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PostPosted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 6:23 am    Post subject: Impressing a Korean girl...   Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

Hi, I was just wondering what I could do to try and impress this girl that I'm interested in. Things I could say or do, or understand about the culture, as I am not entirely familiar with all it's aspects.

I don't want to learn stuff like how to say "Hey baby, wanna come over to my place." or something juvenile like that. I just want to know if there are things I could do to make my interest more apparent.

Background is that I met her in Japanese class. She's practically fluent in Japanese, but because she spends her time speaking Japanese and Korean, her English isn't too good, so I have a hard time communicating my thoughts/feelings to her. She has an idea, but I'm not sure if she understands it all completely.

Also, lately we used to hang out alot, but after winter break and the start of the new semester, she hasn't really talked to me much, and I'm not sure if I should try and do all the conversation initiating, or just give her space. (again...I'm not sure what I should do...or if there's a cultural aspect which I should know before to help influence my actions)

So yeah, any help would be great. よろしくお願いします。。。and...komapsumnida...? (is that right?)

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 6:41 am    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

Is she there on exchange or is she actually from California?

As far as "impressing" her, the only way you're going to do that is by being yourself.

Sure, you can put on an act, play prince charming... but, once she finds out it isn't the real you, the fairytale is over.

But, they way to a woman's heart isn't changed because of ethnic boundaries; women, people in general, want the same thing.

Anyhows, random blather aside, you need to be genuine. If you sound like a dork in telling her that you'd like to spend more time together, be that dork. If you're a smooth-talker, be a smooth-talker; don't deviate from who you are.

Don't over-do it by trying to become fluent in Japanese or Korean right way... that'll just weird a person out. Try to learn... and ask for help. Since you're both in Japanese class, and you say she's fluent, as her to help you with your studies.
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 12:12 pm    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

Tell her you are a Starcraft Gosu kekeke ^___^

If that doesn't work, just be yourself.
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 5:22 am    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

hikkichan wrote:
Is she there on exchange or is she actually from California?


She moved here 5 years ago. She said she doesn't plan on moving back to Korea, but does not want to become a citizen here either...which is another topic.

hikkichan wrote:

As far as "impressing" her, the only way you're going to do that is by being yourself.

Sure, you can put on an act, play prince charming... but, once she finds out it isn't the real you, the fairytale is over.

But, they way to a woman's heart isn't changed because of ethnic boundaries; women, people in general, want the same thing.

Anyhows, random blather aside, you need to be genuine. If you sound like a dork in telling her that you'd like to spend more time together, be that dork. If you're a smooth-talker, be a smooth-talker; don't deviate from who you are.

Don't over-do it by trying to become fluent in Japanese or Korean right way... that'll just weird a person out. Try to learn... and ask for help. Since you're both in Japanese class, and you say she's fluent, as her to help you with your studies.


I was not planning or trying to be anyone other than myself. I was more so looking for insight into Korean culture which would help me understand the recent increase in "distance" (so to speak) between us. Or things to avoid saying/doing so as to not offend her. Of course, I could probably be reading too much into it, and looking for signs that aren't there, but I won't know unless I find out, right?

And I do plan on becoming fluent in Japanese. Not for her, but for me. It is nice that she can help me, at least, was helping me.

I'm more so the dork that you were referring to. Not a smooth-talker in the even remotest sense of the word...words.

Anyways, thanks for the advice!
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 1:08 pm    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

I can't really offer too much culturally... just don't blow your nose at the table during a meal and respect seniority.

I used to date a model from Korea... She had only been in the US for schooling (about 3 years at the time)... and we never had any problems culturally.

Just never let pride get in the way of saying the words, "I'm sorry."

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PostPosted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 1:17 pm    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

Interesting.......used to have to same problem.
I blew by not doing anything.
From my experience I think you should go for it and talk to her.
Don't be like me, I only knew later from my younger sister that she was interested in me.
ONLY that I was too shy to ask her out.
bummer!!!
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 1:28 pm    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

Here's one. Don't tell her your nick at DA & say that you were asking for dating tips in an internet forum.

She'll think you've watched toooo much densha otoko and you want her to be your "hermes." Moe~~~!!! Mr. Green Mr. Green
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 4:35 pm    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

hikkichan wrote:
I can't really offer too much culturally... just don't blow your nose at the table during a meal and respect seniority.

I used to date a model from Korea... She had only been in the US for schooling (about 3 years at the time)... and we never had any problems culturally.

Just never let pride get in the way of saying the words, "I'm sorry."

Smile


haha...no worries on both of those...at least, definitely on the first one. the 2nd one, i'll do my best...I usually do...just sometimes I may get carried away...

and i may say "sorry" a little too much...i'm not sure...but yeah. Thanks!

PocketKiriyama wrote:

Interesting.......used to have to same problem.
I blew by not doing anything.
From my experience I think you should go for it and talk to her.
Don't be like me, I only knew later from my younger sister that she was interested in me.
ONLY that I was too shy to ask her out.
bummer!!!


Yeah, that's kinda how I am right now. Like, we've hung out and stuff, but that's been the extent of it. Brought her stuff when she was sick and little stuff, but haven't really been too outright about it. *shrug*

and yeah, definitely won't be telling her my sn on DA. that'd be really embarrassing...and most definitely Densha Otoko.

Thanks everyone!
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PostPosted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 1:48 am    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

I dated a Korean girl for about a year...I can only say that it was really a general feeling for each other that kept us together.

She did not care what I knew about Korea at all...which was interesting because both of us had this strange obsession with anime and Japanese.

Give it time and friendship at first...most people go with the idea of "you'll never date your best friend," but hasn't been the case of any of my relationships (and I can say, I have had very, very few of them - but they were sincere and heartfelt.)
Whatever the case, as long as she does not say consistently "I am too busy" or "We don't have that sort of time" in terms of going out together, you are doing something right.

At some point you will know whether or not she likes you. Before my ex started liking me, she had a hard time with touch and consistent communication physically (hugging, holding, etc)...when it began, she would call me randomly, ask me serious questions about herself, and hold on to me as if I were some sort of prize (which I don't know if I am or not, and am not going to describe for the sake of what is now in the past.)

At that point I took the initiative - I gave her a serious kiss, and before I knew it I was knees deep in love with her...as time went on it became stronger and more heartfelt, and I grew to love her far more than she ever loved me - which is why things didn't work out (in other words, she was still knees deep with me...and that was not comfortable for her).

Breaking up with her was very hard - we had so much in common, and that was painful in a manner that still haunts me 2 years later. If you aren't absolutely sure how you feel about her (as goes with ANY woman), don't go any farther than saying you are interested in her.

As for a reason why it's worth it...well let's just say that besides growing to love another person deeply as well as learning an insane amount about how foreign women are, you develop a strong feeling of confidence in yourself and your ability as a person to appeal to others (in general, I believe asian women tend to be more critical of men, since family upbringing and future dilemmas come up in their head a lot.) I now have a confidence I didn't have before, or with any other women I dated prior to her. It takes all of you to love someone, and you can't commit any of that until you know it is necessary to do so.

And yes, be yourself - but that does not mean anything without words to back it up. Tell her about yourself, and everything that makes you appealing to another person. Don't hide how you feel about things...I don't know any woman who only wants praise - you must not be afraid to confront her with your disagreements...regardless of race.

Altogether, be happy you met someone you liked that much - in this world we hate so many things, and it is a miracle everytime we are fond of something (in my opinion.)
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PostPosted: Mon Jun 01, 2009 3:11 am    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

korean girls are extremely hard to get, as far as i know...
cause they usually date white guys, fellow korean guys., or some latino guys
so if youre not one of them, its ganna be real tough...
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Pretend you are very rich and tell her you don't have to work because you are from a good family that is loaded.
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 03, 2009 7:15 am    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

|ZERO| wrote:
Pretend you are very rich and tell her you don't have to work because you are from a good family that is loaded.


lol, good one
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:04 am    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

Be yourself.
If being yourself is not enough to impress her then she's the one for you.

Do what your heart tells you to do.
If the fruits of your heart does not speak directly to her heart, then she's not the one for you.

Of course, be sensitive to the whole Korea-Japan politics and history. And you'll be fine.
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 11, 2009 5:48 pm    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

this guy has already long moved on lol... and i typed quite a big post to help him.. January 2008
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 14, 2009 7:16 am    Post subject: korean girl   Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

big right you there guy..years long ago..
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 19, 2009 6:09 am    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

Korean girls are no different from other girls. to attract girls you make yourself stand out and cool in front of others. To do that you have to get some game. Good looking doesn't hurt either.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 20, 2009 5:03 am    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

by getting some game, marvelous definitely is restating what kobe said, just said you're a SC gosu keke lol.
if you pay attention to i think it was beautiful days or beautiful life, one of the two, one of the scenes one of the main actress' is playing SC Tongue
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PostPosted: Wed Sep 09, 2009 6:39 am    Post subject:    Post Rating: 0 Reply with quote

tell her she's a hot noonah. HAHAHAHAH.. i know i know its risky, but I've gotten a date like that before.

oh, learn how to karaoke. bonus points for that.
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