Trondog wrote:So this has nothing to do with my original post about my problem with time and women. But I thought this was funny enough to share.
So I go to the Dentist every 6 months like most people. And I always have the same female nurse...and I've always found it funny that she tends to seem like she's hitting on me every time...Today it was rather obvious...I am a bit out of it and cannot remember all the details.
But it is always interesting when someone prolly a good 6-8 years older than you makes passes at you when you're having your teeth cleaned
You didn't have to give up right away o_o; I was just merely suggesting to proceed with extreme caution ^^; Who knows? She may be mature enough to handle the difference in ages? You've just got to know her better to figure out if her maturity level is compatible with yours before even thinking about dating. Don't give up so soon; just be careful. You guys will be training partners for a while, yeah? If so, then there's no need to rush ^^; Getting to know someone well takes time.Jeremiah wrote:I've already given up about my training partner. acid_android have open up my mind.
Well....acid_android wrote:You didn't have to give up right away o_o; I was just merely suggesting to proceed with extreme caution ^^; Who knows? She may be mature enough to handle the difference in ages? You've just got to know her better to figure out if her maturity level is compatible with yours before even thinking about dating. Don't give up so soon; just be careful. You guys will be training partners for a while, yeah? If so, then there's no need to rush ^^; Getting to know someone well takes time.Jeremiah wrote:I've already given up about my training partner. acid_android have open up my mind.
I'm 
and 
I'm pretty !! I lack confidence here 
-_-' Okay, what do you like about her? Other than the fact that she's cute? If you can't really answer that, you don't know her well enough to really like 'like' her, but if you're really serious about this, then you should make it your goal to be able to answer that question honestly. If she really is someone that you're attracted to, then be strong, gather your courage and do your best to find out what she's like while taking into consideration all the other things I mentioned before. It's tough, but the harder you work for something, the greater the reward will be, right?Jeremiah wrote:Well....acid_android wrote:You didn't have to give up right away o_o; I was just merely suggesting to proceed with extreme caution ^^; Who knows? She may be mature enough to handle the difference in ages? You've just got to know her better to figure out if her maturity level is compatible with yours before even thinking about dating. Don't give up so soon; just be careful. You guys will be training partners for a while, yeah? If so, then there's no need to rush ^^; Getting to know someone well takes time.Jeremiah wrote:I've already given up about my training partner. acid_android have open up my mind.
Do you get breaks during training time? Like a five minute break or so to catch your breath after working out? That would be a great opportunity to talk to her about things that don't necessarily have to do with training. That way you could learn more about her.Jeremiah wrote:Right!! She's pretty funny too, because she can't do certain movements and she always ask me to show her with a big smile, that I can't resis and just nodded yes. Though I was absent from training for so many years, I was the center of interest for everyone up there when I got introduce as the former senior and as her training partner.
She'sseems to be soft and nice when we exchange some words over the training on how the attack and defence movement should be. It's not just she's cute, she has a smile that make you go upon heaven.
6-10 p.m.???? Wow that's long xD Maybe you'll be too tired from the training to be nervous around her, and it'll make it easier for you to talk to her xDDDJeremiah wrote:acid_android~ well it's 2 hours training non-stop!! That's my first time yesterday after years of absence. So may be Saturday we'll have at least some break because the training hour start from 6pm to 10pm.
amieo~ thanks mate. I'll do my best!!
Well I hope everything works out. Keep us updated on what happens at your next training session!!! Hopefully she'll be open to the idea of dating someone a lot older, but just remember to take it slowly.Jeremiah wrote:acid_android~ well yeah it's quite long! You might be quite right.. after a training like that, I won't be nervous to talk to her!!
amieo~ You might be right too and I keep fingers cross as well
Thanks for your words of encouragements!!
Cloud James Lionheart wrote:~OMAE SAN, i am completely drunk hehheehehe, i love yoiu sppppp much, hhehehehe. omggg, i went to drink to fprget about everything, i am soooo dr4unk, i lover you lots loads,,,, omg i know my writing is crap but my writing is drunk, thankyou everyone, omggggim soo drunk, i drank soo much just to fprget, i relly love the korean chiks smile, and just her self, i dunt care about others exceprt you lot,, i love you loads omg, im sooo drunk, ahh i keep thinking about thast ms ream girl smile owhh god im soo drunk,, ahh i love you lots muahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
oh man someones gonna regret that in the morning *me takes picture* I think cloud that in the future if you want to forget, I know you are not gonna wanna hear this from me but don't turn to booze for that. Oh man im such a buzz kill 
nice to have friends around when u feel shitty alchohol just makes it worse if u think bout it trust me i have done that before hahaha so i pref jsut goin out shop or like watch movies or sumtin wit the buddies Ok so I now know what happened, she was in the process of moving and now she has moved, and she is closer than she was before, now I got another number to contact her at. So I asked what she is doing this saterday after work and she said nothing so I asked if she wants to hang out, she said "yeah sure that be fun" so now I don't know what to do, I was thinking maybe my house and watch some movies or something, I don't really know yet.aNToK wrote:Good way to scare someone off quick is to call all the time. I'd leave it alone for a few days, and then casually mention to her at work that you called, but she wasn't home. Then ask when would be a good time to get ahold of her, as you don't want to disturb her family, etc. If she says anytime's good, then try again in a day or two. If she gives you a time to call, call her around that time. If she says something like "if I'm not there, I'm busy", "that's the only way to get ahold of me", or whatever, then that might mean that she's either not interested or that she's a bit wary of you at the moment.
If she offers you a different number, then try that one, but I wouldn't ask for a different number right now. She may not have another number, or she may not be comfortable giving out her cell to you just yet.
It's not easy to back off when you're thinking about someone alot, but your chances are much better than if you're trying too hard.
Adam,~Adam~ wrote:Ok so I now know what happened, she was in the process of moving and now she has moved, and she is closer than she was before, now I got another number to contact her at. So I asked what she is doing this saterday after work and she said nothing so I asked if she wants to hang out, she said "yeah sure that be fun" so now I don't know what to do, I was thinking maybe my house and watch some movies or something, I don't really know yet.aNToK wrote:Good way to scare someone off quick is to call all the time. I'd leave it alone for a few days, and then casually mention to her at work that you called, but she wasn't home. Then ask when would be a good time to get ahold of her, as you don't want to disturb her family, etc. If she says anytime's good, then try again in a day or two. If she gives you a time to call, call her around that time. If she says something like "if I'm not there, I'm busy", "that's the only way to get ahold of me", or whatever, then that might mean that she's either not interested or that she's a bit wary of you at the moment.
If she offers you a different number, then try that one, but I wouldn't ask for a different number right now. She may not have another number, or she may not be comfortable giving out her cell to you just yet.
It's not easy to back off when you're thinking about someone alot, but your chances are much better than if you're trying too hard.
i would've thought being in a band would automatically make you chickky magneto big time.Trondog wrote:I will join this thread just for the fact I enjoy Densha Otoko quite a bit.
Anyways, Here is my problem.
I do not have so much of a problem meeting women, although I am very shy and not very self-confident. I tend to have quite a few female friends.
However, my problem is settling. In a way, I would really enjoy settling into an actual relationship, I have been in a stage of jumping from woman to woman because I simply cannot establish a relationship.
My life is busy and chaotic so women also find it hard to want to be in a solid relationship with me. I am a musician and travel every 2-3 months for a month or more at a time to go tour. My job as a software engineer is very tiresome especially with a full college load on top of it all.
Simply put, my problem is not meeting women so much, it is meeting one whom is willing to work through my busy schedule and have a nice healthy relationship.
Another problem is my inability to really talk to them because I am shy and as I said not very self confident at all
Also women have to put up with me being an anime/computer geek on the side.
For reference my picture(s) can be seen here:
http://www.myspace.com/Trondog
When I can't get through a problem, I used to smoke, but hey that really helps in those cases haha because I somehow found the solution in smoking. Yeah I know it's a very bad habit. However, I do not smoke everyday. I just smoke occasionally. I did read your post, but I honestly don't know what kind of advice to give. Trying to find someone who will understand the things that come along with being in a band is tough, and there really is no sure fire method of telling apart those who can handle such things from those who can't.Trondog wrote:No one can help me with my problems?
I think people missed it, bottom of page 59
and i already told her my age when i was talking to her.. ahh gosh the age difference is massive.. what do you guys think, also i was soo baka, i got her number and i was really happy, then on the way home i found out that there was a one number misssing i fort i should go buy some credit for my phone then text the number but adding a number at the end, i am really determined to get through to her,? what do you lot think...?I suggest looking for someone that is also an anime/computer geek.Trondog wrote: Also women have to put up with me being an anime/computer geek on the side
For reference my picture(s) can be seen here:
http://www.myspace.com/Trondog
They exist!I remember someone on this very thread told me that age doesn't count, it is just a number. So dear friend, dont refrain yourself. Just do it, call her or message her. She might be the one for you and don't do things that you might regret after. Grab your happiness before it's getting to late. No matter what try hard, she could be the love of your life. Four years ahead of you isn't that much if she's willing to go beyond.Cloud James Lionheart wrote:gome gome gome gome gome gome gomeeee =[ im sooo sorry about that, ahh sorry, hontoni. i was happy but then depressed today, well, the thing is i got ms.dreams girl number but there was big shocks, okai lemme start with the first one, well i found out that shes twenty
sorry about ydae again, im never gonna do that again..
cloud
Cloud James Lionheart wrote:gome gome gome gome gome gome gomeeee =[ im sooo sorry about that, ahh sorry, hontoni. i was happy but then depressed today, well, the thing is i got ms.dreams girl number but there was big shocks, okai lemme start with the first one, well i found out that shes twenty
sorry about ydae again, im never gonna do that again..
cloud
4 years is massive? I mean its not like its the end of the dream. Age shouldn't really be a big issue its more of the persons maturity level. Women tend to date older men because they are alittle more down to earth, but thats not saying you are not mature. Make sure she sees your good qualitys and always be a gentlemen around her and im sure she could see a boyfriend in you yet. About the number, first good job and second ouch.. lol. Maybe just bring it up casually the next time you speak to her. Good luck cloud lol you have made progress.Yeah, I've gone down this road before.amrayu wrote:I suggest looking for someone that is also an anime/computer geek.Trondog wrote: Also women have to put up with me being an anime/computer geek on the side
For reference my picture(s) can be seen here:
http://www.myspace.com/Trondog
I'm not much of an anime geek, but I am a computer/dorama geek. Atleast you guys will share something in common, and you will probably feel more comfortable communicating with her.
The main reason it is hard to find is because they do not exactly advertise whether or not they are geeky. So therefore the way to find them is by studying their habits if you see them on a regular basis and hopefully be able to make an educated guess on whether or not they are geekygrifter0x wrote:I totally agree with Trondog about its hard to find an attractive geeky girl. They might exist but where do they hang out. Maybe I'll find one this weekend at the digitallife convention in NYC.. Fingers crossed.
You have to dig around a bit to find these geeky girls. Usually, those attractive geeky girls are in-the-closet geeks.grifter0x wrote:I totally agree with Trondog about its hard to find an attractive geeky girl. They might exist but where do they hang out. Maybe I'll find one this weekend at the digitallife convention in NYC.. Fingers crossed.
Oh! Maybe you'll see one of my co-workers, she is cute and an in-the-closet geek!
Yeah, damn you cute geeky girls hiding from guys like me!amrayu wrote: You have to dig around a bit to find these geeky girls. Usually, those attractive geeky girls are in-the-closet geeks.
DigitalLife?! Some of my co-workers are in NYC right now to attend that.
Trondog: Your appearance is not bad at all. You're a very decent looking guy in fact!
Good luck with that girl you're eating lunch with...but I feel wary since she's on the rebound. Having a relationship with someone on the rebound sucks.
LOL! I hope you guys have luck and success in nabbing girls. Trying my best to give you some insight since I'm a girl myself.Trondog wrote:I actually would more call the girl he described as a full-frontal otaku.amrayu wrote:dspR:
The girl you are oogling sounds to me like an in-the-closet otaku. Ask her if she has watched any recent anime and what she would reccommend to you. :-P
amrayu wrote:You have to dig around a bit to find these geeky girls. Usually, those attractive geeky girls are in-the-closet geeks.grifter0x wrote:I totally agree with Trondog about its hard to find an attractive geeky girl. They might exist but where do they hang out. Maybe I'll find one this weekend at the digitallife convention in NYC.. Fingers crossed.
DigitalLife?! Some of my co-workers are in NYC right now to attend that.
Trondog: Your appearance is not bad at all. You're a very decent looking guy in fact!
Good luck with that girl you're eating lunch with...but I feel wary since she's on the rebound. Having a relationship with someone on the rebound sucks.
http://www.1up.com/do/blogEntry?bId=587 ... Id=5546002grifter0x wrote:amrayu wrote:You have to dig around a bit to find these geeky girls. Usually, those attractive geeky girls are in-the-closet geeks.grifter0x wrote:I totally agree with Trondog about its hard to find an attractive geeky girl. They might exist but where do they hang out. Maybe I'll find one this weekend at the digitallife convention in NYC.. Fingers crossed.
DigitalLife?! Some of my co-workers are in NYC right now to attend that.
Trondog: Your appearance is not bad at all. You're a very decent looking guy in fact!
Good luck with that girl you're eating lunch with...but I feel wary since she's on the rebound. Having a relationship with someone on the rebound sucks.
amrayu:
Why do you have say something like that, one of your co-workers will be there. Every cute girl I see there I will be wondering in the back of my mind if thats her.
All i have say is that we need more amrayu's in this world. This world would be much happier. O.K. I'll admit it, I would be much happier.
amrayu wrote:http://www.1up.com/do/blogEntry?bId=587 ... Id=5546002grifter0x wrote:amrayu wrote:
You have to dig around a bit to find these geeky girls. Usually, those attractive geeky girls are in-the-closet geeks.
DigitalLife?! Some of my co-workers are in NYC right now to attend that.
Trondog: Your appearance is not bad at all. You're a very decent looking guy in fact!
Good luck with that girl you're eating lunch with...but I feel wary since she's on the rebound. Having a relationship with someone on the rebound sucks.
amrayu:
Why do you have say something like that, one of your co-workers will be there. Every cute girl I see there I will be wondering in the back of my mind if thats her.
All i have say is that we need more amrayu's in this world. This world would be much happier. O.K. I'll admit it, I would be much happier.
Here's a link to her blog post! She even blogged about Digital Life already.
Hint: She has her pic in her blog also.
to meYeah, but since you are a girl. That automatically makes anything you say a foreign language to the male species.amrayu wrote:LOL! I hope you guys have luck and success in nabbing girls. Trying my best to give you some insight since I'm a girl myself.Trondog wrote:I actually would more call the girl he described as a full-frontal otaku.amrayu wrote:dspR:
The girl you are oogling sounds to me like an in-the-closet otaku. Ask her if she has watched any recent anime and what she would reccommend to you. :-P
) so, after the first encounter, i just kept the feelings to myself. at that moment, i know that even if i pursue the matter any further, she might have said no herself (at least that was what i thought ) the fact that she's older and also 'high class' girl (i know this from her friends); driving around in a posh car, wearing high-end brand clothes, spending time in classy coffee shops on weekends (i can't imagine being able to do the same) however, i can't seem to get her out of my mind. emm.. without the intention of actually asking her out, i started to ask people around her about herself. god! she has got a boyfriend that was it for me. i decided to try to stop thinking about her. until about 2 months later, 10000 miles away from where we first met up, i met her again. It's funny how things work eh? i took the chance to get her contacts by giving her reasons that i might be of interest in such activity in the future (kinda feel guilty giving out the false reason just to get her email ) back in the uk, couple of months after that, i got an email from her (it was a very short 'keeping in touch' email) i was very excited. then we started writing to each other for almost 3 months. from a once-a-week mail it turned out to be every alternate days. we shared lots of thoughts and day to day experiences. to keep up with her 'world' i did lots of 'homework' on things like the latest fashion in market, good hangout places in big cities lke where she was living in and of course about other things that she likes. at this point, i still didn't get the chance to meet her, but it felt like i've known her since forever. It came to the point where i felt like telling her about the feelings i've had towards her, but as expected, i never had the courage to do so. Things keep going as normal until she stopped sending me mail for almost 2 weeks. i got very anxious. lots of thoughts came to mind. emm.. she might be busy with her boyfriend (the thing i avoid asking or writing about in my mail to her) or her study maybe. after 3 unreplied mail, i stopped writing. i must be just one of her ordinary friend, so, i thought that was it. then, the worst came, an email from her telling she was gonna go back to her home country for good in a month time, and she said she might not be able to write as usual because she's gonna be busy with the packing and other arrangements to go back. i was very upset with the news. there were mixed feelings, i felt sad and worried that i will never had the chance to see her again. it took me a while to realise that she was really gonna dissapear from my life and i've got to do something about it. 3 weeks left and i did the unthinkable. i took a week off from my study and fly to her place. i emailed her before hand that i was gonna wait for her at her college (i didn't have her house address and i never asked for it ) i waited until almost midnight (even the security guard asked me to wait outside 'cause they were closing the lounge). then, when i was about to give up waiting and go look for a cab, she came. she was surprised and apologized saying that she just read the mail half an hour before. we went for a light supper and i told her how i felt about her. i ended up staying at her place for the whole week helping her with the packing and she came over to mine for the last 2 weeks before she departed for home. emm.. i'm sure as far as all of us are aware, it took efforts and courage to get to the one you love. sometimes, it takes unthinkable action for the unthinkable to happen. my small chapter is very much a summary, i'm sure everybody's relationship is complex on its own. you'll never know what lies ahead for you until you put some courage to find out. so.. gambatene..!!Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 1 guest
