Close workplace friend.... how to remedy the situation?

Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:36 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

^i thought of a better solution! hook him up with a hottieee xxxxzzdadad

Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:42 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Tue Dec 11, 2007 12:19 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

You can't not hurt him, murokeksi, that's the thing. I understand your situation. It's happened to me twice. Both times I never resolved it, because I moved away both times, so I was sort of relieved, and a little saddened at the same time cuz obviously I wanted to keep in contact but felt too uncomfortable to do so. And both times, yes I became a little mean to both of them. Come to think of it, I was really mean. But unlike you, I never felt like they were my brother. I'm not even close to my sister let alone my would-be-brother. I was really close to them and I could actually imagine being with them, if personality was all that counted. Unfortunately, I fall into that "looks kind of matter a little" category, so I didn't like them in that way. It doesn't seem like you'll be moving anytime soon, so in your case, I guess you could have a heart-to-heart talk in a coffee shop? Just try to be as casual as possible. He's already made a move on you, so now, I think you have a right to let him know how you feel about that. You just have to be very gentle with your words and add that you value your friendship. Either way, one of you is gonna get hurt -- either you lose him as a friend or you let this linger on, and you'll both suffer.

Posted: Tue Dec 11, 2007 2:32 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

^im in pain ackirom

Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 5:11 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

*gasps*What happened?? I need an update!

EDIT: OH wait a minute. Laugh

I thought you were murokeksi. pinch

I read your post, quickly answered, and didn't even bother looking at the username. My bad, I do that a lot Tongue

Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 7:25 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

probably shes still ignoring him, that sucks too bad for him

Posted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 2:42 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Hi murokeksi, Im facing this situation back then. I am like a bit 'shakenl by this girl (She sits behind me at work)... But I dun tink i did anything though to indicate anything that I might like her. However I think gals are more sensitive hence they are able to detect what is going on. I tink the best situation is to hint him gently that he is just not your type.... but make the rejection less painful as possible. I think when you are mean to him, it hurts him even more. Cos I understand how painful the guy would feel if he likes u a lot.... I mean its not his fault that he likes you cos feelings grow overtime when there is close interaction involved. Meanwhile just act normal while hinting. Maintain a mature yet ' you can send a clear msg' type of relationship. If i were the guy, I would just get the hint, act normally and hope time heals everything.

I noe its a old cliche but if a guy who reli likes you would want you to be happy in the first place. If he is persistent,, I tend to think that he is too selfish to just care about his own needs especially when u are adamant that its impossible between you 2.

Any comments?.

Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 2:23 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Thanks.