Close workplace friend.... how to remedy the situation?

I met this friend (gal) at this workplace whom I think I am are close friends with. We would talk about anything under the sun, our work problems, daily issues. She would just say ' I feel tired today' out of the blue and we would just sit down toking rubbish. However just recently she just became very 'strange', giving one word replies and we seldom tok like we used to before... (a bit like strangers :{ ....)

I admit I was shaken a bit by her just very recently. I have now got my feelings in check and I just treat her any other close friend now that I would care for. (In case u are wondering, I did not say anything and I dun tink my actions are out of the 'extraordinary'). I value her friendship much more than a boy/gal relationship. However I do not know what has caused the change in her (i can only speculate) and the bottomline is I just want my 'close pal' back.

Can I do a U-turn now? I would hate to lose a friend like that. Please advise, fellow d addicts....

Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 9:51 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Ask her out for a drink after work and talk to her what has been bothering you. Having a good face to face talk is the best solution.

Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 3:00 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Maybe something bad happened that has completely nothing to do with you. And what do you mean shaken by her? In what way?

Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 7:54 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Hi ackirom, 'shaken' in a sense like attracted to her for a while....I am not sure what has happened but its been a few days liao... now it just feels kind of strange... I think I should just treat everything as normal and act like I always do, meanwhile just continue observing

Hi Titicamara, u are his fan haha, I will keep observing the situation first before having a talk with her. I will keep u guys updated.

Thanks for the advice!!!

Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 8:49 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 5:49 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

hi all, everything is ok now. I just act normally as usual and perhaps she noticed that too and she opened up to me again. We are now good friends.... Any advice to prevent this from happenning in the future?

Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 7:17 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Well I don't really know what happened with you and your friend, but my situation is this:

I have a REALLY good boyFRIEND, but well it came to that that he started to like me and I really can't ever imagine to be with him, 'cause he's really just friend and I don't feel anything for him(poor guy).. well I have been now days a little bit rude to him 'cause I don't want that he starts to think anything.. I really want to be friends with him, but I can't say straigh to him that keep you head cold. And it was so afful when he started to like me!!!!! He changed a lot.. he tried to hold hands and he didn't joke as much as he used to... and he came more nervous and..!!!! Really I hate this situation.. And I can't help myself.. I just act more nastier now 'cause I don't know what to do.. I have been thinking to tell him

1. I'm gay LOL
2. Get someone to pretend to be my boyfriend
3. Tell him I like someone

But I don't like to lie.. and it's never good.. but IF I can save his feelings or get our friendship back I do anything.. well if girl though how I think now u just can't act like u like her in romantic way.. BUT I don't know if this is the case with u..

if someone could say what I should do with my friend I would be more than happy to get some advices.. I'm really tired of this situation Unsure

Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 2:44 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

^why dont you like him? is he that lame?

Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 9:25 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I like him, but not that way...I really feel he is like a brother to me.. It isin't that he's lame or so.. it's just that I don't feel anything more! I can't help my feelings... they just are what they are. Neutral

Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:05 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

^is he ugly??? childish?

Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:11 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

WTF?
I'm sorry but I don't think u understand me... He could be the most handsome, kind and intelligent person, but if I feel him like my brother I can't like him back.. Would u like someone who is like a sister to u? I don't think so..

Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:21 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

^so lets say it was kimura takuya or matsumoto jun, would you still feel like his a brother to you?

Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:25 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Yeah!! What u can't understand?

Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:31 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

yes i cant please explain further....

Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:32 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0