun. girls should play hard to get as well...you give in too much...the guys will be bored...well...it goes both ways.
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i know how that is!!
right now i got a very odd situation and after reading those posts it seems like i can do something to make my situation better ..... and hugs from behind ehhh??? and this forum totally reminds me of densha otoko
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gaaah, i know how that is tooo, part of my odd situation right now....Hong.Mau wrote:haha when i read these posts it seems like i am doing everything right. but.. hmm...yet..working from being a frd to being something more than that...seems to be much harder...unless time is the only that's left.
these posts are great...thank you everyone.
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To be honest -
I understand why girls want to be treated with respect and love and .... but i think what is really needed in a relationship is a fresh and happy feeling.
I get bored if the girl isnt sharing my interests.. and usually it just leads down hill.
The thing i hate about some girls (And yes i realise i am going off topic) is when they act stupid to make themselves look "cooler"~
I just like a girl for who and what they are... you cannot come up with these foundations for what you NEED in a realtionship...
I think it all goes down the drain when you are in love.. so i say girls want to just be happy with who they are with... they dont need hugs from behind. (unless that is what helps make them happy)
I understand why girls want to be treated with respect and love and .... but i think what is really needed in a relationship is a fresh and happy feeling.
I get bored if the girl isnt sharing my interests.. and usually it just leads down hill.
The thing i hate about some girls (And yes i realise i am going off topic) is when they act stupid to make themselves look "cooler"~
I just like a girl for who and what they are... you cannot come up with these foundations for what you NEED in a realtionship...
I think it all goes down the drain when you are in love.. so i say girls want to just be happy with who they are with... they dont need hugs from behind. (unless that is what helps make them happy)
Re: i know how that is!!
It's ok man. i know how you feel i think.lowkickingninja wrote: right now i got a very odd situation and after reading those posts it seems like i can do something to make my situation better ..... and hugs from behind ehhh??? and this forum totally reminds me of densha otoko
Thank again for all these posts..it's interesting to read and helps out too.
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of course, every human kind demands respect up to the extent of what he/she deserves. but as to the concern, we, girls, ought to be treated like treasures… taking care of it and enormously elevate its value… and that’s how I suppose to a guy should carry out… but being mindful with this thing called *relationships*… it’s certainly the mutual feeling of two peeps were being neutralized intimately. it’s up to both of you on how are you going to build on your own scheme that your relationship will indeed last long… remember guys, once you do a thing.. it will definitely reflects on you, so better be cautious if you do have vindictive intentions with girls. I am certain, if not inevitable, that it will comes right back to you boys -*twice* as expected.
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Girls do NOT like it when a guy says "there's no point in dating if we don't sleep together."
Girls like to be treated chivalrously, but NOT in an excessive, ridiculous manner.
Also, girls like to be challenged in a relationship: no excitement if it's all "yes, dear,"....
In short, if you're a guy, I suggest you work on developping a cool persona, suppress the urge to blurt out your obsession with body and sex, and show the girl you like genuine interest and respect.
As a side tip, highly educated girls are usually looking for guys OUTSIDE of their academic/professional sphere. At least, that's how it is with my friends and I.
Girls like to be treated chivalrously, but NOT in an excessive, ridiculous manner.
Also, girls like to be challenged in a relationship: no excitement if it's all "yes, dear,"....
In short, if you're a guy, I suggest you work on developping a cool persona, suppress the urge to blurt out your obsession with body and sex, and show the girl you like genuine interest and respect.
As a side tip, highly educated girls are usually looking for guys OUTSIDE of their academic/professional sphere. At least, that's how it is with my friends and I.
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I definitely agree with you, Jeshka. I love watching "bad boys" from afar, but I would never date them. I think some of them know they are good looking so they tend to stray from their gf. "Bad boys" are nice for friendly dates, but not a great lifetime commitment. Also, I would like to add that having someone who is nice, respectful, etc...is great, but they also need to be interesting. I would want to be with a guy who makes me laugh, along witih other things that Jeshka already mentioned.Jeshka wrote:obanwan wrote:
Oh, the sexy "bad-boys". They are tempting, but for many girls, the appeal is that they they make us feel needed, as though we can be a rehabilitating forces on the road to good-boy status (has anyone watched or read MARS? Perfect example). However, I prefer nice guys--nice guys who still make me feel important, as though I am valued, but without smothering me. And what's more, nice guys tend to be more respectful, honest, and communicative. And less high-maintainance, too. Bad boys are exhausting...I'll probably have more to add later.Pft, I don't believe the girls here, everytime you're too nice to a girl she cheats on you with some **** that treats her like ****, so now I'm getting sure to be not too nice but be an **** often enough, I'm sure they love that way more than anything else.
- 1. just be nice. and no, don`t be nice just so you can get into our pants. be nice because you want to be friends and because you want to have a good time.
2. don`t be obnoxious. loud obnoxious guys are annoying and they suck; plus you don`t get any respect from anyone
3. cut down your ego. guys with big egos are obnoxious. see number 2.
4. just be yourself. this is so cliche, but i think anyone who tries to be someone they're not always fail in life you are who you are because that's how you were made. don`t try to run away from it.
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yeah, if you are our home country and we are in the army. we can definitely do that.DJ_Chopstix wrote:treat us with respect and loyalty. treat us like how yeu wud wanna be treated. be urself. as long as the person is true to me and is respectful and trustworthy..then its all good =)
i don't know about that, but you can't say 'always' even when you see 10,000 couples like that.lavender880327 wrote:hey guyz...
did u ever notice that the hyper active gurl always end up with a quiet guy
n the quiet gurl end up with the hyper active guy....
always vice versa.....
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I see many good things are already said here...
*Also agrees with the hug from behind =p*
It's the best hug, haha! <-Okay depends on the person acually ;p.
I also believe that is one of the important things, suprise her, I have to say I really like it when I get suprised. The litlle things like a sudden kiss or just a random show up. You could just show up at her place to check on her(not to much of course, just sometimes, you have to give her privacy, I mean I would find it annoying if for example everyday my boyfriend shows up..) But you could also suprise a girl with a present or taking her somewhere, you know.. But don't over do it, you should never spoil your girl to much, then it would just get old, receiving presents and stuff no?
^-And why do boys also ignore the fact this will cause a guild feeling?*sigh*
What kind of boys I like...
Well the badboys/arrogant boys only work in manga,manwhua,drama,movies,etc. that's for sure, but irl I wouldn't want to date them..
Funny guys are cute, shy guys are cute, smart guys are cute, I don't really know what kind of guy I really fall for ^^''... As long as they know who to get the romance going on!
I have to say I like guys that are a bit teasy.. It also shows their interrests and attention to the girl..
^-So tease a bit! But don't like give her a nuggie like you would do to your best friend ._.''..
And I like boys that are ambitous, who are for example really interrested/good in something, for example dancing,sports, playing an instrument, or just a subject like for example history.
So guys, be ambitous ^^!
I mean, if I ask a guy what are your hobbies and he anwsers sleeping for example, that's a bit of a turn off for me ^^''..
^- show her your ambition! But do not show off, and btw, burping ain't an ambition..
And well, also important, make a girl feel like she can do everything when she's around you, that she never feels unease and threath her like a best friend next to'' your girl'' ^^....
That she can always reach you, not that she gets scared off when you are for example with your friends and that she doesn't dare to come to you, oo no, she must always feel welcome ne?
And if you ever see her with her friends or you see her while you are with your friends, whatever, just never ignore her, or state that you didn't see her, that's so lame. It's already lame if you would do that with your friends nevertheless ''your girl''
Hmm dunno what more to say, or tips to bring, hope this post contains something usefull.. Hope it wasn't getting of topic, heck..
*Also agrees with the hug from behind =p*
It's the best hug, haha! <-Okay depends on the person acually ;p.
I also believe that is one of the important things, suprise her, I have to say I really like it when I get suprised. The litlle things like a sudden kiss or just a random show up. You could just show up at her place to check on her(not to much of course, just sometimes, you have to give her privacy, I mean I would find it annoying if for example everyday my boyfriend shows up..) But you could also suprise a girl with a present or taking her somewhere, you know.. But don't over do it, you should never spoil your girl to much, then it would just get old, receiving presents and stuff no?
^-And why do boys also ignore the fact this will cause a guild feeling?*sigh*
What kind of boys I like...
Well the badboys/arrogant boys only work in manga,manwhua,drama,movies,etc. that's for sure, but irl I wouldn't want to date them..
Funny guys are cute, shy guys are cute, smart guys are cute, I don't really know what kind of guy I really fall for ^^''... As long as they know who to get the romance going on!
I have to say I like guys that are a bit teasy.. It also shows their interrests and attention to the girl..
^-So tease a bit! But don't like give her a nuggie like you would do to your best friend ._.''..
And I like boys that are ambitous, who are for example really interrested/good in something, for example dancing,sports, playing an instrument, or just a subject like for example history.
So guys, be ambitous ^^!
I mean, if I ask a guy what are your hobbies and he anwsers sleeping for example, that's a bit of a turn off for me ^^''..
^- show her your ambition! But do not show off, and btw, burping ain't an ambition..
And well, also important, make a girl feel like she can do everything when she's around you, that she never feels unease and threath her like a best friend next to'' your girl'' ^^....
That she can always reach you, not that she gets scared off when you are for example with your friends and that she doesn't dare to come to you, oo no, she must always feel welcome ne?
And if you ever see her with her friends or you see her while you are with your friends, whatever, just never ignore her, or state that you didn't see her, that's so lame. It's already lame if you would do that with your friends nevertheless ''your girl''
Hmm dunno what more to say, or tips to bring, hope this post contains something usefull.. Hope it wasn't getting of topic, heck..
Each girl is different. <_< Asking her how she wants to be treated will help you...but then again thats just her.
Some girls wanted to be treated as if your spoiling a brat. Others want to be treated wth simplicity of life. Some. . .with equality. Whoever you want to be with, its just to just ask that person >_>.
Some girls wanted to be treated as if your spoiling a brat. Others want to be treated wth simplicity of life. Some. . .with equality. Whoever you want to be with, its just to just ask that person >_>.
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HM.. personally if i could make the perfect guy potion it would be this..
A sporty NICE guy with a little BAD-BOY behavior, we all lov that deep down inside hihihi...
A HONEST, RESPECTFUL, ans SMART guy that knows what he wants in life..
LOYAL.. NO cheaters allowed..
A guy who can protect us, and can make us laugh at the same time...
A sporty NICE guy with a little BAD-BOY behavior, we all lov that deep down inside hihihi...
A HONEST, RESPECTFUL, ans SMART guy that knows what he wants in life..
LOYAL.. NO cheaters allowed..
A guy who can protect us, and can make us laugh at the same time...
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Hmm, you were curious, huh? Well, girls want to be treated with respect, kindness, affection..that sort of stuff. Girls love attention..well, most of them anyway. Guys should always be lenient to girls, if they don't want the **** bitched outta them..hahaha ^o^...just treat them like how you would like to be treated..and you'll be fine!
^^ ya from what I've learnt never lie to them, that is a big no no... or well I guess that is bendable in how you word and present things give them the truth but be smart about it like some things requires you to be blunt other things you have to sugercoat.Yukiko_Chan wrote:Hmm, you were curious, huh? Well, girls want to be treated with respect, kindness, affection..that sort of stuff. Girls love attention..well, most of them anyway. Guys should always be lenient to girls, if they don't want the **** bitched outta them..hahaha ^o^...just treat them like how you would like to be treated..and you'll be fine!
Respect is one of the most important things as well, if you don't respect them you can't really expect them to respect you either (well unless you are the pretty boy/bad boy type but then getting a relationship to last is hard)
Don't try to show off as someone you are not. If they don't like you for who you are now disguising it and revealing it to her later doesn't work too well in the long run, since everything would just be built upon a lie anyways. (well I guess there are the odd cases where people do change)
Lastly one of the main things some guys forget give them space, everyone need their own space at time and everyone needs someone to be there for them (this goes for both guys and girls).
Hmm.. err I'm ranting too long I'll add more later.
BOW DOWN TO YOUR QUEEN!
hahahah. Just kidding. This is real life after all.
Treat us with respect in terms of who we are, what we look like, what we like, what we dislike. Some arguing is good because it gets boring if all we could do is get along.
HUGS are teh best! There's something about hugging that makes girls swoon deep inside.
Nice gestures won't hurt either. I find cooking really romantic and adorable. Even though the food might not taste good, it's the effort that counts. Flowers always work, so do little love notes. If you're tech savvy, text messages and e-mails are really sweet.
If you agree to see a chick flick, you get brownie points Ditto dramas!
Slow dance with or without music.
Most importantly, just be there for us when we need you.
hahahah. Just kidding. This is real life after all.
Treat us with respect in terms of who we are, what we look like, what we like, what we dislike. Some arguing is good because it gets boring if all we could do is get along.
HUGS are teh best! There's something about hugging that makes girls swoon deep inside.
Nice gestures won't hurt either. I find cooking really romantic and adorable. Even though the food might not taste good, it's the effort that counts. Flowers always work, so do little love notes. If you're tech savvy, text messages and e-mails are really sweet.
If you agree to see a chick flick, you get brownie points Ditto dramas!
Slow dance with or without music.
Most importantly, just be there for us when we need you.
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This will probably open up another can of worms, but this is exactly the "mysteries of the universe" type of topic I'm wondering about. What would be everyone's definition of "clingy"? I have a feeling it floats like a feather in the wind, ergo the problem.whisperss_57 wrote:do. not. be. clingy!
too many guys i know are clingy. its freaky o_O
Please no puns about using fabric softener in the wash either!
Clingy? I don't know guys like that, so I can't help you there. Controlling, yes, but clingy? No. Aquilo, re: metros, I'm not going to speak for every girl here, but I can tell you that it's a real turn-off for many girls that I know when a guy is more feminine than they are. XD Hygiene nonoptional, lol.
Somebody said hugs from behind? That was genius. It's true-- er, provided you know the guy. 0.o It's not really appealing when a stranger assaults you from behind. XD Bad boys, btw, are only amusing for about an hour, so for those of you already plotting in your little heads about games of "who can be colder?" and "let's play hard to get," don't bother. No self-respecting girl will respond to that. In the end, we just want to be treated like you do. Some tips, however, might be in order. Since everyone's given good suggestions, here's what not to do. Do not:
- ignore or abuse your love interest in front of friends, yours or hers. Just remember you'll have to face her when they're gone. :cackle:
- discuss intimate moments with your friends. She will have to meet them eventually, and it is not comforting when your beau's friends stare at you like they would a stuffed turkey.
- hold a grudge. You got something to say, spit it out. Sulky boys are not attractive. That includes her annoying little habits. Don't worry, she's a big girl. She can take it.
- cuss like a sailor. We like to think that our men have a vocabulary beyond four letters, thank you very much.
- call her names. No. Never. Absolutely not.
- belch. What can you be thinking?
- blow a fuse. Tantrums are not cute. Learn to control your temper or expect to be alone until you do.
- ever raise your hand against her. That's classless, and let's not forget... she knows where you live. :maniacal giggle:
- lie. We will find out. :cue Twilight Zone theme:
- spend more time in front of the mirror than we do. What, you think you're pretty or somethin'?
- try to be slick. Better to be honestly self-conscious than falsely charming, don juan.
- laugh at the expense of others. No, it was not funny when little Timmy tripped. Looking for laughs? Laugh at yourself first. She'll relax much more easily if she knows you don't take yourself too seriously (also, see stick in arse).
- demand. Your mama taught you better than that. It's "please" and "thank you."
- assume intimate moments will be solely for your pleasure or at your convenience. She is not just a pair of legs, and I'll be blunt, if you want to continue "getting some," you had better bloody well see that she enjoys it too, or you'll learn the hard way.
- assume she likes PDA. Some girls don't. Ask her.
Okay, I don't think that our man Hong.Mau is that old, so I'll stop before I get into the nitty gritty. ^^; Hopefully that helps a little bit, and if not, it was fun writing anyway. XD
Somebody said hugs from behind? That was genius. It's true-- er, provided you know the guy. 0.o It's not really appealing when a stranger assaults you from behind. XD Bad boys, btw, are only amusing for about an hour, so for those of you already plotting in your little heads about games of "who can be colder?" and "let's play hard to get," don't bother. No self-respecting girl will respond to that. In the end, we just want to be treated like you do. Some tips, however, might be in order. Since everyone's given good suggestions, here's what not to do. Do not:
- ignore or abuse your love interest in front of friends, yours or hers. Just remember you'll have to face her when they're gone. :cackle:
- discuss intimate moments with your friends. She will have to meet them eventually, and it is not comforting when your beau's friends stare at you like they would a stuffed turkey.
- hold a grudge. You got something to say, spit it out. Sulky boys are not attractive. That includes her annoying little habits. Don't worry, she's a big girl. She can take it.
- cuss like a sailor. We like to think that our men have a vocabulary beyond four letters, thank you very much.
- call her names. No. Never. Absolutely not.
- belch. What can you be thinking?
- blow a fuse. Tantrums are not cute. Learn to control your temper or expect to be alone until you do.
- ever raise your hand against her. That's classless, and let's not forget... she knows where you live. :maniacal giggle:
- lie. We will find out. :cue Twilight Zone theme:
- spend more time in front of the mirror than we do. What, you think you're pretty or somethin'?
- try to be slick. Better to be honestly self-conscious than falsely charming, don juan.
- laugh at the expense of others. No, it was not funny when little Timmy tripped. Looking for laughs? Laugh at yourself first. She'll relax much more easily if she knows you don't take yourself too seriously (also, see stick in arse).
- demand. Your mama taught you better than that. It's "please" and "thank you."
- assume intimate moments will be solely for your pleasure or at your convenience. She is not just a pair of legs, and I'll be blunt, if you want to continue "getting some," you had better bloody well see that she enjoys it too, or you'll learn the hard way.
- assume she likes PDA. Some girls don't. Ask her.
Okay, I don't think that our man Hong.Mau is that old, so I'll stop before I get into the nitty gritty. ^^; Hopefully that helps a little bit, and if not, it was fun writing anyway. XD
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Yea, I don't like clingy people either, boys or girls....If I think you're too clingy, I'd avoid you cz I don't like it when people are always around me..like give me a break people, geez, what if i don't want to talk to you today?snoopypal wrote:This will probably open up another can of worms, but this is exactly the "mysteries of the universe" type of topic I'm wondering about. What would be everyone's definition of "clingy"? I have a feeling it floats like a feather in the wind, ergo the problem.whisperss_57 wrote:do. not. be. clingy!
too many guys i know are clingy. its freaky o_O
Please no puns about using fabric softener in the wash either!
Also, guys look/walk/talk like they're aspiring to be a gangster bothers me alot
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Originally I didn't wanna start telling my life yet since I just joined this forum but this is important I guess.
3 years ago.. wow has it been 3 years already anyhow....
My first relationship, bah I'm not telling but ya I ended partly because of my fault for being too clingy, but ya like I said above/before, guys know to give girls their space.
or you will meet the same ends as I did...
(Ya I know I probably shouldn't be posting here since its suppose to be fore girls to tell guys how they like to be treated... sorry^^)
3 years ago.. wow has it been 3 years already anyhow....
My first relationship, bah I'm not telling but ya I ended partly because of my fault for being too clingy, but ya like I said above/before, guys know to give girls their space.
or you will meet the same ends as I did...
(Ya I know I probably shouldn't be posting here since its suppose to be fore girls to tell guys how they like to be treated... sorry^^)
ehm for me .. just treat me like you always do ..
if i dun like you .. well i dun like you ..
if i like you .. well i do like you =P
even if you treat me different from you used to treat people..
well .. you cant be expecting to live like that forever rite =P
so .. no point in tryin to be different really ...
unless you really want to change your self permanently..
if i dun like you .. well i dun like you ..
if i like you .. well i do like you =P
even if you treat me different from you used to treat people..
well .. you cant be expecting to live like that forever rite =P
so .. no point in tryin to be different really ...
unless you really want to change your self permanently..
she wanted everyone to know that she was taken maybeMythrel wrote: good job K_fan hehe. The key theme of your list seems to be respect .
I don't understand this clingy stuff lol. I remember my last girlfriend gave me grief for buying her a rose when I went to her friends birthday party, I'll never understand that one.
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Hmm..clingy? Maybe I annoy the hell asking questions all the time on some guy but is that considered clingy? Well...I hate to see guys forcing you to make out, PDA, that sort of things. I think if people really love each other, do they really need to express it in front of people who may be uncomfortable with it? Cause I sure am and some other girls may be too. So it's always nice to ask before hand on if they care about those making out, PDA things because some girls will just like to hold hands and get a little hug.
Also, it is not nice when a guy is not open to their feelings or act like a gangster or try to be cool..it's such a negative. They should be what they are and be more open minded to things. And good looking doesn't mean you're gonna get girls.
Ok, that's kinda off topic but, how I want to be treated is basically like a really close friend that you can trust and spill your problems and trust each other for opinions and comfort...a controlling man and a forceful man who doesn't express their feelings is a BIG no.
Also, it is not nice when a guy is not open to their feelings or act like a gangster or try to be cool..it's such a negative. They should be what they are and be more open minded to things. And good looking doesn't mean you're gonna get girls.
Ok, that's kinda off topic but, how I want to be treated is basically like a really close friend that you can trust and spill your problems and trust each other for opinions and comfort...a controlling man and a forceful man who doesn't express their feelings is a BIG no.
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From my wealth of experience you have to show that you are not only interested in "one thing." Which is difficult for men as generally we are interested in "one thing" alone before the relationship is established. Don't blame us, ladies, we are compelled by nature.
Girls like someone who makes them laugh, is caring, is confident and independent. Someone who is decisive - knows what they want but not arrogant and (I wish I'd known this when I was a teenager) is smart and clean. And someone who shows interest in them, is interested in them alone and makes them feel good about themself by their actions as well as their words.
So Ladies. Form a queue - the Prof. of lurve is here!
(But saying you know what they want, calling them "ladies" and asking them to form a queue goes against most of this advice! )
Girls like someone who makes them laugh, is caring, is confident and independent. Someone who is decisive - knows what they want but not arrogant and (I wish I'd known this when I was a teenager) is smart and clean. And someone who shows interest in them, is interested in them alone and makes them feel good about themself by their actions as well as their words.
So Ladies. Form a queue - the Prof. of lurve is here!
(But saying you know what they want, calling them "ladies" and asking them to form a queue goes against most of this advice! )
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Just being a nice guy pays off in the end...pubbie wrote:Girls don't want the overly nice guy. I know, because I was like that and LJBF was all I ever heard. Lets Just Be Friends. But please keep up the myth of the nice guy.
I was quite alone at school apart from a couple of equally hopeless mates. I was at a total loss with girls up until i met my girlfriend at 17. She saw that I was a reasonable person, and we ended up going out.
We've now been partners for 3 and a half years (and it looks like marriage is on the cards in the relatively near future!)
So for those guys that are always placed in the nice guy category dont worry, you'll find someone that sees that you are a good person in the end.
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MM.... what IF your relationship is long distance? I mean, how would the guy treat the girl this way and vise versa? i cant give her hugs and physical warmth. The only thing i have ever given her was a ring for our 2 months anni, a card for valentine's day and a song that i wrote for our 3 months anni.
I think iam kinda going off topic..... but like she hasnt really given me anything at all, no card, no ring, no nth. I dont expect much right. But i even bought lots of phone cards to talk on the phone which she hasnt even done. Is this how girls treat guys in long distance? like the girl taking advantage over the guy or sth? or am i missing sth? I dont even know the answer....
I think iam kinda going off topic..... but like she hasnt really given me anything at all, no card, no ring, no nth. I dont expect much right. But i even bought lots of phone cards to talk on the phone which she hasnt even done. Is this how girls treat guys in long distance? like the girl taking advantage over the guy or sth? or am i missing sth? I dont even know the answer....
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If you are dating long distance and you are not speaking regularly (and its possible) i'd doubt there is really a relationship to speak of. Sorry to be so blunt.
Nice is always a good way to treat someone, but you should adjust based on the person. Some girls want more attention, some less, etc. It varies. Not a helpful answer but its true.
Nice is always a good way to treat someone, but you should adjust based on the person. Some girls want more attention, some less, etc. It varies. Not a helpful answer but its true.
Doomstay I gotta be honest it doesn't sound to great. I guess its only a small amount of info you gave but from that it doesn't look to promising. Long distance relationships require a lot of trust. You may not be there physically but the idea is to be there mentally. If she isn't talking or giving you anything in return then I don't think it is working anymore. I believe you already know the answer, you just don't really want it to be true. Don't let yourself be misused ask her how she really feels and confront her on why she hasn't called you. If she is busy she should still be able to manage a few minutes out of the day to say hi :/
Some of the advice i read here sound like a broken record, to be honest i wouldnt take any advice from anyone under 20. I think that anyone still in highschool is under some complex illusion where everyone is in a social class. Almost every girl here has stated what girls want in a guy but the fact is that its what the poster wants. no matter how hard you try every girl won't have the same answer. I mean there are girls out there who are attracted to almost every kind of guy out there. Also i read a poster saying they always get lets just be friends no offence meant , but maybe you're shooting out of your league. No matter who you are you'll only date those that you are attracted to. Sometimes its only physiclly sometimes mentally. Either or both basicly. So if you really want to know how a girl wants to be treated just ask her im pretty sure she'll tell you unless you're a stalker.
I know way too many really beautiful girls who think they don't look good. It hurts because it's our fault, guys I mean.
We make girls feel like they have to be perfect. You know what I mean, flat stomach, big boobs, round booty, long legs, sexy lips, and on top of all that, they have to dress like a whore, and be one as well... nobody can measure up to that and its not fair because nobody should have to.
The little imperfections are what make people special. If everyone was perfect the world would be so boring, variety is what makes life interesting. So guys, stop making girls have to live up to your, I'm sorry, our... deluded fantasy visions of perfection.
We should realize that women don't exist to fufill our sexual desires. Stop talking to them solely to get with them, be nice to them because you want to be their friend, not because you want to hook up with them. Say nice things about them not to flatter them in hopes that you'll get some, but because you know they like to hear them.
In short, if you can make a girl feel good about herself you have become a better man. Simple as that.
We make girls feel like they have to be perfect. You know what I mean, flat stomach, big boobs, round booty, long legs, sexy lips, and on top of all that, they have to dress like a whore, and be one as well... nobody can measure up to that and its not fair because nobody should have to.
The little imperfections are what make people special. If everyone was perfect the world would be so boring, variety is what makes life interesting. So guys, stop making girls have to live up to your, I'm sorry, our... deluded fantasy visions of perfection.
We should realize that women don't exist to fufill our sexual desires. Stop talking to them solely to get with them, be nice to them because you want to be their friend, not because you want to hook up with them. Say nice things about them not to flatter them in hopes that you'll get some, but because you know they like to hear them.
In short, if you can make a girl feel good about herself you have become a better man. Simple as that.
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I say.. everyone should just be themselves. No games, no lies, no freakin' masks or fronts. Be real, and be true. If they don't like you, then keep in mind that eventually you will find someone that does. And when you do, you'll be one of the happiest people on earth. Also, it may be hard at times and it may be a long wait, but have hope.
Gosh I feel like I'm preaching. [hahaha] Well, hope these few words of "wisdom" (or of my theories) help at lease one person out there.. or here.. or well you get what I mean.
Gosh I feel like I'm preaching. [hahaha] Well, hope these few words of "wisdom" (or of my theories) help at lease one person out there.. or here.. or well you get what I mean.
why are guys trying to say what girls want? At best they can speak to what their girl wants...and every girl/woman I have ever known has been different in their wants and needs. Most of the women I knew when I was younger did not know enough about themselves or life in general to really know what they wanted ( and hey it was the same with us guys too at that age..say 15-30 ).
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Lim_Chori wrote:I know way too many really beautiful girls who think they don't look good. It hurts because it's our fault, guys I mean.
We make girls feel like they have to be perfect. You know what I mean, flat stomach, big boobs, round booty, long legs, sexy lips, and on top of all that, they have to dress like a whore, and be one as well... nobody can measure up to that and its not fair because nobody should have to.
The little imperfections are what make people special. If everyone was perfect the world would be so boring, variety is what makes life interesting. So guys, stop making girls have to live up to your, I'm sorry, our... deluded fantasy visions of perfection.
We should realize that women don't exist to fufill our sexual desires. Stop talking to them solely to get with them, be nice to them because you want to be their friend, not because you want to hook up with them. Say nice things about them not to flatter them in hopes that you'll get some, but because you know they like to hear them.
In short, if you can make a girl feel good about herself you have become a better man. Simple as that.
You're an idiot who watches too much TV. I suppose girls are also the victims of porn, and MTV is taking advantage of poor innocent little girls who are just too confused to make a proper decision.
For god's sake open your eyes to the real world. You see here on earth, most guys are attracted to girls who are in okay shape. In other words, the only thing she has to do, is not gain too much weight (don't have to be a size 0, but just not a complete fatass, not really such a hard thing to do). Don't believe me? Go and find a few average girls on the street and just ask them how often guys try to pick them up. Chances are, it is a pretty common thing for them (doesn't happen ten times a day, but most likely a good number of times a year or even a month). And no I'm not talking about super models, I'm talking about average girls.
It isn't guys who hold women to such high standards, it's the few people who control the media. Why? To make money of course. Cosmo's tips to stay young and beautiful, in style magazines to dress hot (and a variety of other magazines who's names I'm not familiar with), and even men's magazines like stuff. They are all there to attract women and make them want to aspire to be like the cover girls.
Guys don't force girls to take pictures with almost nothing on, guys don't force girls to buy that crap read it and sulk over the fact that they don't look like the girls on the cover, and guys don't directly walk up to girls and tell them about their imperfections.
Studies show that in the real world, the average girl holds the average guy to much higher standards (physical and emotional) than he holds her to (don't feel like posting them google it).
I agreed with that, and I think guys also like to be treated the same way....though you have disagreements at times, but that doesn't mean you don't love and cherish them ....Jeremiah wrote:I'm not a girl but I know that most girls want to be treated with respect and kindness and with love. They want to be cherished.
I second that...Posted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 12:04 am Post subject:
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I say.. everyone should just be themselves. No games, no lies, no freakin' masks or fronts. Be real, and be true. If they don't like you, then keep in mind that eventually you will find someone that does. And when you do, you'll be one of the happiest people on earth. Also, it may be hard at times and it may be a long wait, but have hope.
Well if anyone ask me.. i prefer the guy to be honest with his personality. Dont have to pretend to be cool or loving on the first few dates but later change leaf into a total jerk. That way i can fall in love (in romantic or friendly manner) with him and not to his made up scripted character.
I cannot speak for all the girls but i guess most girls like a guy who can make them laugh.
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It's not that I watch television too much it's because I go clubbing too much! But, thank you for your advice I'm sure that in the real world I don't look at the most prettiest girl wherever I am at and then turn to my friends and exclaim "Damn, she must be SMART!"
Face the truth and acknowledge that men everywhere uphold these truths to be self-evident. Guys simply want the hottest girl.
At any rate I only said that we should change our way of thinking so that we don't force girls to always feel unpretty that's all. Nothing more nothing less and if you have a problem with that I can give you my address and we can discuss this mano y mano. Comprende? ( I mean e-mail addresses. )
Mattaku, hayaku kotaero. =]
Face the truth and acknowledge that men everywhere uphold these truths to be self-evident. Guys simply want the hottest girl.
At any rate I only said that we should change our way of thinking so that we don't force girls to always feel unpretty that's all. Nothing more nothing less and if you have a problem with that I can give you my address and we can discuss this mano y mano. Comprende? ( I mean e-mail addresses. )
Mattaku, hayaku kotaero. =]
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Excellent information ladies and gentlemens. I could use that Hug in the back technique on a lady if i see one that deserves it. I wonder what she'll do? She'll probably hug back dont you think? Sorry for thread crapping people, but i just cant help it. This is getting pretty lousy because most of the ladies said the same thing. I hope all the ladies would fall from this earth because i would never have to think what my future wife would be. Argggg. For me, i prefer a men...ooops, i mean someone(lady) who would be there when i have a strong preasure(gas) building up in my belly. Sorry again for threap crapping people. I do have a question though! What other weakpoints do you ladies have other than the hug in the back someone mentioned earlier? Sorry to ruin have had ruin this for some of you.
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