"I want a korean boyfriend"

Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 12:13 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

The survey specifically asked for marrying interracially, specifically in a matchmaking agency! I would think that most people answering yes do consider it as a real possiblity, since, having answered this for a matchmaking company, this ultimately means they are open to having the company set dates with foreigners up for them!

And another striking thing: keep in mind that people who sign up for these types of agencies are generally the more conservative and traditional ones, while the more liberal and progressive (and hence, more prone to marry interracially) part of the nation believes in love dramas and tries to pursue a possible spouse on the internet, a disco or at work. In a nutshell, a matchmaking agency asked this group of slightly more conservative than average people whether they would want to marry foreigners, and a whopping 50+% answered yes. How that means they only want to play or whatever is beyond me.

Korean society is changing like every other in the world as the direct cause of globalization. In the old days, plastic surgery would have been unthinkable in Korea, as the way one was made was considered to be pure and not to be tarnished in the old days (yes, I read quite a few books on Korea). Obviously, Korean society has changed its opinion on this issue, as the millions of plastic surgery ads on the subway and the TV quite efficiently show.

You might not like interracial dating or marriage, but it's happening, frequently and increasingly. 5% of marriages in Korea are international now, exclusing the thousands of Korean women who marry Caucasian men in the United States or Canada and not in Korea. And yes, the number of interracial marriages was much, much lower just a few years ago. Korean society is obviously opening itself to foreigners more and more as each year passes and the experience I've been able to gather actually living and dating in Korea has been proof to these statistics.

Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 11:11 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:50 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

hyori lee is HOT HOT HOT. i think that's enough reason, she can do w/e she want lol, as long as she keep looking that hot nothing matter hohoho.

Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:55 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

why does everyone think that korean guys are the hottest guys on earth..... honestly there are good looking one like the stars and sadly looking like our normal people...... typically i think they are ok..... i prefer the tawainese guys.....kakakak

Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:45 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:31 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

These tendencially more conservative people have a mind more open than yours seeing as how they would consider marrying a foreigner while you do not, but you seem to have difficulty acknowledging the fact that Koreans are outmarrying in greater and greater numbers each year and will continue to do so for the next years as globalization is becoming the world's primary philosophy. Considering the repercussions of this development and the fact that there will be 128 Korean men for every 100 Korean women in 2010, not admitting interracial marriages are in due is beyond old-fashioned. Do you want all those men to die unmarried and lonely? I've seen your anti-miscenegation propaganda in another thread; you truly seem to carry a great deal of bitterness against non-Koreans in your heart.

Upon coming to Korea, I received numerous requests for dating from men I met in the subway, coffee shops or on the street, man of whom I discussed the marriage issue with. My Korean boyfriend is more eager about marrying me than I am about marrying him (he dragged me to lunch with his mother after dating for a week and proudly introduced me to her) and his friends frequently ask me to introduce them to German girls so they can date one as well. Dating and marrying a Korean isn't that difficult for extraverted girls with above average looks, though there are some factors that make it likelier, such as being able to speak Korean, wanting to live in Korea and having a vast knowledge of Korean culture, history and customs.

There was actually a time when my Korean boyfriend and I faced problems due to cultural barriers. Once, when we had been dating for perhaps a week, something bad happened that my boyfriend, despite knowing it might come, refused to tell me about beforehand only to then blame me that it happened and refuse to speak to me for an entire day. He was mad at me because I had not been able to catch his hints, had not been able to read his mind and had not expected the bad thing to happen myself.

Since then, I have learned to be more subtle, to be more perceptive and to pay more attention to things unsaid. I might not have the same sixth sense a Korean does yet, but I'm getting there, slowly and surely. I truly feel like dating him has already made me a better person - already I learned a difficult, but important aspect of Asian culture that has made me more observative and sensitive to the needs of others and the things that are left unvoiced, but are there nonetheless. I'm not saying dating a Korean will be easy, because it certainly is a different culture for most of us non-Koreans, but I personally feel the things you can learn just make it so much more rewarding, provided you truly want to learn and you truly respect the other's culture, no matter how weird it might seem to you occassionally.

By now, I have been able to catch similar subtle behavioural hints on quite a number of occassions; likewise, he has learned to gracefully accept my Western directness and openness and he is no longer irritated by anything I say.

Just liking the looks of Korean people might not be enough to make marriage possible, though - to make it truly work, girls will have to learn to be sensitive, respectful and tolerant. Some aspects of Korean culture are upsetting; some are downright disgusting; but still, if it's your spouse's, you will have to learn to accept it. It isn't easy, but it certainly is rewarding to me.

Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:59 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:11 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

wat a...useless thread o.o
and about the marriage thing -0- that koreans only marry there own kind
ever heard about half koreans ..-0- we r the living evidence...damn -0-;;;;
salut

Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:14 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

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Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:47 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Nea may I ask what you're doing in Korea.. Since you have a Korean boyfriend, are you working there or going to school/studying there?

Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:52 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 4:04 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Actually, it is said that Korean females are the most beautiful Asian women, but that Japanese women are the cutest ones. Korean men actually really like tall girls and frequently list it as a reason why Korean girls are better than Japanese girls (this being Korea, I hear anti-Japanese crap daily.) They also tend to have bigger boobs than Japanese girls - though if this is because of plastic surgery or natural, I cannot say.

Are you sure Japanese people have darker skin than Koreans? I didn't notice much difference there - having similar weather conditions, they always looked equally pale to me.

Another reason why Korean men might be seen as more desirable is because Korean culture teaches them to look more masculine than Japanese culture does. In Japan, it is a lot more common to see men with eye liner, really long hair and girly clothes, and while Korean men DO wear pink, yellow and cute clothes far more frequently than Westerners, I haven't yet seen a Korean with make-up. A lot of girls don't really go for the girly men thing, especially those raised in the West and taught by Western men how men should have to look.

I also think that many Japanese, Chinese, Vietnamese etc. men are very attractive and my reason for preferring to date Korean men is more because I know their culture and language far better than that of the mentioned other Asian nationals.

@Atomic: I work and travel here. Laugh

Not for much longer, though... but I'm coming back as soon as possible to teach English for some years.

Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 4:17 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I honestly never understood asian beauty. Here in NYC there was a miss chinatown NYC competition and I saw some of last years winners (and losers) and I was like "Are these guys blind?" But many chinese guys told me that these girls truly were the most beautiful (I pretty much gave up trying to understand asian beauty standards after that).

My comment was based on my assumption (correct me if I was wrong) that this topic was out of all men, not just out of all asian men.

As I said, the same thing happened in Japan with the movies we send them. Which is why they date "fat, bald guys from Tennessee", even though they seem EXTREMELY undesirable here lol.