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guccijana Joined: 20 Feb 2006 Total posts: 334 Location: USA, Germany, Gender: Female |
 Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 12:44 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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hmm.. 3 days passed, not that long of a time-- what do you mean "i might not be able to someone i love that much" you wouldn't be able to forgive him?? I agree with you on that one-- how can i forgive him--I just cant!!! thx for your advice...
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nstbgirlJoined: 25 Oct 2007 Total posts: 15 Location: brazil Age: 22 Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 12:50 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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| sorry the last part probably doesn't make sense. i was just saying if it was me i couldn't let go of someone i loved so much you know what i mean
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nstbgirlJoined: 25 Oct 2007 Total posts: 15 Location: brazil Age: 22 Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 12:51 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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| you really misunderstood the last part is kind of funny because you thought i sayd the opposite
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guccijanaJoined: 20 Feb 2006 Total posts: 334 Location: USA, Germany, Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 1:01 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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| KAAdonkaDUNK wrote: | | Wow that doesn't seem like much of love to me. If someone did love you i dont think they would let you fight battles alone and i know he seems to be in a bad position because he's in between the one he's in love with and his family, but if his family goes that far something should be said. Even though he tells you he loves you just never forget ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. and to me it seems like his actions are barely whispering right now. |
Oh i see hehehe-- I'm sorry i misunderstood,I tend to do that a lot, I thank you for your advice but I agree with this person--actions speak louder than words--and he never really showed anything with action that he loves me, it was only words-- you know the "i love you so much" cr*p that guys pull... Ugh--im soo mad, I have to work with him, thats the sad part...
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nstbgirlJoined: 25 Oct 2007 Total posts: 15 Location: brazil Age: 22 Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 1:03 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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| well i know what you mean. sometimes its easier to be mad at someone then to firgive and forget but in the end the forgive and forget part might turn out better . i mean its not like he cheated on you where you couldn't forgive him. you know what i mean
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Amber111Joined: 01 Jan 2007 Total posts: 55 Location: Canada Age: 19 Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 1:09 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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| You did the right thing breaking up with him, I wouldn't want someone who says he loves me but can't stand up for me. And I can't believe he just stood there listening to his brother and his girlfriend bash at you, if he cared he would have at least told them to stop. And especially after giving him a second chance he can't even redeem himself. Plus if he can't even stand up to his own brother, just think in the future if you get into some kind of trouble, what will he do then? Just stand by and watch like a bystander? Breaking up with him was a good idea, because it shows that you mean business, if you kept giving him chances he'd probably won't take you seriously.
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nstbgirlJoined: 25 Oct 2007 Total posts: 15 Location: brazil Age: 22 Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 1:16 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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| i'm telling you i would give him another chance because i know my parents went through the same thing when they were young. and my mom barely gave him a second chance, but he reedemed himself and everything worked out. the problem with my dad was that he was just a good person who would never hurt anything or anyone he was too good for his own good anybody could use him but he shaped up and they have been happily married for 23 years.
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guccijanaJoined: 20 Feb 2006 Total posts: 334 Location: USA, Germany, Gender: Female |
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nstbgirlJoined: 25 Oct 2007 Total posts: 15 Location: brazil Age: 22 Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 1:23 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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| if it can work out w=for my parents it can work out for anybody u know what i mean
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nstbgirlJoined: 25 Oct 2007 Total posts: 15 Location: brazil Age: 22 Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 1:29 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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i guess you got your mind pretty much made up i don't know how to help you any more.
i think everybody deserves another chance, and plus i know my parents and it worked out for them so why shouldn't it work out for you.
well good luck post so we all know what you will do
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HaPpYfAcEJoined: 05 Jan 2006 Total posts: 49 Location: MN, USA Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 2:24 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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| the way i see it... there's no point in another shot... It's better that u two broke up... I mean ...think about it... do u really want to date someone who's family has no respect for u and doesn't even treat u with common decently...u're boyfriend's brother doesn't seem to have any respect for ur boyfriend or for u... cause if he does even if he doesn't like u he would just quietly told ur boyfriend and let him make the decision himself and respect that decision... not have a blow out fight like the one u describe... and i can understand maybe why ur boyfriend didn't stand up for u in that fight... he probably thought it was stupid and childish to yell at his brother and his brother's girlfriend and didn't want to belittle himself... having said that I still think that even if he didn't want to belittle himself since it has already gotten to that point.. he should have said something on ur behalf... that would have been the boyfriend thing to do, especially if he loves u as much as he claimed to... and he should tell his brother to respect and treat u in a humanly fashion even if his brother doesn't like u because u are the girlfriend... I hope that make sense to u...love shouldn't have to be that complicated... that's just what I think...
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guccijanaJoined: 20 Feb 2006 Total posts: 334 Location: USA, Germany, Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 2:41 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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| Amber111 wrote: | You did the right thing breaking up with him, I wouldn't want someone who says he loves me but can't stand up for me. And I can't believe he just stood there listening to his brother and his girlfriend bash at you, if he cared he would have at least told them to stop.
****** I know, you would think-- that a normal human being that cares about someone, would stop and tell the other people to stop--but no- He didnt 
And especially after giving him a second chance he can't even redeem himself.
******Exactly-- I gave him a change to, and he didn't prove himself once again...
Plus if he can't even stand up to his own brother, just think in the future if you get into some kind of trouble, what will he do then? Just stand by and watch like a bystander?
****** I know,
Breaking up with him was a good idea, because it shows that you mean business, if you kept giving him chances he'd probably won't take you seriously. |
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popo_chan_xoJoined: 26 Jan 2007 Total posts: 42 Gender: Unknown |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 3:04 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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give him a week to think
then if he cant stand up for you and him and say sorry
you have to go
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nstbgirlJoined: 25 Oct 2007 Total posts: 15 Location: brazil Age: 22 Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 3:44 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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I think you did the wrong thing.think it over you still love him and he loves you he just didn't show it that time give him another chance I bet you I you do this you will be thanking me in a week or so.
I hope you change your mind everyone deserves another chance
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guccijanaJoined: 20 Feb 2006 Total posts: 334 Location: USA, Germany, Gender: Female |
| Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 7:28 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0 |
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| HaPpYfAcE wrote: | | the way i see it... there's no point in another shot... It's better that u two broke up... I mean ...think about it... do u really want to date someone who's family has no respect for u and doesn't even treat u with common decently...u're boyfriend's brother doesn't seem to have any respect for ur boyfriend or for u... cause if he does even if he doesn't like u he would just quietly told ur boyfriend and let him make the decision himself and respect that decision... not have a blow out fight like the one u describe... and i can understand maybe why ur boyfriend didn't stand up for u in that fight... he probably thought it was stupid and childish to yell at his brother and his brother's girlfriend and didn't want to belittle himself... having said that I still think that even if he didn't want to belittle himself since it has already gotten to that point.. he should have said something on ur behalf... that would have been the boyfriend thing to do, especially if he loves u as much as he claimed to... and he should tell his brother to respect and treat u in a humanly fashion even if his brother doesn't like u because u are the girlfriend... I hope that make sense to u...love shouldn't have to be that complicated... that's just what I think... |
thx for everyones advice-- I did break it off, his dad called me and said it wasnt nice that me and his brohers gf fought- he also pointed out whatever i said to her--and not one thing she said about me-- My mom herd it and said "than your beloved son can find himself a girl friend that isnt like that" basically, when i told him what his dad said he said "you misunderstood bc ur mad" instead of saying "what did he say" --AND there lays my decision--ITS OVER AND IM OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THAT"-- THE THING IS he keeps calling me, and ill see him at work tomorrow (were photographers) he's born a whimp and will die one too--and frankly I hate whimps!!!
p.s. I dont know how I will deal working with him!!
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