How many ppl here live a depressing life?

Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 1:07 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

im depressed becoz im 24, never had a boifren. i repeat NEVER. and all(maybe most) of my friends are getting married or having babies. but me, im single and currently hate my career. im worse than ANEGO. i think i need therapy, but my friend said, think about other people who live a worse life than us, then maybe i should think about how im gonna spend my money to pay someone just to make him/her told me what to do to be happy.okay, so now its about money. yes, im broke. im always broke and never gets the chance to make savings. can u believe it? i cant even help out my parents.that's another depressing point. even thinking about getting help is even depressing.

Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 10:03 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

. . . i need to have direction.

Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 10:24 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I never had a depressing life really, but I used to be depressed a lot. Actually, I used to like being depressed. It made me feel like there was nowhere to go but up. It actually made me feel safe to think that if I'm that low, then anything else that could hurt me probably just won't hurt that much because it can't get any worse than what it was. I was the type of person who never showed his true feelings, and if I was angry at someone I tried not to show it (altho you can read me like a book, emotionally). I was everybody's friend. I laughed in social situations and tried my hardest to be accepted by everyone. And I was. But nobody really knew me. And I didn't trust anybody.

I started to feel stuck, like I was going nowhere. And I realized that I was basically trading comfort in solitude with progression. One year I decided to change things. I started to see that I was worth something, and even if I didn't think I was good enough to be a part of anything, I began to believe in myself. I started setting goals for myself I never would have done before.

However, for me it came at a price. I'm far more selfish than I ever was. Before, I would do anything for anybody because I wanted to be accepted. Now I do stuff for me first, then others. If somebody offers something, I'll gladly accept. But I don't offer anything like I used to. These days I've sort of balanced things out, but I'm nowhere near the giving person I used to be. Still, I'm actually proud of who I am, I respect myself and others, and I'm still working hard towards my goals despite the fact that I'm basically "behind everybody" as I turn 29. To be honest, I think everybody goes at a different pace and I don't regret most things I've done. I kinda wish I finished college when I was younger, but during the time I was working full time, I had some great times.

I don't have any real advice for people who are depressed, whether they're doing it to themselves or it's completely out of their hands. I was one of the former types. You just gotta figure things out for yourself. Depend on yourself. But don't forget others. Try to realize your potential and if not, watch some dramas and make yourself happy or sad. When I was in my depressed stage, I used to loooove to watch sad things. It made me feel better. I still watch them, but I look for other things now rather than simply dwell on the negative.

I really don't think it's wrong to dwell on the negative. You're still just discovering yourself. Whether you're old or young, short or tall, white, black, yellow, purple, whatever. What matters is you, and how you see yourself is up to you, not others.

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 8:20 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I don't think it is good to think and compare yourself with other people/your friends, like they are 25 and have a bf/gf, so you should have one also, or that you should be married and have kids by then and then, etc, etc..

What if other people get divorced when they are 50, do you also want/get one?

I would say, just do what you like, whether it be alone or together.

Though, talking to other people is very important. Ofcourse preferable to really nice and unselfish people, that you can trust, but since that is a rare specie, at least where I live, anybody should do.

Thoughts kept in one's head tend to grow very quick and big. But once shared with someone, they seems to become "normal". Also 2 people really know more than one person, I must reluctantly admit.

Posted: Mon Oct 01, 2007 10:05 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I think everyone has depressive moments in his life. and people who have more time than others or at least take this free time for themselves are getting depressive easilier than others I guess.
Because you have too much time to think about topics.

For me..there was a period of time this year when I was depressed as hell so I tried to become happy at least on the Internet.

Posted: Mon Oct 01, 2007 11:02 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

not sure if i'll be much of a help here..
one thing i've learnt in my life..is
being grateful of whatever you have right now and you will much better...
every one has their own problem...but of course you can't see it from outside
god only give you what you can handle..soon you'll find out that these obstacles are meant to make you stronger and become a better person
in every stage of your life..there are different challenges..so always be grateful, bcs that means that you've passed the test and moved on to the new level
i hope you feel better....it's normal to be feeling down..after all we're just human....just don't forget to get back up again..
Big Smile

TOO BLESSED TO BE STRESSED

Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 8:41 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Well, if i'm smart enough to invent my legal happypill, then i'd gladly hand some to you. Still, living a depressed life sounds tiresome.

Posted: Mon Dec 31, 2007 12:40 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I don't know if one could say I lead a depressing live. Actually my life runs its course. I even usually get what I want. One way or the other... but...

I can't be really happy about it. The problem is outer life and inner life I guess. At a nice round we were to describe each other (my friends and I) and they decided that I'm the self-confident cool chick. Doing things right, looking pretty, never stressing to much. The actual truth is that I get daily eaten by my self consiousness. I do things because they have to get done. I'm being nice to alot of people... because thats what you do. I need people to like me but if they do I can never trust them that they won't abandon me one day. That they will betray me one day. There is a saying. That people can't love you unless you love yourself. But I think thats a lot of crap. You need someone else to show you that your loveable to believe it yourself.

Not being able to be myself and to be self conscious to the point of hating myself sometimes can be really tiring. Thats a bit depressing I think