Most Important Quality in a Lover

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 2:50 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

You should play the game of pick any two feature.

Finance + Personality - Appearance

Finance + Apperance - Personality

Apperance + Personality - Finance

which option would you pick given those choices Mr. Green

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 10:26 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

i think people are confusing which is more important with which they pick first....generally, you'll go for appearance first (especially if you are a guy) generally because you SEE the girl before you recognize her personality. its hard to fully know a persons personality unless you suddenly fall in love with a friend, but its easy to see a girl, and want to know more. so appearance isnt most imporant to me, but it certainly pops up first.

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 10:47 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 3:55 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I'd say

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 7:15 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

i find it funny guys are saying FINANCE. wow, the world has changed. i though that was our job. =P

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 7:22 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

It just means they're too effin' lazy to make it. Everybody wants a free ride, right? Otherwise why ask for something from somebody else that anybody who cares to can go out and get for themselves?

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 11:37 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Not sure if you guys understand exactly what finance is these days, it doesn't mean you sit on your ass at home while your lover makes all the money, it means that each of you is financially secure on your own, and can afford to support yourself.

I don't see anything wrong with wanting that in the other person these days. Times have changed, one salary is not enough to give a family a comfortable lifestyle; for that two salaries are required.

People underestimate how important finance is because well it isn't really something mainstream culture really teaches is important-one of the reasons why so many people lack ambition these days I think.

I would definitely prefer a wife who has a good job and earns her own pay (that's right not afraid of a career woman one bit). The main reason why is because I know that I'm not immortal, and if god forbid something happens to me one day (and this happens all the time to many BTW), I would want my family to have at least a semi-normal lifestyle. Anything is better than poverty-All those of you that never experienced it, don't automatically say I'm wrong, just trust me on this one.

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 11:47 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Go for personality everytime. When your with someone, you start taking the look of someone as normal so you get past it. As for financial security, not number one thing but should be up there for most people. Personally, I earn enough so I am not overly bothered if he earns less than me. If he is koo and nice then thats a good start.

Some people look for a million things...just stick to what is most important at the time...and dont forget to smile:-)

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 11:56 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 11:57 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I think that personality is #1, financial security is #2, and looks are #3. I recently saw a program on TV that said that the happier you are with your partner, the more physicially attractive you find them. So, as long as their personality is good, they'll grow on you!

Posted: Wed Jun 28, 2006 2:53 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Wed Jun 28, 2006 2:37 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

:-)like I mention before: 1st appearance, because that's what catch my eyes in the first place, then personality during the dating period less important money....don't really care much about money during the dating period, but if I choose to marry the guy, then ofcourse he has to have a job so we can both live comfortably.....and yeah, like the others said: the appearance grows on you later on while you're marrying. Appearance really doesn't matter anymore, but what's matter most is the personality and money otherwise how can you live happily ever after together if your personality clash each others' and don't have money to support each other....goodness gracious, my family will think "I had a bad fall and hit my head hard on the surface if I marry a total lazy bum and a drunkard:lol Laugh

".....but luckily I pick the right one....ofcourse he's the one who asked me to marry him....In real, I turned down three marriage proposals, then accept the fourth Laugh

....and I just got the right one Big Smile

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Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 9:43 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Mm, I picked personality, because I think I start to truly notice a guy when he can either make me laugh or smile... Laugh

In a way i'm sorta a lil' iffy about the appearance thing, because i think I'd have insecurity issues, also, I myself would be sad if someone I like goes for a girl thats very cute but has a bad personality/temper. And he does to me and says (or hints) "I didn't choose you because you aren't cute/pretty. I'd be sad, so for that reason I'd only pick Appearance 2nd, and finance last.~

Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 6:55 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Haven't you ever heard rich people can/'t find happiness because everyone become your friend and you can't trust them if they love you unconditionally or is after your money. You know 99.9 percent of us pick appearance over anything because that reality. We are a species that commericalize beauty as a very important trait. Bill boards, creams, shampoo, lotion, pills, and so on are product we use to try to look like people that society has portray us to be. This evolution of beauty is attractive has been going on since the dawn of time, Egyptians and the Renaissance time just to name a few. Each century the definition of "beauty" has change but still no less it still imply your appearances.

I do agree with the rest of you on personality and finaceal stability but that always follow after appearances. You don't approach a person because they have good personality. why because you don't know their personality yet. People make a judgment on what their personality is by what they look. Even your skin color play an important role in making an assumption what he or she is personality wise.

Secondly your financial means is compile of how you dress, what kind of toys you have, and pretty much materialistic things.( when i say finaical stability it means having extra money left over after the covered essential of every day life) These are all symbols which cycles back to your appearances. No matter what direction you go or what you think it always "IS" base on your looks and if its an evolution traits then you can't escape from it.

Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 7:06 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

To me, its probably that its a girl who you can be yourself around, and feel totally relaxed with (cant really imagine finding one who shares my love of asian movies/dramas).