"I want a korean boyfriend"

Posted: Mon Sep 04, 2006 9:24 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

My sister have a korean boyfriend.
She once asked, if he was going to marry the girl his parents arranged.
He actually said yes.
Korean tradition tells that they have to be filial and obey their parents.
Apparently my sister was angry for a bit but she just thought it over and said that she'll spend as much time as she can with him.
Of course they been dating for over 2 years without the knowledge of his parents.

In my opinion, Koreans are such a hassle to be with........well most of them.

Posted: Mon Sep 04, 2006 9:38 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

actually i think it's not really like that anymore

arranged marriages are uncommon these days
you really have to meet someone from a really really conservative family...

at least thats what all my korean friends tell me (i'm not living there)

it is true though, that decisions made by elder people, especially your parents are unquestionable
it may also happen that parents won't allow to marry a non-korean, i heard many people are still conservative on that one

i am half-korean, i hope a have a chance :/

Posted: Wed Sep 06, 2006 8:24 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Hahaha i sooo rekon there shud be a korean kdrama on this...a korean guy dating a non-korean girl .....and all the stuff that happens with the family...will definitely be interesting and then all the non-korean girls around the world who want a Korean BF will definitely be able to relate to this!

Posted: Wed Sep 06, 2006 8:26 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

yeah that be a great idea!
while they are at it cast me as the brother
hahahahaha

Posted: Wed Sep 06, 2006 9:01 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

dont mess up ur mind....
korean drama is good.... doesnt mean the guys/gals are good.
there are bad or good people in this world, regardless their nationality, race, religious, etc etc etc...
cheers...

Posted: Wed Sep 06, 2006 5:04 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

you're right rainfall
but we all are a little messed with our addiction to dramas anyway

Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 2:05 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

i fell off my chair reading the tittle of this thread. you guys are so funny.

hmm, i'm guessing there's quite alot of girls on this forum vs the guy ratio Smile

.... that's strange.

Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 2:16 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

there are lots of korean guys here where i study and i think i can relate to this topic...

i had and am having a crush on a korean guy but he is totally... like... having this "non-korean chick" barrier thingy around him once. then to our surprise, he got a chinese gf but he wasn't serious so... i guess he really has this thing.

he treats me nice and all but... oh well.

*sigh*

Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 2:29 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Korean funny love story Pucca!

Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 2:37 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

i didn't wanna say this, but this thread annoy the hell out of me. so i'm gonna say it anyways and i'm gonna be very straight, so it might offend alot of people.

have u ever think the reason is.... let say alot simpler than the "family tradtion problem"? have u ever thought maybe, just maybe you wasn't good enough? speaking from a guy perpsective, if a guy think u're worthy to pursue or that he really really like u. u gonna have to put about 20 families in front of him to make him stop going after u. this may sound hash but it's the truth. i think people are just blaming on something else to save their selfesteem. Myself i'm not great or good, i would even say underaverage, but atleast i see things through and through, making up excuse for your fault isn't gonna fix anything, get up and fix your own problem, it's not gonna go away by itself.

PS: i have a feeling i'm gonna get flame so bad for this haha.

Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 2:54 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I'm white and I have a Korean boyfriend here in Korea. He already introduced me to his parents, they like me and he is now formally dating me with their approval. He has mentioned marriage already but I didn't want to listen. (it's only been a month! Suprise

)

Before I started to date him, I talked about this issue with quite a number of other guys (I came close to dating quite a few other Korean guys.) When I asked them if their families would allow him to marry me, only very few said no (mostly those whose parents come from really small villages), most said that their parents definitely wouldn't be happy, but that in such cases, the children nearly always won in the end. They told me if they really wanted to marry me, they would.

So it isn't hopeless. Things might be a little different though because most of you seem to have been dating Korean-American guys, whereas my honey is all Korean, born and raised. It's strange to think that Westernised Korean families are more conservative now than their counterparts in Korea.

Acceptance of interracial families seem to be on the increase thanks to idols such as Daniel Henney or Nicholas Cage (who married a gorgeous Korean woman.)

To all you people who say Koreans stick to their own kind only, I'm not really sure where you got this from. Korean-American women marry white American males in great numbers. Blink

I also happen to know a Korean-American guy from NYC who is married (and has a daughter) with a beautiful African-American woman. He might be an exception, but what I'm saying is, having a Korean boyfriend isn't as hopeless as some of you make it out to be, from my experience.

Edit :I got the following info from my Lonely Planet Korea:
Due to Korean families traditionally wanting a male heir, it is estimated that by 2010 there will 128 Korean men in their prime marriageable age for every 100 Korean women in their prime.
Due to this, about 5% of all marriages in Korea now involve foreigners. About 10,000 Korean men marry Chinese, Filippino, Japanese or Russian women annually, whereas another few thousand Korean women marry primarily Japanese and American men every year.

5% is a big number, and it's only going to increase as Korea's bride shortage problem remains. Add to that to the fact that the one-child policy has made way for a massacre of the female unborn in neighbouring China (meaning, as soon as more Chinese families get wealthy enough, they will have to save the few women they have for Chinese men) and I'd say it won't take very long until quite a few families have to open their doors to foreign women if they don't want their sons to end up single.

It is true that, traditionally, Koreans don't want to mix their blood with foreigners - during the many, many, MANY invasions of foreign forces into Korea (Chinese, Mongols, Japanese, pirates, you name it), what was important to the Koreans was not to mix with these foreign forces in order to keep their sense of national identity as Koreans and nothing BUT Koreans.

Most Koreans have a book of their ancestors and place a lot of stress on bloodline - however, as I've said before, due to the problems of modern Korea, the Westernization of Korea and the increasing romanticism among young Koreans (they watch dramas, too. They like to believe that love conquers all, as is portrayed in their dramas), I really, really don't think that marrying a Korean man is impossible for a non-Korean woman.

Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 9:24 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

i agree with Néa Vanille my Korean friend's brother married a spanish girl and most Koreans are open to inter-racial marriages.

Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 3:24 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Some interesting statistics about korean and interracial marriage...

54.2% of Koreans Positive About Interracial Marriages
http://times.hankooki.com/lpage/200604/kt2006041217452253460.htm

More than half of Koreans are willing to get married to foreigners, showing a change in perception toward international marriages, according to a survey.

The survey came as Korean-American football hero Hines Ward drew public attention to biracial people during his stay in Korea.

Bien-Aller, a Seoul-based matchmaking company, conducted the survey looking at 580 single women and men about interracial marriages via the Internet on April 3-10.

In the survey, 54.2 percent of men replied that they are positive about having foreign spouses, while 52.9 percent of women said that they would marry foreigners.

Those respondents who were in favor of interracial marriages pointed out that non-Korean spouses would enrich their lives and were expected to be more committed to their spouses _ the biggest benefit of all.

However, the findings show that Korean women have a preference for white men over other races, with 62.1 percent choosing a preference for natives of the U.S. or European countries.

Meanwhile, 73.4 percent of Korean men answered that they prefer Asian spouses who have something in common in terms of race and culture.

According to the survey, 21.6 percent of men answered that they would hesitate in marrying a non-Korean women due to differences in ways of thinking.

Meanwhile, 21.9 percent of women said that they would be reluctant to marry a foreigner because they don't want to have mixed-blood children.

``It is true that the perception toward interracial marriages is becoming positive, compared to the past, especially as Ward is emerging as a national icon for Koreans,'' Choi Seul-ki, official of the matchmaking company, told The Korea Times.

``But there are still prejudices when it comes to races Korean men and women choose as their partners in international marriages. Koreans are slowly changing to embrace other races in terms of marriage,'' she said.

Another survey released by the Corea Image Communication Institute in January also showed the Koreans' perceptional change toward international marriage.

The survey of 1,470 women and men aged 18-68, indicated that 61 percent of Koreans answered that they would allow their children to have a foreign spouse, while 37.4 percent said they would not.

The survey indicates that Koreans' attitudes towards interracial marriage is moving into a transition stage, but only in terms of accepting a child's choice of partner.

Recently, an increasing number of Koreans are marrying foreigners and becoming more open-minded about who their potential partners could be, rather than sticking to the notion of a one-race nation.

Koreans married about 25,000 foreigners in 2004 alone, especially Korean men living in rural areas who have difficulty finding Korean spouses.

According to the Ministry of Justice, the number of foreigners living with Korean spouses here jumped 35.5 percent to 60,214 in February last year from 44,416 in December 2003.

The figure was up from 57,069 at the end of 2004.

By nationality, most of them were from other Asian countries. Chinese, including Korean Chinese, accounted for the majority of foreign spouses with 35,928, followed by Japanese, 7,609, Vietnamese, 4,145, Filipinos, 3,876, Thais, 1,347 and Mongolians, 1,024.

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