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Post by Schala » Oct 5th, '05, 21:32

kali4niaguy wrote:you're a gal and you actually start the conversation with the guys? :notworthy: I wish there were girls like you around here. :D
Well, I tend to go after friends. I start hanging out with a guy, get to know him a little, and then I may ask him out if I am interested in more than friendship. I don't just walk up to strangers and ask them out. I am weird. Most people meet others in bars, clubs, etc. for dates, but I don't do that. I don't like the idea of going on a date with someone I know absolutely NOTHING about. I don't trust people so easily. But if I get to know the guy a little, then I develop some trust, then I may want to pursue more than just friendship. Unfortunately, I guess by the time I am ready, or start to develop interests in a guy, I've already entered the 'Friend Zone' and that's where I stay. It's like, once I enter that zone, I can not leave or something.

Guys tend to view me as just a good friend. I have a lot of male friends, and only one female friend. I generally get along better with guys too. I dunno. I always thought I'd be perfect girlfriend material, because I lack a lot of the annoying female qualities that guys complain about their girlfriends over. (I'm straight forward, I don't play mind games, I don't like "chick flicks", etc.) But apparently, lacking those qualities makes me just a good buddy? I have no idea. It's so frustrating. T_T

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Post by Dodbos » Oct 5th, '05, 21:50

Schala wrote:
kali4niaguy wrote:you're a gal and you actually start the conversation with the guys? :notworthy: I wish there were girls like you around here. :D
Well, I tend to go after friends. I start hanging out with a guy, get to know him a little, and then I may ask him out if I am interested in more than friendship. I don't just walk up to strangers and ask them out. I am weird. Most people meet others in bars, clubs, etc. for dates, but I don't do that. I don't like the idea of going on a date with someone I know absolutely NOTHING about. I don't trust people so easily. But if I get to know the guy a little, then I develop some trust, then I may want to pursue more than just friendship. Unfortunately, I guess by the time I am ready, or start to develop interests in a guy, I've already entered the 'Friend Zone' and that's where I stay. It's like, once I enter that zone, I can not leave or something.

Guys tend to view me as just a good friend. I have a lot of male friends, and only one female friend. I generally get along better with guys too. I dunno. I always thought I'd be perfect girlfriend material, because I lack a lot of the annoying female qualities that guys complain about their girlfriends over. (I'm straight forward, I don't play mind games, I don't like "chick flicks", etc.) But apparently, lacking those qualities makes me just a good buddy? I have no idea. It's so frustrating. T_T
Maybe some guys like girls with those qualities. I'm not saying that we look for those qualities, but you get use to those annoying qualities. That's why people stay together, not only because they're are things you like about the person, but that you can be with that person even with qualities you find annoying. maybe you should mix it up, or find men who like straight forward women who don't play mind games who also don't want to watch chic flicks with their women.

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Post by Cloud James Lionheart » Oct 5th, '05, 21:55

hey how is everyone, i was so close to talk to her today... but my freinds got in the way with there shouting of gibberish, so i backed out...=[ so whats been happening, anything interesting..? i found out that my freinds actually knows, that japanese girls freinds, he told me he can tell her freinds that i like the japanese girl, but i didnt accept it because, i think i should do this on my own accord right?

well i hope everyone is alright,
my courage is getting higher and higher eachday.

cloud

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Post by (-Oni-Kazuki-) » Oct 5th, '05, 22:17

haha long time no see good old thread... its been awhile... since i last came on here.. last time i think was 30 sumtin or less... but yea now its at 41.. holy moly.... this thread grows fast!
so... any1 care to sum up the topic(s) for me?
i dont feel like reading 10+ pages.. lol... hahaha

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Post by freshsay » Oct 5th, '05, 23:04

Its up to you cloud, but don't you think having your friend let her friends know will generate some sorta excitement and will save you from going back and forth >!
So what about the other chick or the other classmate lol so confusing

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 5th, '05, 23:36

Mythrel wrote:Having support is always great. Sometimes friends give you that leg to stand on and it can make great things happen. Its good to see this community is so open to other peoples relationships and hardships. <--I stand corrected natnat

I think its wrong to say if a man doesn't ask a women out they are ignorant. I can't actually find the words. You maybe have a easier time talking to someone and popping the question but I can't. I have had a few girlfriends in my lifetime so far and all of them have asked me out . Even if I wanted to tell them I couldn't. I usually just shut down mid-sentance and have no clue what I was just talking about the minute before. At that point you are pretty much screwed because there is no way to get out of that one :lol Never a good impression. I think it can be true you won't tell the person your true feelings because it could hurt the friendship. You can never go back once you bring it up and if it doesn't go your way well, there goes that friend. Even if they don't leave your life the chance you will still remain as close of friends as you were is slim. Not saying it hasn't happened before I just haven't seen it. I have not seen 100 of them for an exact stat though lol. Its a tough choice, I have been pondering the thought for a while lol.
i myself had experienced the very same thing in junior high, there was a girl in my class who was kind what close to me. I tend to explain and confide myself to her sometimes. stuff that i didn't want to talk about to other friends who were more of those type. sometimes one has a virtue for being the one who's always open for complaining and stuff about life.

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i think you are one of those types who tends to have such gift. but often they will have more of a peaceful life than a exhuasting one. having accepted as a girlfriend, getting in to inevitable argue and some unavoidable misunderstanding. does that sound good to you? i think not. I think being a free lancer will have more freedom and time for life.

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i am very sorry to hear that. i am 17 too and shame to say. i've only dated twice. The first time was when i first got into highschool and this really pretty girl who is better than me in every possible way told me she likes 3 guys and one of them is me. instead of asking me out, she asked who should i go out with!? o.O lol so I yelled out my name straight away and that's how she went out with me. we didn't do actually do anything, just went to skate(although i didn't really enjoyed as much as i would since she brought 2 girls who's really close to her. i talk to them but i didn't really know them until afterward.) Up to here, all events had taken place in china and now i am in United States. everything changed dramatically and therefore stuff relationship and their way of looking at stuff completely changed. so i think what u should really do is work up your courage and start talking to them as a friend and if you see some interesting characteristic within them. then ask them out. :D

Cloud James Lionheart~~ or cloud
Good luck to you man. You are so lucky that your school has japanese girls. I live in texas and all of them are either mexican, american or vietnamese...

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Post by (-Oni-Kazuki-) » Oct 6th, '05, 04:40

pwner4once wrote:
Mythrel wrote:
Cloud James Lionheart~~ or cloud
Good luck to you man. You are so lucky that your school has japanese girls. I live in texas and all of them are either mexican, american or vietnamese...

hrmmm.. vietnamese girls are hot too :D

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Post by dspR » Oct 6th, '05, 08:13

I still didn't get those songs from Qwang. :/
But today, I feel confident enough to talk to her.

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Post by sharnock » Oct 6th, '05, 09:09

HMMM

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Post by Valcun » Oct 6th, '05, 09:23

Hello, My name is Valcun. I am 17 and I am currently a freshman in college .I've stuck around D-addicts for a while and I love the dramas and the community. But I was wondering if you guys could help me out? I need very good opinions because I have no idea what to do.

First it started off today on the 5th. I did my morning routine as usual by occasionally taking the bus to get to school, But this morning was very special to me. As I got on the bus and sat down, I saw a big fat guy in front of me. He has been there for a while and I just kept looking at him because I couldn't really figure out if he was a guy or a girl. After a few minutes trying to play these silly mind games to pass my time, he suddenly stood up to get off at the next stop. Suddenly, I saw the most beautiful girl in the world. She was sitting down listening to her i-pod. She had really fair skin and she had a cute little nose. But when her eyes gazed by me, I could literally see stars and I felt like melted butter. I couldn't believe this was happening. I mean she was just like a seraphim that dropped down from heaven. My heart started to pound real hard and it felt like a thousand knives were stabbing it. I truly never felt this way in my life! I stared at her for only a short period of time before my stop came up. I really wanted to talk to her but I couldn't because the bus was really crowded.

All today during college, all I could think about was her. She was so beautiful and just captivated me. Tomorrow I am going to take the same bus at the same time to try see her again. But I just don't know what to say or do. Does anybody have any opinions?

-Valcun.

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Post by P0KEY » Oct 6th, '05, 09:54

wow..

love at first sight... literally :-)

a big congratulations to you, buddy, and i do hope that everything goes well for you tomorrow when you get on the bus 8)

hehe, maybe i should start taking the bus while listening to my ipod......... :roll rofl

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Post by rinimeatballs » Oct 6th, '05, 09:58

sounds like a since from once apon a time in high school. i hope what that works out for u >.< love seems to be in the air this month

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Post by Corona » Oct 6th, '05, 10:10

Wah, that is so cute! *feels all warm and fuzzy* You looked at her and she looked back..well if she looked at your for more then 3 seconds, I say there was a spark!

How to approach her..that's a difficult one. But you can't sit on your arse and do nothing!
Uhm..uh maybe ask what music she's listening too.

Wait maybe not...

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Post by 20centuryboy » Oct 6th, '05, 10:20

Corona wrote:Wait maybe not...
yeah, maybe not! :lol
wait a few days to observ and look for an opportunity.
Rini, where's that quote from dick, pussies and assholes from? I heard that in a movie but don't remember wich...

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Post by bone-doll » Oct 6th, '05, 12:06

I say wait to see if she actually catches that bus regularly.

There's a possibility that you'll never see her again. But then there's always the possibility that you will. :-)

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Post by Poetry » Oct 6th, '05, 12:23

Just Approach her when u got the chance again!! :lol just act that you wont have the third chances.. so second one should be your last one 8)...

You can do it !!! :mrgreen:

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Post by akagi » Oct 6th, '05, 12:23

another Densha?!??!....well, maybe you're not a otaku....but yea...lol
anyways...just wait to see if she takes that bus regularly.....がんあってね。.

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 6th, '05, 12:44

having finished Densha Otoko in two days, i couldn't go to sleep today because i keep thinking about how sad it is. although i really liked Hermes for being there and whenever Densha is trying to say something. she will just stand there and look at him... brings me back old memories.

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Post by equang » Oct 6th, '05, 15:58

dspR wrote:I still didn't get those songs from Qwang. :/
But today, I feel confident enough to talk to her.
Ehe, XD sorry about that. I've got the songs all set to go but rapidshare was taking hours and hours (ew my slow uni connection) so I had to stop it with an emergency abort o_O It's quite a bit of music to give you a good idea of what she listens to and also a little bit of other stuff that's similar to what she likes so when you start talking to her, you can introduce new material, you know? Jeez, maybe I went overboard *g* it's like half a GB of music *g* I'll get the music to you somehow.

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Post by zippyflu » Oct 6th, '05, 16:13

wow this thread is really having a pretty good turnout

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Post by Valcun » Oct 6th, '05, 16:36

Thank you guys for advice. I have to leave soon to catch the bus. I don't know if I will ever see her again but I'll try today. My heart is starting to pound really hard. :cry: I'll try my best and get a seat near her.

Domo Arigato Gozaimasu

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-Valcun

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Post by rinimeatballs » Oct 6th, '05, 16:41

20centuryboy wrote:
Corona wrote:Wait maybe not...
yeah, maybe not! :lol
wait a few days to observ and look for an opportunity.
Rini, where's that quote from dick, pussies and assholes from? I heard that in a movie but don't remember wich...
team america world police..... haha that movie is just...funny :mrgreen:

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Post by Sienna » Oct 6th, '05, 17:00

That's really cute!
If you see her again, you'll need to think of (interesting) topics to talk about (give us time and we'll come up with nice conversation stuff). Further more, a nice smile really helps. Oh, girls also like sense of humor. Arrgh, it's really hard to give advice that actually works!

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Post by Cloud James Lionheart » Oct 6th, '05, 20:30

hey how is everyone, wow this thread is thriving, well i actually found some very valuable info about her today, because i talked to one of her senpais, and he said, that she actually korean, well i was put me a little down, but if this girls makes me go this crazy why not.? but then i found out that shes the type that is always concentrated on work, and doesnt want to socialise because shes always concentrating on werk =[ so i had second thoughts about going up to her today..? i was thinking to myself, if i do go up to her.. will i just be a disturbance..? what do you lot think,,? i dont have college until monday, and im gonna buy clothes tomo, maybe a new blazer and jean hehe. well how is everyone, hows things hanging down your end dspr?
well i hope everyone is genki! ^_^

love and peace

cloud

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Post by kendrew » Oct 6th, '05, 21:42

wow, you found a lot of info on her already. I say... go for it. Cause you might not get such a good chance to, work might pile up on you later (assuming its like high school here (I'm in Canada)) and also, you might not get the chance to later.

cloud... I'm starting to have a problem like yours... except its opposite, the girl (which is a close friend of mine), was talking to me and was like. - I had a dream last night... can you guess what it is? - and then she tells me that she hopes it comes true but doesn't really think it will and says that I was in her bf in her dream... and then I'm like uhhh... not sure what happend next, but she kissed me on the cheek out of nowhere... which was odd.. and i still dont really know how i got out of it... sigh ><"

woo densha special today


later

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 6th, '05, 23:47

kendrew wrote:wow, you found a lot of info on her already. I say... go for it. Cause you might not get such a good chance to, work might pile up on you later (assuming its like high school here (I'm in Canada)) and also, you might not get the chance to later.

cloud... I'm starting to have a problem like yours... except its opposite, the girl (which is a close friend of mine), was talking to me and was like. - I had a dream last night... can you guess what it is? - and then she tells me that she hopes it comes true but doesn't really think it will and says that I was in her bf in her dream... and then I'm like uhhh... not sure what happend next, but she kissed me on the cheek out of nowhere... which was odd.. and i still dont really know how i got out of it... sigh ><"

woo densha special today


later

-kendrew
OMG for real?? i hope that get uploaded today :D

to cloud~~
i think you shoudl ask her out anyways. from life experience, second guessing and having other thought is just foolish. if she is really the kind who wants to focus on study and etc. why don't u try to find out by yourself instead of hearing stuff from others?

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Post by kendrew » Oct 7th, '05, 00:32

okay... the girl asked me if i liked her... and i just told her haaaaaaa ><" and didnt speak of it for an hour

hour later.... she asks all these personal questions.... and then asks me if she should stop liking me. And then I tell her I'm not gonna date until I get into university... and shes like oh... :-( . so lots of things happen within an hour. I'm so gonna regret this (like everything else I do)

cloud you can do it!

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Post by Feather » Oct 7th, '05, 00:43

Hmm.. newbie here too. My last relationship ended one year ago. Very interesting topics here. Almost 4am in Finland now, so I'll continue reading tomorrow.. Over 40 pages.. huh :D

And Cloud, just talk to her. No matter what happens, you'll regret it if you don't make your move. I have experience on that... a lot :glare:

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Post by adrian22 » Oct 7th, '05, 00:57

hellooo im singler here!!!! never involved in any relationship...almost once though! haha....but i think its a good sign...might as well concentrate on studies first then get a good and high pay job before involve in those stuffs....i wish all of the ppl in this thread a BIGGGGG goood luck in ur future relationship...remember, she or he is not the only one in this world!! there are a lot of hansdome guys like me out there and a lot of pretty gals!!!

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 7th, '05, 02:03

adrian22 wrote:hellooo im singler here!!!! never involved in any relationship...almost once though! haha....but i think its a good sign...might as well concentrate on studies first then get a good and high pay job before involve in those stuffs....i wish all of the ppl in this thread a BIGGGGG goood luck in ur future relationship...remember, she or he is not the only one in this world!! there are a lot of hansdome guys like me out there and a lot of pretty gals!!!
what you are saying is very true. actually that's how i tell myself off whenever there is a girl i like who's really nice and open at the same time. sometimes u put "your future, your life and your life" above all, but are you really doing it? As I am writing this, i am asking myself at the same time. Being a procrastinator for almost 2 years now, I've never had a relationship in high school because of this execuse. as grow up as i might sound, in retrospect, i never studied like i should of. Therefore should i save all these crap and start dating girls? I wonder... is this just an execuse for me or to avoid an inevitable failure which will be waiting for me ahead? for ur comment adrian, the last line sounded pretty lame and funny at the same time :lol :lol

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Post by Valcun » Oct 7th, '05, 05:45

I just got home from work.

Last night, I couldn't sleep and just kept looking at my alarm clock until it was time to get ready for college. I really felt like the early bird catching the worm. After brushing my teeth, I started to put gel in my hair to make a cool noticeable hair style. I must of spent at least half an hour fiddling with it like playdoh. I skipped breakfast because the anticipation was just to strong. So I just popped in a breath mint and opened the front door. This is where My day started from a good one to a bad one :crazy: . It was raining cats and dogs outside, I could not believe this was happening. Frantically grabbing my umbrella I walked to the bus stop early. I then hopped onto the earlier bus at 8:23 to see if she usually takes this one. As I got on the bus, I felt like I was on a stage because everyone was just staring at me. I walked toward the back looking for her on my way there. She was no where in sight. About half way to college, I got off and waited for the bus that I usually took at 8:56. For half an hour I sat at that bus stop filled with anticipation :w00t: . Even thought she wasn't on that bus, I didn't let it stop me from searching for her because I knew I had one more bus to look. 5 minutes before the bus came, I met a old lady at the bus stop. To keep from having a nervous break down, I told her the story about the dream girl. She then looked at me thinking that I was the craziest person that she ever met :pale: . Then she smiled and held my hand and said good luck

As I got on the bus, I nervously walked through the aisle looking left and right :crazy:. I didn't see her. The further I got to the back of the bus, my heart felt like molasses. I then sat in disappointment and reflected on what happened yesterday when I saw her.

:pale: What if I stayed on that bus instead of going to college? Though I had a math exam and a group presentation for speech class that day, was it really worth it? I mean what is the chances I will ever meet the girl of my dreams. She was everything I ever wanted that flashed before my eyes. I cannot believe that a split second has changed my life. I regret that I ever got off that stop. What I learned from this experience is that I would give up everything I have to find my one true love.

But this will not stop me, I will try again tomorrow. :D

-Valcun

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Post by cluelessfool » Oct 7th, '05, 06:25

sorry, ddint really read all of ur post Valcun. But things happen for a reason, hopes this makes u not be afraid next time if u see a "wow" girl. You cant always live life and be afraid, gotta take chances when the universe give u an opportunity, take it. :D good luck, hopefully ur one of the lucky few to run into the "wow" girl and sparks fly.

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Post by crazylife123 » Oct 7th, '05, 06:32

It's not too hard to get a girl. Just use the right words. No pickup lines...rather sweet talk. Just compliment them. The ladies usually like that. I never had a hard time with girls. Girls always seem to make the first move....LoL.

I always get...

"Can I kiss you?"
"How come you don't want to kiss me?"

Not bragging...just facts. :mrgreen:

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Post by Xi@h » Oct 7th, '05, 06:48

Ahh a thread like the one of Densha? :w00t: :w00t: :w00t:

:crazy: Go Valcun, be the next densha! 8)

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Post by Cloud James Lionheart » Oct 7th, '05, 06:56

haha hes gonna be the "bus otaku" :D

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Post by Xi@h » Oct 7th, '05, 06:59

Cloud James Lionheart wrote:haha hes gonna be the "bus otaku" :D
Yes!! And we all gonna support him!! :lol Let us give him our support "BUS OTOKO"!! :unsure:

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Post by Aznakedog » Oct 7th, '05, 07:42

LOL. I've been reading this thread for a while. Pretty interesting. Hopefully you'll see your angel again, Valcun. Until something happens, lets not get ahead of ourselves with the desha thing. I think its too much pressure on Valcun.

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Post by x_XJules » Oct 7th, '05, 07:52

:dance: go bus otaku!

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Post by dspR » Oct 7th, '05, 08:03

So he's going to be the "Basu Otaku"?

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Post by ToriQ » Oct 7th, '05, 08:32

it makes me want to be "hikouki otoko" 8)

...looks like I'm another who's along for the ride...lets see where this thread goes!

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Post by Xi@h » Oct 7th, '05, 10:40

Aznakedog wrote:LOL. I've been reading this thread for a while. Pretty interesting. Hopefully you'll see your angel again, Valcun. Until something happens, lets not get ahead of ourselves with the desha thing. I think its too much pressure on Valcun.
We all hope that Valcun meet his Hermes times and times again and we'll all support him!! Yet
I do hope I'll meet mine too!!

He's the "bus otoko"!! :w000t: It would be very nice for him to succeed though!! Wish you all the best Valcun!!

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Post by dspR » Oct 7th, '05, 10:57

Meh, I didn't do anything special yet.
I tried some things, but I don't know if I even tried them.
I just keep reflecting back on how lonely I am.
Since I don't have anyone, except my cousins, come over to my house. But that's for vacations and stuff.
They always ask me, "Why are you on the computer all the time?"
It just makes me depressed on days like this, you know?

But yeah, do your best people.
Even though I'm not in a good mood today, I'll try next week.

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Post by Xi@h » Oct 7th, '05, 11:20

dspR wrote:Meh, I didn't do anything special yet.
I tried some things, but I don't know if I even tried them.
I just keep reflecting back on how lonely I am.
Since I don't have anyone, except my cousins, come over to my house. But that's for vacations and stuff.
They always ask me, "Why are you on the computer all the time?"
It just makes me depressed on days like this, you know?

But yeah, do your best people.
Even though I'm not in a good mood today, I'll try next week.
Heh! I thought I'm the only Mr Lonely on the computer all the time. We're on the same boat then. Have anyone except ourself!! But I do cheer people for them to be happy and grab their own happiness, but it seems that I can't grab mine :-( :sweat:

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Post by ToriQ » Oct 7th, '05, 11:46

Just take it a day at a time and try to make a little progress everyday. If you look at the end result it can look huge and far out of reach...it might even appear impossible. However, be assured it's not! Take small steps and build on everyday. Before you know it, it'll all come togther. Don't get bogged down in looking so far into the future that you forget about today, as that is where the magic occurs!

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Post by adrian22 » Oct 7th, '05, 12:14

whoa valcun...very inspiring life of yours!! never give up and keep hunting for her on bus!! good luck to you!!!

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Post by SHIN-RA » Oct 7th, '05, 12:27

Is that the same as stalking?
Oh well, stalking isn't good though...

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Post by ToriQ » Oct 7th, '05, 13:28

I wouldn't call it stalking as he is just trying to see her again. My understanding of stalking requires the stalker to know enough about the victim to know where they are throughout the day (and night), thus enabling them to stalk them. If Vulcan were a 'stalker' he wouldn't need to be catching 3 buses everyday in an attempt to meet her.

Best of luck buddy!

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 7th, '05, 13:35

Jeremiah wrote:
dspR wrote:Meh, I didn't do anything special yet.
I tried some things, but I don't know if I even tried them.
I just keep reflecting back on how lonely I am.
Since I don't have anyone, except my cousins, come over to my house. But that's for vacations and stuff.
They always ask me, "Why are you on the computer all the time?"
It just makes me depressed on days like this, you know?

But yeah, do your best people.
Even though I'm not in a good mood today, I'll try next week.
Heh! I thought I'm the only Mr Lonely on the computer all the time. We're on the same boat then. Have anyone except ourself!! But I do cheer people for them to be happy and grab their own happiness, but it seems that I can't grab mine :-( :sweat:
sad to say but there are many otaku like us( yes, i am one of them too ) who sits in front of computer all the time. Thinking about what is sad, some people just go to sleep on a weekend... i mean that's just a waste of time.

dspR
i am very sad you are sad at the moment. but everytime i finish a drama serious, e.g. Densha Otoko, it makes feel my life is just a joke and it haven't been contentful since summer break. In my heart, i really think this is a test for us to understand life better and to cherish it more than ever. I might sound lame since I'm not even enjoying my life. Sometimes I just want walk to the girl i like in my class and tell how i feels. Wat good can that do? Even if she agrees like Hermes, will there be a happy ending? Do u really think Otaku and Hermes in Densha Otoko would really get along? This is just the beginning and everything might seem fun and all, but there are countless obstacles to come. Will you still go forward? are you merely trying to experience the momentary joy? :-( :cry:

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Post by equang » Oct 7th, '05, 15:17

Most of what I do is sit in front of the computer. I go into my own little world as soon as it's in my hands. Literally, my ears turn off and my vision is narrowed to the screen. Someone can be right next to me and trying to talk to me and I don't even notice.

But I think I live a good life. Even though I have trouble dating, I have a lot of fun. I think the key is to have lots of crazy adventures. They can seem really mundane but be crazy all the same. Like I had a crazy adventure a few weeks ago in an attempt to see Polysics in Boston. It involved extreme late-but-just-in-time-ness, druggies, driving adventures (including losing some glasses out the window), getting stranded in Boston and having to bum a night at a college, and general craziness :P This is why I love my life. Everything becomes a wild adventure.

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 7th, '05, 15:21

equang wrote:Most of what I do is sit in front of the computer. I go into my own little world as soon as it's in my hands. Literally, my ears turn off and my vision is narrowed to the screen. Someone can be right next to me and trying to talk to me and I don't even notice.

But I think I live a good life. Even though I have trouble dating, I have a lot of fun. I think the key is to have lots of crazy adventures. They can seem really mundane but be crazy all the same. Like I had a crazy adventure a few weeks ago in an attempt to see Polysics in Boston. It involved extreme late-but-just-in-time-ness, druggies, driving adventures (including losing some glasses out the window), getting stranded in Boston and having to bum a night at a college, and general craziness :P This is why I love my life. Everything becomes a wild adventure.
LOL that sounds like some wild stuff.
btw did u guys notice the admin changed the title to "And Dating Advice"???
does any1 know where the real Aladdin bss forum is?

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Post by doink-chan » Oct 7th, '05, 15:27

Aladdin Channel is not real, it was made up for the drama. The actual forum the Densha Otoko story happened on is called 2ch: http://www.2ch.net

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 7th, '05, 15:40

doink-chan wrote:Aladdin Channel is not real, it was made up for the drama. The actual forum the Densha Otoko story happened on is called 2ch: http://www.2ch.net
the whole layout actually look like the Aladdin Channel.
too bad, i can't read japanese... :cry: :cry: :cry:
i can read chinese, but there are only a few of them :crazy:

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Post by dspR » Oct 7th, '05, 15:56

The couple of reasons why I'm deathly afraid of talking to her are:
- Of course my otaku/gaming nerd-ness, even though it's slightly hidden by my appearance.
- My reputation in the school. Mostly orientated around being quiet, weird, shy maybe?
- My lack of friendships. I only have about one or two that are very strong. I only know one girl the most. The rest I just answer short answers, no friendships whatsoever.
- Her friends might think the same on this list.

But maybe if I talk to her, those fears could go away.
I'm trying to start new, but I noticed it's really hard to do something that I said I was going to do.
If I ever talk to her, I hope she's helpful like her friend. Her friend gave me lot's of confidence, but I still didn't go for it.
It may seem hopeless, but over time, I hope this all changes.

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Post by Wut » Oct 7th, '05, 16:18

Take your times and change it slowly.
if you just suddenly change it , for me it's look quite wired.
so let's try to talking something to her first and then something will come after this start point :)

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Post by Valcun » Oct 7th, '05, 17:10

Today is round two!

I'm going to see if she is on the bus today.

Thank you guys for your support.

-Valcun

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 7th, '05, 17:25

Valcun wrote:Today is round two!

I'm going to see if she is on the bus today.

Thank you guys for your support.

-Valcun
go bus otaku!!!!
when u see her, don't forget to ask more about and see if she would like to be friend :D

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Post by equang » Oct 7th, '05, 18:51

dspR wrote:The couple of reasons why I'm deathly afraid of talking to her are:
- Of course my otaku/gaming nerd-ness, even though it's slightly hidden by my appearance.
- My reputation in the school. Mostly orientated around being quiet, weird, shy maybe?
- My lack of friendships. I only have about one or two that are very strong. I only know one girl the most. The rest I just answer short answers, no friendships whatsoever.
- Her friends might think the same on this list.

But maybe if I talk to her, those fears could go away.
I'm trying to start new, but I noticed it's really hard to do something that I said I was going to do.
If I ever talk to her, I hope she's helpful like her friend. Her friend gave me lot's of confidence, but I still didn't go for it.
It may seem hopeless, but over time, I hope this all changes.
1 - If she's gonna have a major problem with your otaku-ness, then she isn't worth having. Don't be like, "I'm an otaku! :D:D:D:D" right away but gradually you should introduce your honest hobbies and likes and dislikes to her. If you wait til it seems like she likes you as a person/friend/something, then she'll be more inclined to be tolerant of anything she normally wouldn't be fond of. Also, she likes a lot of Asian music, and I don't know about there, but here, usually that means that you like anime XD because anime is really the only exposure to Japanese culture that Americans have. So if she's interested in Japanese music, she probably at least doesn't mind anime.

2 - This reputation of yours could work to your advantage. It could make talking to her like you singled her out because there's something about her that you like, and will make her curious as to why you're talking to her all of a sudden, which will make her wonder about you, and if she's thinking about you, that's a mighty fine thing :D

3 - The only thing I can say about a lack of friendships is that I don't think it would be a problem, per se. If anything you are less distracted. Maybe you should try to make more friends to build your confidence?

4 - Be nice to her friends. Right now you don't need to go out of the way to make friends with them (you want her to think she has your full attention) but don't be afraid to help them out or say hi in passing or hold doors for them or whatever, you know? Little things that will subconciously put you on their good side.

5 - Did you get that music? I'm sending it over in batches XD

And Vulcan, ganbatte! Good luck!

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Post by Xi@h » Oct 7th, '05, 19:07

Valcun wrote:Today is round two!

I'm going to see if she is on the bus today.

Thank you guys for your support.

-Valcun
Gambate!! Go "bus otoko"!! You'll succeed!!
pwner4once wrote:sad to say but there are many otaku like us( yes, i am one of them too ) who sits in front of computer all the time. Thinking about what is sad, some people just go to sleep on a weekend... i mean that's just a waste of time.
It seems that there's a lot of otakus then. Will we ever meet our Hermes? God only knows. My life is full of sorrows and pain so that is why I drown myself with dramas just to see what those dreams that will never be reality. I live through them.
pwner4once wrote:the whole layout actually look like the Aladdin Channel.
too bad, i can't read japanese...
i can read chinese, but there are only a few of them
Just visited the link and yes it look alikes the aladdin channel from the drama.

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Post by zaraki_kenpachi » Oct 7th, '05, 19:21

hahah i saw this thread and started laughing!!! D.O. was awesome! i think it inspires all otakus (geeks) around the world!!! hell it even inspired me >_< u should've added "aladdin" to the name of this thread Cloud James Lionheart :P anyway, its pretty cool how it was based on a true story...wish they had the pictures of the original couple that hooked up..ito misaki is gorgeous!
this thread is gonna be an eye catcher with alot of posts:P i bet u 10000 yen :O
sooo my name is R.D. nice to meet you all, i reside in vancouver bc, canada...20...
into japanese drama/anime..and various types of music :P
currently no love life :P just clubbin meetin girls and i'll leave it to that.
I got a question...for all you...do you believe in love? and if you do..is it possible to fall in love more then once? cuz some ppl say u only fall in love..like real love..once in a life time. >_<
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Post by Xi@h » Oct 7th, '05, 19:41

zaraki at least your a good looking guy, you'll meet your Hermes soon unlike me it will take ages, decades, centuries!! Believe in love? That's the greatest question mark that every otakus have to ask themself. As for me, I don't know really. I hardly get out. I only sleep, wake up to go to work and back home, computer, sleep and every day is like that.

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Post by equang » Oct 7th, '05, 19:56

I believe in love! I think if love wasn't out there somewhere then I would die :P I've been in love twice. You never really fall out of love, it's more a process of re-opening your heart to others.

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Post by aotis » Oct 7th, '05, 20:02

OMG is there a flamer in here already?
if not, I am gonna be the flamer person ok...
here goes nothin....
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omg, you guys have gotta be kidding me :(
go get serious... gawd darn it!

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Post by Xi@h » Oct 7th, '05, 20:07

equang wrote:I believe in love! I think if love wasn't out there somewhere then I would die :P I've been in love twice. You never really fall out of love, it's more a process of re-opening your heart to others.
You're a lucky guy then if you have fallen twice... I guess that I have to print "Pure Otaku" on my forehead :crazy:

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Post by ladym » Oct 7th, '05, 20:29

Love ..love ..love ..strange think is this love .... :P ..
i dont know if love is the same with chemistry..? :blink

i felt this chemistry 1 time ...he he he and now is the second time.... :mrgreen: only that i cant acomplish this second one because is in another part of the continent..hi hi hi
:P so what advice u have for me? :P

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 7th, '05, 22:16

ladym wrote:Love ..love ..love ..strange think is this love .... :P ..
i dont know if love is the same with chemistry..? :blink

i felt this chemistry 1 time ...he he he and now is the second time.... :mrgreen: only that i cant acomplish this second one because is in another part of the continent..hi hi hi
:P so what advice u have for me? :P
well have u ever seen Euro Trip?? you should be thinking of doing somethinga like :mrgreen:

Jeremiah~
on and off i read ur posts, just as mine was read by everyone else. ur words makes me feel you are always sad without reasons. u might think it's frivolous and sad, but i want to hear it out just so we can give u some moral support, even might solve your problem this way.

i think there are many otakus,geeks, nerds watever u think of it as, out there whose life is never contentful or so they think. most of the time, you tend to compare your life with others and see if yours are more fun or not. i think this kidna action is very wrong doing. for me, during this summer, i was contentful. Really contentful. within 4 years, that's the first time i was ever happy. Why? because i moved to United States and everything is different. You might call me a social outcast if you want, but cultures are different and that makes a big difference. During that time, i went back to china and had fun, hanging out with friend and stuff. Yes they are sad memories, but that's I been dreaming for, the kind joy becomes meaningful. For all otakus out there, if you are not happy or your life is not meaningful in anyway. You should leave everything the way it is until you become a minor. Then that's when you should make changes to your life. Well for me, i am sure i will go back to China. :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

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Post by ladym » Oct 7th, '05, 22:25

good one ...he he he :P ..euro trip...but what happens when u dont have enough money to by some new jeans for u... ?..
a know i have to find a job he he he ..
yap i'm Naoko...i want to have 3 meals per day and to go in los angeleshi hi hi :mrgreen: :rofl:

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 7th, '05, 22:27

ladym wrote:good one ...he he he :P ..euro trip...but what happens when u dont have enough money to by some new jeans for u... ?..
a know i have to find a job he he he ..
yap i'm Naoko...i want to have 3 meals per day and to go in los angeleshi hi hi :mrgreen: :rofl:
haha for real? your name is Naoko? that's a cool name... man i hope i had such name.. i am a male and my name is Jing because it's in chinese and people think( me too) it's gay because it sounds girly... :crazy: :crazy:

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Post by ladym » Oct 7th, '05, 22:33

who told u that jing sounds gay..? :blink

is not gay at all... :D

and my real name is eli ..but my mam and sis call me naoko after they sow the trick TV serial.. :P

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Post by equang » Oct 7th, '05, 22:39

Can we not use gay negatively? I don't mean to be picky but I find it offensive, you know? Most of my friends are gay (go figure) and I'm deeply involved in the community. (Maybe this is why I don't get girls XD)

I've been thinking of laying off women for a while and just focusing on having fun with my friends and studying for the moment :\ I never have any luck so I'm thinking maybe if I didn't try so hard, maybe I'd meet someone.

My name is Ken, you don't get much worse than that XD (at least in America).

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Post by pwner4once » Oct 7th, '05, 22:40

ladym wrote:who told u that jing sounds gay..? :blink

is not gay at all... :D

and my real name is eli ..but my mam and sis call me naoko after they sow the trick TV serial.. :P
haha ty for the comment.
i think my friends are just being stereotypical. but Eli, i once had a friend with that name.. but i couldn't remember who it is. btw i finally forced myself to watch Densha Otoko once again with full attention, except at the moment. but it's still good.
BTW did u recognize the book Hermes was reading on the bus is "Angles and Demon" by Dan Brown? the one who wrote "da vinci's code"??? i didn't get the director's intent for that. but it's interesting :glare: :unsure:

equang~
sry if i offended you in anyway which wasn't intended at all. well let's put it in another way, when i say: "My name is Jing." some jerks(stupid people with low education) in my school will comment it as it's something negative. "That's a girl's name! ROFL ROFL!" will be heard within no time and etc. I acutally got over that stuff years ago until some internet people brought it up again. but oh well, i will respect my parent's time and effort for giving me a name.

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Post by ladym » Oct 7th, '05, 22:48

pwner4once wrote:
ladym wrote:who told u that jing sounds gay..? :blink

is not gay at all... :D

and my real name is eli ..but my mam and sis call me naoko after they sow the trick TV serial.. :P
haha ty for the comment.
i think my friends are just being stereotypical. but Eli, i once had a friend with that name.. but i couldn't remember who it is. btw i finally forced myself to watch Densha Otoko once again with full attention, except at the moment. but it's still good.
BTW did u recognize the book Hermes was reading on the bus is "Angles and Demon" by Dan Brown? the one who wrote "da vinci's code"??? i didn't get the director's intent for that. but it's interesting :glare: :unsure:

i'm so sorry to say but i didn't have the chance to see Densha otoko.. :cry: ...
so i dont know anythink about it ..and i'm so sad because i dont undestand much from the jokes from this topic

ou and in my country eli is a boy name so ...and i'm a girl...
and happend once that another girl to came to me to tell me that she likes me and she want to be my girlfiend ...how odd is that ....
hei peuple i like guyssssssssssssssss.. :P

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Post by ladym » Oct 7th, '05, 22:49

equang wrote:Can we not use gay negatively? I don't mean to be picky but I find it offensive, you know? Most of my friends are gay (go figure) and I'm deeply involved in the community. (Maybe this is why I don't get girls XD)

I've been thinking of laying off women for a while and just focusing on having fun with my friends and studying for the moment :\ I never have any luck so I'm thinking maybe if I didn't try so hard, maybe I'd meet someone.

My name is Ken, you don't get much worse than that XD (at least in America).
ken is not a guy name ...mark it is :mrgreen:

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Post by equang » Oct 7th, '05, 23:01

Yeah no one really means harm by it :P but when it's used like that it just extends stereotypes and stuff.

Ken is too a guy name >O Ken is not a good thing to be named in America because Ken was Barbie's boyfriend forever (but now they have broken up XP).

Haha! LadyM, I've had similar situations happen to me, but not with girls XD Because most of my friends are gay, sometimes guys get ideas about me and I'm like THANKS BUT NO THANKS GET AWAY PLZ.

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Post by ladym » Oct 7th, '05, 23:08

equang wrote:Yeah no one really means harm by it :P but when it's used like that it just extends stereotypes and stuff.

Ken is too a guy name >O Ken is not a good thing to be named in America because Ken was Barbie's boyfriend forever (but now they have broken up XP).

Haha! LadyM, I've had similar situations happen to me, but not with girls XD Because most of my friends are gay, sometimes guys get ideas about me and I'm like THANKS BUT NO THANKS GET AWAY PLZ.

same here..ha ha ha :P
thank u i'm not the only one...
oo..another quastion..my naibhoors..think that too because i'm not daityng to much..he he he
so i'm a freack with master.. :P

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Post by trueno92 » Oct 7th, '05, 23:47

hmmmmmm well im new here and decided to post cuz.... well i give a bit of advice to some of my female friends.... and i watched a bit of densha otoko, ;)

anyways, i didn't want to read thru all 45+ pages but there are 3 qualities required for a real relationship to work.

1. chemistry
2. attraction
3. interest.

there don't fall in any particular order, its just that if one of these qualities is off, then the rest fall as well........ i found this out a few relationships ago, seeing as my less serious flings lacked one or more of the above.....

anyways, anyone read this thread from Toronto, gta?

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