will you marry someone with different religion

If you love someone and his/her religion is different than your religion ..

will you marry her?? Roll Eyes

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 9:40 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

If you love them, then why should that stuff matter? I mean if it conflicts with your relationship, then i don't think its love. If you do love her then nothing else should matter. Smile

Makes sence? Well I'm not uber religious myself, but yessss! Thats what i think.

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 9:43 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I think I would..but sometimes it´s really hard to get the permission. I noticed it in many dramas, when parents were against somebody. You will have to change your religion or you won´t marry him/her!

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 1:57 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I wouldn't marry anybody who seriously followed any religion at all. If they follow a religion, they are almost inevitably intolerant, brain-washed, unrealistic, narrow-minded and, with some religions, cruel. Their parents are likely to be even worse. For me, religion = bad attitude to everyone who doesn't follow it, and most especially religion = anti-woman. I've never come across a religion that didn't try to sujugate, humiliate or discriminate against women. That's because religions are man-made and therefore subject to all the petty-minded and illogical practices that men can come up with. No, that's not an anti-male rant, it's just what happens when human nature is left in charge of the way people are meant to live.

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 2:15 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

@Gozen: Watch out with your words. Original poster is from UAE.

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 2:23 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

well maybe, i dont know... i prefer somebody who has the same religion as me though...

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 2:31 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

ABCD99, what point are you making?

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 3:52 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I believe it's the United Arab Emirates University.

I don't particularly agree with your post Gozen, but if that's your opinion, you must not have met a lot of religious people. I for one know a lot, from different denominations to different religions, and they are nothing like what you speak about. It sounds like you are a little narrow-minded about religion, and to generalize all religions is just playing wrong to begin with.

As for the topic question, I don't think it matters, if you love someone, it's not really a huge issue, but out of respect you could have them convert or you could convert, maybe if they ask. If you truly love someone, you will do anything for them.

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 4:03 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Douglas2k6, give me some examples of religions that don't denigrate women, I'd love to know if there is one out there!

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 4:10 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 4:45 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

There is no religion that denigrates women. Religion and customs are two different things. For example, japanese society is extremely tough toward women and this has nothing to do with religion. As for me i'm muslim, and have friends who don't have any religion but some others who are chritians and judaics. And sorry Gozen but they are not and i don't think i am narrow minded, as i see it the person who is in fact is you.
As for the original post, i have lots of examples of mixed marriage in my family whether religiously or ethnically. As far as I know, there was never any problem except for the choice of religion by the children. Most of them taught them the two religions letting them choose for themself when they got older... Anyway it depends if your family really follow it or just occasionnaly.
As for me, i'd prefer him to be from the same religion, but if he's not he's not what can i do about it? Still having my religion helped me in my life, so i think i would ask him to make a little effort, like not drinking alcohol except when he's having parties, stuff like this... My parents really want me to marry a muslim person, but if he's not they wish i could convert him, since i know it's not that easy i'm kind of preparing them mentally speaking. Anyway, since they're tolerant i don't think they will oppose totally if he doesn't wish to convert. Like every parent, they hope i'll be happy and that's all that matters.
We even discussed about homosexuality once, and for people who were not born in France but in Madagascar, in a really religious atmosphere they told me " if one of you [ talking about me and my brothers] is gay, we really wouldn't like it. But since we're your parents, and we know it must not be easy for you, we would accept... It would be hard on us, but we would accept, because if it's what you wish, we're not gonna make life more difficult for you it's already enough as it is", which really surprised me, knowing where they came from.
So well i'm not really into the subject any more, but anyway the problem is more about the way you live than your beliefs

PS: Sorry for my poor english, it's been a while i haven't posted.

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 4:53 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

coming from a religious background, religion is a huge part of your life/marriage whether you'd like it or not. maybe for unreligious people, yeah it doesn't make a difference.

but as for dating, sure why not? but marriage is something life long. i'm catholic and my boyfriend is buddhist (and he happens to be the only son in his chinese family, we all know how that is) yet my family has only girls, and i know i wouldn't be willing to just "give up my religion" nor would he.

so its really up to how serious you become and whether or not one of you would be willing to make a sacrafice. my philosophy has always been that children should always grow up with some sort of religion whatever it is, so they have something to follow/believe in.

some people may say, oh they're being brainwashed/they don't know any better..well, they can determine that as they get older.

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 4:59 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Well, I think religion plays a major role in marriage. Sure, people can work it out, but it's very difficult. My father is Muslim and my mother is Christian, and that was a major part of the downfall of their marriage.

Now, that's not going to stop me from marrying someone who isn't my religion. I'm nondenominational, church of christ, christian...and it would be difficult to find someone with the same religion so I keep an open mind.

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 5:12 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Sorry Deedlith, but I just can't understand what you are trying to say to me. My statement is that all religions denigrate women. Societies may also denigrate women, but that does not mean that religions are therefore reasonable to women.

As for anyone else with a problem about my statement that religions treat women like second class citizens (if they are lucky), think of a religion and tell me this:

1. Does the religion allow men and women to worship at the same time in the same place?
2. Does the religion allow women to preach as well as men?
3. Are men and women allowed the same freedoms, the same assumption of decency?
4. Is there an assumption that women are tainted, and a corrupting influence, within that religion?
5. Are all members of that religion equally happy to see women as reasonable, decent human beings who can preach the religion as well as any man?
If it's narrow minded to expect women to be treated as human beings, I actually feel more strongly that religion is a terrible thing.

Sorry to the original poster. You asked a perfectly reasonable question and I answered it honestly. I certainly don't want to hijack this thread and move away from the original question, as I'm sure people of different religions have their own points of view.

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 5:36 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

lol arabian nawya 3ala japanese?

anyway,to answer ur question..I would if I could lol!