Gaijin (Foreign) Romances

Last edited by albertoavena on Tue Sep 27, 2005 9:11 am; edited 1 time in total

I know this is kind of a weird topic but, as the topic says, are foreign romances looked down upon or not good? I'm moving to Japan in a few years and would like to get married one day but, are there any problems undergoing this?

Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 9:10 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

I've been accepted without any problems by the japanese family of my wife. They are very patient even when you make the usual foreigner's mistakes. But I heard some case where it was a little cold at first.

Don't use the term "gaijin" with japaneses, it's a very unpolite word and it makes most of them very unconfortable when it's used in front of them. Like saying " hahahaha! you're a racist country" (wich they are not at all, just that there is a bit of racism like everywhere, but there it's against white people, something we are not used too so we react ).

You already planning to marry a japanese girl before meeting her? Blink

You have time to fall for a swedish and move to Stockholm before you know it! Laugh

Maybe you will experience the "human dictionnary " thing before you find a Girlfriend in Japan.

Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 9:29 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Hmm... My lady's family was uncomfortable with the idea until they met me. It was like "If we don't like him, we're going back in a month". Dad went back after 2 years to take care of things at home, and mom's a resident alien these days....

Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 9:37 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 1:42 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

albertoavena: you're moving to Japan? I hope to do that too, but I want to know the criteria that I have to meet in order to do that. Can you give me some information about it? btw i love your sig, densha otoko Big Smile

I don't think they would mind a foreigner, they've got a pretty weird culture, they accept a lot of different culture, but somehow maintain their own uniqueness and customs

Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 8:35 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

since this is specific to jp, i'm moving to Jp Entertainment.

good luck in getting your jp girlfriend! Big Smile

Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 8:53 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

hope she will be entertaining ! Laugh

Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 4:54 pm Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Thanks everyone!! I appreciate all you support. Thanks for moving my topic too. I was wondering where it was..

Yes, I hope she's entertaining, I guess...I should study Japanese alot more so there's no language difficullties. Big Smile

I can't wait to move!

Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 1:55 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

hey thanks man... wow, lots of info... got a few years to decide (graduating high school this year)

Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 9:31 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 10:26 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Not to put a damper on things but it really depends on your situation. I dated a few girls before meeting my wife and each of their parents reacted differently to me. Some were extremely accepting and others were severely disappointed in their daughter's choosing to date a gaijin. My wife's parents are not that thrilled about me but I think the bottom line for them is their daughter's happiness. As long as she is happy with me then they tolerate me.

Like I said, it just depends. There is some very traditional "old-school" thinking in Japan, especially in the rural areas. And then there are those who are more open and progressive in their thinking. It's like everything else. You can't generalize. Same with the word gaijin. Some people find it a touchy and others don't think anything of it. I opt for it at work instead of using gaikokujin because I couldn't care less (and because it is shorter Tongue

) . My co-workers know that about me and it doesn't matter to them because I am not bothered by it.

Bottom line, you'll just have to come to Japan and experience it for yourself. There is no black and white answer for you. Having said that, I wish the best of luck to you and anyone else planning on coming to Japan.

Posted: Fri Sep 30, 2005 2:38 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

about finding a job... how would you go about doing that?

Question for Japanese residents - Is it true that if you are a foreigner some bars, clubs and restaurants will not allow you in because you are a foreigner? I thought I heard that once.

As for finding a job - I would recommend becoming an english teacher or tutor. I heard alot of english speaking people go to Japan to teach proper english. I also heard it pays well.

Posted: Fri Sep 30, 2005 3:41 am Post subject: Post Rating: 0

Posted: Fri Sep 30, 2005 4:15 am Post subject: That makes me mad Post Rating: 0

LOL - Could you possibly image what would happen to me in the united states if I put up a sign at my business that said, "NO JAPANESE". The ACLU, Civil Rights Union, NAACP and just about every lawyer in the country would have a field day with me and rightfully so.